My husband hasn`t submit my immigration papers plus he stuck me with CPS to get child custody,please help?

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My abusive husband and me are now seperated,but he come to take our 3 year old son[ who has speech delay ,which he reported CPS that it`s b/c of me as he blames me for being crazy] and he don`t even ask about our 8 months old daughter and also not concerned about his third child in my uterus,instead he blames that this is not his child.

I got 3 counsellors reports including psychotherapist report that I have no psychotic problem as my husband is saying plus 4 years ago he took me to the psychiatrist without my will ,and that evaluation also says the same except that time I was in a mild depression.Now via cps he again pressurize me for psychological evaluation,I went to a psychologist this time he evaluated me clinically and says you don`t have any problem but he advice me not to go through the written test as it is based on the native american and due to cultural difference if any variation come,my husband can use it against me in divorce case.Please advice how to satisfy CPS??

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Answer 1

well you know, there is a new law any abuse lady will get her doc's just by proving that she has been abused by her husband,  should contact an attorney!!About CPS, been there, but if you got nothing to hide  you should not worry.

Answer 2

Honey, My advice----

Nbr one.  Get a lawyer. ASAP.  If you cannot afford it (if you are of low income) there is legal aid.    DO NOT WORRY ABOUT CPS.  Just focus on being HONEST to them.  If he is abusive... there are ways to prove that. If he took your kids and did not return them to you--this is abduction.  If he does not have legal custody, that is.  You probably need more than ONE attorney.  I also advise you get another copy of the immigration papers.  If you are on visa-you will need to start again I am sure.  Courts CAN force him to return the paperwork.  If he is abusive, work on getting a restraining order--BAM--CPS will probably wake up and get their heads involved in getting your kids back. Anything done against your will by your husband is abuse.  I hope to God you are OUT of there. If you are not, GET OUT ASAP. Go to a womens shelter--go somewhere where he cannot find you.  Get  a lawyer to help you get your son back.  Whatever you do--hold on to all those reports from counselors etc that states your child's needs.  He is obviously disabled.  And this is my turf definetly as I was born deaf-blind due to my Mom getting sick with the German Measles while she was pregnant.  I too had speech delays. I had delays in EVERYTHING.   So I understand.    I also agree with the psychologist--there could be some cultural issues with your beliefs and the American culture.    Sighs. I hate cases like this.  Its not your fault either.  You also might want to go to another psychiatrist--tell him EVERYTHING, how you were forced to get evalauated against your will in an attempt to show you were psychologically unfit blah blah.  This psychiatrist can be your ally in the courts.  Also, these days, the child has a right to an attorney as well. Your daughter is just a tiny baby.  By law, most babies are automatically given to the mother unless she is in prison or a drug addict.  So I cannot stress it enough.  Get a lawyer.  Like I said you probably need two lawyers--or even three--one to handle the divorce mess, another problem with getting the child back, plus the issue of your immigration papers--we sure don't want to see you get deported in the middle of all of this.  One final word.  If your husband is an American, you are already an American Citizen by marriage.  If not, looks like you need to talk to them at INS or whatever agency handles all the immigration paperwork.  

Be strong. Don't let that jerk intimidate you.  Stick with the people that are supportive of you.  I would not worry too much about CPS unless he is the con artist type.  Just worry about YOU and getting all your documentation together.  I strongly suspect your husband is just threatening you with the CPS as a way to intimidate you. Dont let him.  Just ignore it. Instead, its time to get the law involved.  He has no right to take those little kids who need their mother.  You see, abusers do it because its all about CONTROL.  They are afraid of losing CONTROL.  They are that insecure.

I DO understand.  I am a former victim of domestic violence.  Current husband occassionally gets violent--but has improved oh gosh a good 85 percent.  Mind you this is very very rare.  Most abusers do not stop--ever.  Hang in there.  The only way to satisfy CPS--is simply to be entirely honest.  if you have any physical signs of his abuse--show the workers!  CPS is very, very overwhelmed, backlogged, and they often do not want to take a child away from a mother is trying to leave an abusive relationship.

Good luck, and remember, don't let him intimidate you, and GET A LAWYER.  Legal Aid is listed in the blue pages (govt pages) of your phone book. If you have some income that is too much to qualify--Legal Aid will advise you of who CAN assist you.