My husband is 13 years older than me and makes me feel old ?

Question

my husband is 42 and i'm 29, and he constantly makes jokes about me turning thirty. he makes me feel like he wants a younger woman than me even. i get told i look about 22/23 and i'm a bellydancer and get told a lot i'm very beautiful. whats the deal? i guess i dont have a sense of humor, but this stuff gets old after a while.

Answer 1

well tell him hes 42 and should search younger girls for being friends to  daughter... and tell him frankly it hurts you... he'll turn 45 or 50 soon...

Answer 2

My hubby also gets annoying, calling me old woman (he's 8 yrs older). I just tell him it pisses me off. And I tell him who's to blame for that (getting me pregnant)? Thirdly I say u know I'm not mad about my looks, so get off my back.  

Answer 3

Your husband has an agenda. His being funny is not really cute and does not serve anyone. Sounds like you have a life and he doesn't.

Time to get straight with the 'ol gizzer.

Answer 4

he's just doing it to bust ur hump kinda it's more of you're only going to be 30 and he's going to be 43 my hubby did that to me when i turned 21 like wow your already going to be 21 stuff like that and he turned 25 a few months later so i started on him saying wow you're going to be a quarter of a century and yea im going to be 22 and he hasnt said anything yet my mom does it to my sister also because she's going to be 29 next month  

Answer 5

It means nothing, hes playing with you. I did that to my wife as well. I still do. As soon as she turns 36 I can trade her in for 2 18 year olds. Its all in fun, don't get your **** in a ringer over it. And quit getting bent out of shape about the 30 thing, your thirties will be the h**l out of your 20s thats a for sure thing. Older wiser and much more experience. Live On

Answer 6

i think he is just kidding around.. if it make you that mad tell him that its upsetting you and he needs to stop..

Answer 7

i think he does this to manipulate you and keep you in check.

i'm guessing you're not his first wife. and he married you young, it flattered his ego, but he's afraid of losing you so he's trying to make YOU feel unworthy, undesirable.

did he think you were never going to get older? we all do! and his love should not depend on your youth or appearance.

you probably have a fine sense of humor - it's just that his remarks are not funny!

i'm sure you are beautiful and believe that you get beautiful with time.

Answer 8

My hubby is 11 years older than me and gave me the same grief lol. He was just trying to be funny, but the reality is, i am the funniest in this relationship so i was able to hit back. Just tell him how old he is and that he could only ever dream of getting someone better or younger than you. Find your humour and find it fast!!

Answer 9

Relax...He is trying to be coy and play with you...You are probably having the issues about turning 30 or you wouldn't be so sensitive....

Answer 10

Talk to him about it. About how it hurts you and how he makes you feel unloved. Maybe he has some problems or insecurities and he is just taking it out on you, which is unfair of him.