My husband is currently deployed?

Question

He is going through alot with this deployent he is so angry all the time I try to be as sweet as I can but like him I get frusterated and i dont have many friends and am not close with my family so he is really all i got to talk to but instead of tellin him my frusterations i take them out on him which i know is wrong i dont mean to just when he is angry and says something wrong i just instantly get angry and react usually the wrong way in turn makin him more mad. Its like a lose lose haha this **** is just so hard as it is i dont wanna fight with him i miss him alot and i just want him home. i just dont feel like he really appreciates what i do do for him and that bugs mehe doesnt feel the need to be sweet back its like we im and he is a grouch but his letters are soo sweet just wish it was the same when we talk. Any ideas as to what i could try?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Talk to him and tell him how you feel. I just returned from Iraq and instead of having a real talk with me about what she was feeling, she sought out the guy next door. Her "friend" was there to talk to when she was feeling lonely. I don't know why she didn't talk to other married people about her feelings. She chose single people and the guy next door. Have open communication before you do something that will betray him. Being in the military and married to a person in the military is hard and I don't believe people outside of that world understand. Good luck and hopefully yours doesn't turn out like mine. If you ever need to talk just send me an email.

Answer 3

You are just going to have to be patient . Try to understand you are not in the situation he is in right now. You cant relate to him on this level. And to get angry and argue does not resolve anything. Just take the bad things he says with a grain of salt and try not to focus on them. Remember this too shall pass. He needs to know when he does get to come home that he wont have to fight another war with you.