My husband is going to iraq in jan 2009 ?

Question

but he wants me to get pregnant before he leave but im not sure i want to because he will be gone during the time im pregnant...but if i do become pregnant how long before will he get to come before my due date and how long is he able to stay with me and my newborn after the birth before he has to return back to iraq?

Answer 1

I believe that they allow furlough for the birth and several weeks after .and if i were you i would get pregnant like he wanted because it would give him something that he could look forward to when he got threw the h**l he is about to be dumped into.Not to say that your not enough for him to be looking forward to but if it was me i would go ahead and get pregnant.God bless you and your husband and thank him for me for what he is doing for me and my country best of luck and lots of love to you both.

Answer 2

maybe he thinks he want have as much of a worry other men hitting on you while he is gone if you are big and preganant!?

Answer 3

Ok I am an Army wife and I am pregnant with our 2nd child.  My husband left for Iraq when I was pregnant with our 1st and I had to deliver my son with my husband on the phone, they did not allow him to come home.  My husband got to meet our son when he cam home on leave when our son was already a month old and then he didn't get to see him again until he was 9 months.  I say wait until he comes home on leave to try for a baby because then you know he will be home for the birth.  It is REALLY hard to try and handle it all by yourself.  I am now pregnant with our 2nd child and I got pregnant when my hubby came home on leave.  He has returned to Iraq but will make it home for the birth.  The reason we are having another one is because my hubby wanted to experience the birthing process with me, he was super bummed when he missed our 1st.  

You NEVER know with the military, they told us he would be able to be here for the birth and it didn't work out that way.  No matter what you decide I really do wish you the best of luck, it is very hard to be a Military spouse.  It takes a special woman to be able to fully support her soldier.  Take Care!!

Answer 4

i would wait till he has returned to have the baby.

I don't want to think up horror stories for you. but if he didn't return then you'd be left alone with the baby.

or if he returns mentally unfit (Combat stress reaction/Post traumatic stress disorder) then he might not be fit to raise a baby.

he could also return physically harmed which would complicate things with the baby too.

some pregnancies don't go very well and you could be put on bed rest and you'll need someone to take care of you.

i think it is an important situation to experience together. He should want to be there to help and see it with you, not be absent.

he might be worried that you'll leave him, and that a baby would be a good way to make you stay with him, too. fear of death makes you do irrational things, and that should not be the reason you have the baby.

Answer 5

Give him a baby.  

Answer 6

its hard girl...

I am a army wife my self girl..

if I was u. I would tell him can we wait tell u get to come home for his two week leave and we can try then. So by that time u would still be pregnant, nd he can be around for part of the pregancy and he well be there for when the baby comes..

Answer 7

I think he will be able to come  home I know a lady now that is pregnant and her hubby is over there.  I think she told me he got to come home for a month but not really sure...    Sorry but why would you or him want him to miss the first part of your babies life.  Are you afraid he is going to die and he wants to leave a trace I don't get it....

Answer 8

Don't get pregnant before he leaves, there is no guarantee that he will get to come home for the birth.  As a matter of fact, I've never heard of a soldier getting to leave a deployment for the birth of their child, if the child was due so long into the deployment.  I'm not saying it hasn't happened, just that I've never heard of it, or met anyone that was able to do that.  If you were already pregnant and due sometime in Jan. or Feb., he may have been able to get his deployment time pushed back, but even that isn't always going to happen.  Tell him you guys will wait, and that's that.  He doesn't need to worry about a pregnant wife, and you don't need the stress.

Answer 9

My son deployed in June.  During the pre-deployment briefing, many pregnant wives asked questions ... especially those who were expecting to deliver in August.

According to the information I gleaned from this briefing, two weeks prior to deployment, soldiers must submit three dates they would prefer for their environmental leave.  This is their two week R & R.  That's ALL they get -- two weeks.  Beside each date requested, the soldier must explain why this date is important, such as expected due  date of child.  All requests are honored based on importance.

So, if you became pregnant before your husband deploys, you can expect him to be gone for 12 months.  Your husband can request environmental leave around your due date to be home with you during the birth of your child.  His leave is only two weeks.  It was my understanding that if you have complications during your pregnancy, you can contact the Red Cross and they will try to get your husband home, but that will affect his environmental leave.

But, just like everything in the military, this information is subject to change at any time.

Do what is best for your own family, and don't get pregnant just to make your husband happy during deployment.  This is a big decision, a lifelong decision, and one best made when you can enjoy the experience together.

Best wishes.