My husband is 25 yrs old and he now has a baby by a 17yr old girl. ?

Question

I have also cheated, but i didn't come up pregnant, dealing with a baby that i'll have to see all the times is going to be rough. What do you think i should do. weve both made dumb mistakes and i do want to stay

Answer 1

Nice. where are you located? how is he getting away with having s*x with a minor? i would leave him with the quickness. let him deal with this horrible mistake. also get checked for std's obviously he was cheating on you and not using protection, who knows who else hes been with

Answer 2

If you want to stay, you'll have to live with his mistake. Learn to love the child. She's half yours now.

Answer 3

Well, you've both cheated.  In addition, you are still young, so I can imagine you've only been married for a few years.  I'd suggest counseling if you want it to work.   Although, I might just end it if I were you.  You both cheated, that indicates something going on in the relationship.  Do you both love, honor and care for each other?  Doesn't sound like it.

Answer 4

isn't that illegal, because she is underage.  I don't think that this marriage is going to work, i mean, if he got her pregnant, what other children do you think he might have???  So I think that the relationship will not go anywhere.

Answer 5

Why would you want to stay with a cheater?  Why would you cheat?  When you cheat you overtly make the statement that you want to be somewhere else.  Perhaps you should reassess your desire to stay in this marriage.  These are not "dumb mistakes" , another life has been created and a 17 year old girls life has been damaged by your husband who was only caring about himself.  

Answer 6

yeah, well it's going to be hard to be with him if the girls parents decide to put him in jail.. and if you want to be with him why jump in bed with someone else?

Answer 7

If you want to stay, invite her to move in with the two of you and have some great 3somes after you put the kid to bed.

Answer 8

If you stay you will be making your second dumb mistake.

Answer 9

He gave her a baby, maybe next time, he'll give you AIDS, or a STD.

Answer 10

that's messed up.

cheating typically ends up messy.

that's what ya'll get!!!!

oops my bad!

edit: by the way.  neither of you two should be married.  you probably still aren't ready.  especially if you're cheating.  i'm sorry but where are your values???

Answer 11

I think you're both stupid and deserve each other. Stay together, don't go with other people and f*ck up their lives too.

You sound so stupid because it sounds like your justifying your cheating by saying that at least you didn't come up pregnant. Therefore his cheating is somehow worse because he got a girl pregnant. News Flash: CHEATING IS STILL F*CKED UP, EVEN IF YOU DIDN'T GET PREGNANT.

Answer 12

it sounds like you are not comfortable with him having another child WHILE you two are married.  If you are both cheating on each other, why are you married???

Answer 13

It's called statutory rape.  She's only 17!!!!, and not legal.  Get his butt locked up and divorce him for all he's worth.

Answer 14

I guess you need to learn to be a good stepmom since you are staying.

Answer 15

I just answered the other question you posted where you left out the part about you cheating.

Thus, my altered answer is this:

You both deserve each other and stay or not, its up to you. But this will be your life from here on out... you cheat then he cheats... back and forth! What kind of way is that to live?

Go your separate ways, grow up a little and find someone you each want to be loyal to!

Answer 16

same question different wording

it doesnt sound like you have a very strong relationship if you are both cheating does it?

you obviously are excusing his behaviour now by saying you have done the same

I think you both need to talk about where this relationship is going-if theres no trust how can the relationship last?

Answer 17

I really don't care about you or your husband. I'm worried about a kid who is having your husband's kid. You guys ruined her life. Even though children are blessings, they shouldn't happen that way. I can't even imagine being in her shoes right now.  

Answer 18

No No No  Better to walk away....but if you must stay..goodluck

Answer 19

I think if you stay you are leading him to believe its ok to cheat and have children. But if you love him that much I am sure you can work it out.

Answer 20

That's terrible. You are in a MARRIAGE. You should be able to trust each other, and be faithful to each other.

Plus, that statatory rape, which is ILLEGAL, so you need to be careful if you don't want him to go to prison. It doesn't matter if it was consentual or not.

Basically, if you want to stay, help raise the baby. You are a stepparent...I think. ?:(

Answer 21

I hate to take the focus off you, but all I can think about this poor innocent child that was born into this mess! They don't asked to be born but expect that right choices are made for them while they are growing up.  I believe you being in this child's life is not in the best interest of the child.  If you resent the baby now, you always will.  You both were wrong and if there wasn't a baby involved maybe i could see working things out.  But with a baby I would walk away and wish him and his baby the best.