My husband is coming home from deployment, what can I do to make the transition easier?

Question

I am so excited for my husband to be home, I want everything to be PERFECT for him when he gets back, this was our first deployment and i guess I dont really know what to expect as far as if things will be different when he comes home. I know there will be an adjustment period, but what can I do to make sure his return home is as perfect as he deserves??

Answer 1

Girls always want to talk about stuff that guys do not want to talk about.  

Answer 2

Leave your knickers in the draw.

Answer 3

You're worried about him adjusting to being home?  I don't think he's going to have a problem.  You should not wear any clothes for a few days....that's what I think.

Answer 4

just be there for him no matter what.  realx and things will be ok.  enjoy the time together!!!!!

Answer 5

Go to the first site and start networking with the other wives there.

You didn't say where and what kind of deployment, (combat, non combat) but the second site is one that EVERYBODY needs to read. It deals with PTSD.

Answer 6

Take things slow, it is a hit when you return to the civilian world and a lot of families want to make up for lost time and it can be overwhelming.  I'm single with no children but when I came back I just needed a few days to rest, I live in the Midwest so it was 8 hour difference between Iraq and home, so I was really tired because my body hadn't adjusted back.  I also wasn't really hungry for some reason.  Keep it simple at first, give him time to reconnect with you, let him set the pace, trust me, just seeing you will make his home coming perfect.  Plan his favorite meal and maybe pop in a movie you both like.  Just give him time to talk if he wants and spend time getting used to being around each other again.  Maybe plan a day trip some wheres fun, something that can be set up easily and on short notice in case he does decided he want to go out and do something.   It will take a few weeks for him to get back on schedule but most soldiers adjust without a lot of problems.  Have fun with you hubby when he get back.

Answer 7

Just be there for him.

He may not want to talk about all his experiences, don't push him. When my husband got home, he had the worst time sleeping. He woke up at every noise and looked out the window, he tossed he turned he was so jumpy, it was kinda weired and sorta scared me. As he was home for a few, it got better.

He may not want to be around a ton of people, even though everyone wants to see him. We stayed away from crowds for a few. The first few weeks are sorta strange, at least they were for me. He seemed uncomfortable, and it did not matter where we were, he just looked uncomfortable. He got back to normal pretty soon, everything worked out fine, just take it slow, it all comes back in time.

My husband is due home in February from his second tour overseas, so I get to do this again too.

Answer 8

It depends if his deployment involved combat or not. But basically keep things as normal as possible. Don't act like he's different just because he's been away for a while. Be supportive and caring, but don't coddle him. Don't immediately question things that seem abnormal, give it some time to see if he's just adjusting.

And as pointed out previously, take advantage of the support system the military has in place. It can be a big help.

Answer 9

Try not to smother him, give him his space when he needs it. And if he doesn't want to talk about his experiences don't push him. He'll need a lot of time to relax and regroup. So don't make too many extravagant plans for him. When I got back I just wanted to hang out at home, sleep, eat real food, and stuff like that. It took me awhile to get back to a normal sleeping pattern too, after being gone for so long. So if he's up at weird hours don't worry.