My husband is a rollercoaster, how do I cope?

Question

My husband is worse than a woman with serious pms problems.

Two nights ago, he told me to stop thinking like a guy and locked me out of the bedroom for wanting s*x from him...

Today, he gave me money, took me out to lunch and is taking me to disneyland and blue bayou this weekend..

Why the mood swings? I understand why woman mood swing..but why do men pms?

Any insight please... This man is gonna give me an ulcer from the rollercoaster stress he has me under!!

Answer 1

Bipolar disorder...look it up...if it matches him...then you are in for a long and difficult marraige if it is not treated properly.

Answer 2

Everyone always has to throw Bi-polar or ADD into everything. Maybe he's just an a**hole, plain and simple with a bad case of male PMS and a low s*x drive. Or maybe he's hiding something and buttering you up to smooth over the guilt. You're going to have to figure out if you can live with those things or if dealing with his constant mood swings are intolerable. I know I wouldn't let anyone kick me out of my own bedroom.

Answer 3

Sounds like Bipolar, but could be any number of disorders as spelled out in the Psychiatric Bible...the DSM IV.

This is serious, and you are in for more roller coaster. I wouldn't rule out drugs either as part of the problem. Men don't get PMS, but we can be struck with personality disorders at any age...so can women.

You did not create his issues and are not responsible, and you cannot fix him. He does need to get into counseling where he can safely open up and talk about his mood swings. The therapist can order tests done to find out what's going on.

I pasted a couple of websites with basic information on a couple of personality disorders. Remember, only you can work on you, and only he can work on himself!

Hope things work out for you...

Wally

Answer 4

Is he Bipolar?  Or maybe he has guilt because he's cheating or he knows he did you wrong.

Answer 5

1. Could be that he is depressed for whatever reason. That usually makes me roller coaster.

2. Men can get SRH, Sperm Reduction Headaches. Heard about it in a mag years ago, don't know how true it is, but it's like the male version of PMS.  

Answer 6

Sounds like he is immature and has mental health problems.  Take him to a psychiatrist.  

Answer 7

I would suspect a few scenarios.

1. Your husband is bipolar.  Have him diagnosed for it and get meds.

2.  Your husband has mutiple personality disorder.  This is not likely.

3.  He could be cheating on you.  Two nights ago he had a fing and getting naked will only "expose" himself.  Today, he is feeling guilty and is trying to make up.  A few other signs of cheating

  a.   A sudden change in cologn habits.

  b.   A sudden urge to get back into shape.

  c.   Telephone calls where he says, "can i call you back, I cant talk right now"

  d.   Unexplained purchases in "gift stores" on credit cards that you didn't receive.

  e.   Any hotel charges within two hours of your home.

  f.    Business trips.  If you ask him questions, he seems irritated and then gets mad because he doen't want to talk about work.

4.  You have double standards or have gotten really unattractive over the years.  My wife turned me down so much that I gave up hope.  If not for the kids, I would have left her.  After she got excited and promised me great head or something then, I got excited- So excited, I got hard enough to cut diamonds. But when she did not go through with it because she suddenly got tired, I got pissed off.  This happened for 5 years.  I  just gave up hope and didnt care about her.  If she wants some nookie, she has to make the effort.    I can only take rejection so many times without exhibitiing bipolar behavior myself.  In the end, I do think that 12 years of  marriage has led me to depression.  It's amazing how some women can just suck the life out of a man.  Maybe I should have gotten some extra curricular.  Perhaps I would have more enthusiasm for life.

Answer 8

I know that you being a woman that you expect s*x on demand if you are in the mood. But from a guys point of view we get turned down a LOT and we shrug it off, maybe you should too.

So he was in a bad mood and two days later hes in a good mood? That hardly qualifies him as a physcho

Answer 9

He took lessons from you.  Turn about is fair play right?

Answer 10

He could just be very stressed out about stuff. Or he could have some mental issues and needs help. It's not that normal for guys to always have mood swings like that.

Try and sit down and talk to him in the right environment when he is calm and open to talking.  

Answer 11

Did he get paid?  Some times guys think that they have to "provide" for a woman to be a good husband/man!  SO if money was low two nights ago he might have felt like he wasn't providing for you.  

Now it sounds like he has a little extra cash and is feeling good?

As for turning down s*x I will NEVER understand that! ! ! !  I could be dead tired and physically beat and still get it up for a quickie with the wife! ! Of course she might need to play cowgirl and get on top and do more of the work though! ! !