My husband is against me taking antidepresiva again!!!?

Question

I have suffered from depression from age 14, started taking antidepressiva at age 23 and finally started to live, for 9 years I took antidepresiva and was doing fine, then I decided to stop taking them because I was thinking about becoming pregnant, for 1 year I was coping, but now I am going through a very hard time and don´t think I can cope without antidepresiva..I am having marriage problems,financial problemsetc... and becoming suicidal again....my husband says he´ll divorce me if I decide to take medication again WTF???? I think I am entitled to this medication and wonder if he is against the medication because when I take them I don´t like s*x.

I am seeing a doctor on Monday and will explain all this..what is your opinion??? I have tried therapy many times in life, but they never worked and this antidepresiva does wonders for me...

PS My husband has changed radically lately, smoking again after 15 YEARS!!!,gambling , going out more than ever (see other questions)

what should I do???

Answer 1

He sounds like he is on anti anxitity med with the gambeling. As for you . I would tell him to F off. It is your body and if you need it to cope then go to the Dr. Dont tell him if he is going to trreat you bad over it. No need to feel guilty. As for your marriage it probably wont last too much longer. It sounds unhealthy and thats not good for your child. Do whats best for the child ALWAYS.

Answer 2

Medication alone will not help your depression. You should see a psychotherapists in addition to your meds.Take your medication if it helps you. My wife suffers from depression and I would rather see her active than worrying will I have s*x.

Answer 3

Your health and well being is more important than a husband who doesn't want the best for you. If your doctor puts you back on antidepressants, then take them. Tell the doc in the past they've caused your s*x drive to disappear and see if there's anything to deal with that side effect.

Have your husband go to the doctor with you, if he will, so he can hear the doctor's advice and can share his (your husband) feelings about why he doesn't want you on antidepressants.

Bottom line though, do what is best for your health. If your husband leaves you, because you want to feel better and live, then he's not a good match for you anyway.

Take care!

Answer 4

ask him this. do u love me, or do you want me to commit suicide. go to the doctor quickly because you are a wonderful person and dont deserve to die.

Answer 5

do what you need to do to stay healthy mentally and emotionally, regardless of what your husband things or says.  he sounds like he's moved on emotionally from the marriage.  maybe he doesn't want you to get well?  if your sick he feels justified in doing what he's doing and blaming you for it.  if you get well, he has no justification and he just looks like a jerk.

stay strong.

Answer 6

You should continue to take the antidepressants.  Your doctor can even put you on safe antidepressants to be taken while trying to conceive and while pregnant.  If you are depressed while pregnant it can affect your child.  You need to explain to your husband you must take your medicine or your health declines.  He shouldn't have any problem with it, and you shouldn't have to fight with him about it either.  That is ridiculous.  You should tell him that what you take is none of his concern.

Answer 7

You NEED to look after your mental health, primarily.

Any husband who puts his own selfish needs before his own wifes health is just a loser, sorry, look after yourself first and foremost.

Don't jeapordize your wellbeing over this fool. Leave him and concentrate on getting back on the path to good health, focus on yourself. He'd rather you suffer depression than ignore his sexual needs? WOW WHAT A MORON, please get rid of him.

Answer 8

talk to your dr - sometimes when you quit a medication, and then start taking it again, it no longer works

there are other thing available now that help with depression that you can take while pregnant

take care of yourself first - then decide if you husband is worth the headaches -

Answer 9

The issue is should you die or risk death each day because your husband want's you too?  Obviously, the answer is no.  You know the meds work.  You are starting to feel suicidal.  People who commit suicide are people who feel suicidal and either receive no treatment or insufficient treatment.  So, take the medicine and either don't tell your husband, or, tell him to  f off.

Answer 10

Take the medicaion and if he leaves thats on him.