My husband is in a wedding. We already gave gifts at the bridal shower. Should we bring a gift to the wedding?

Question

We spent about $200 on gifts given at bridal shower. And my husband has spent $150 on a tux. I think this is enough but I don't want to be looked down on.

Answer 1

Of course you do, and it should be something special since he is a groomsman.

You overdid it at the shower - a $50 gift was more than appropriate there.

Answer 2

It's traditional to give a gift at both the shower and the reception (sucks, right?). But you should never feel obligated to give a gift, especially a big or expensive one. A small memento (perhaps a lovely silver picture frame or a cute kitchen gadget) with a heartfelt note of good wishes would be perfectly appropriate.

Answer 3

Yes you should still give a gift, it doesn't have to be anything huge or expensive but you should give something

Answer 4

it makes  you look better but thats ur choice

jaspreet

Answer 5

Weddings are expensive, and it's always customary to give gifts at the shower and the wedding itself.  Give them a card and maybe a gift card to a restaurant or a local store.  Doesn't have to be much, but i think something is always good.  I would feel badly if i didn't get them anything at all at the wedding.  You can even get them a small frame for pretty cheap (but nice quality) in some dept. stores.

Answer 6

no gas too high for that S**t

Answer 7

Uh yea, that what weddings are all about. Give them cash, its easier.

Answer 8

I agree...it's enough.  However, I think you should have spent less on the bridal shower pressent and then given a wedding gift.

Bridal shower and wedding gifts are typically different kinds of things....like the bridal gift is something that would be for her and the wedding gift would be somthing for the house/the couple.

Answer 9

absolutely not .. people who stand up in the wedding are not or should not be obligated to give anything .. i mean, you are doing the bride and groom a favor .. dont you worry about being looked down upon !

Answer 10

yes , i think you should bring ,because it is the most improtant day of you .

Answer 11

No way. I usually spend $75-$100 total on a gift for the wedding. I often don't go to showers because I'm tired of people having 3 or 4 parties before the wedding AND expecting another gift at the wedding. s***w that. You've already gone above and beyond. Just take a card.

Answer 12

It is common practice to give a gift - see the knot article. However, you know your own financial situation, and I'm sure your friends appreciate all you've done for them, and won't look down on you if you decide not to give a wedding gift.

Answer 13

No. You have done enough.  This is not a gift exchange for every single function. They are entitled to one gift for your attendance.

Answer 14

It seems like being in a wedding these days is almost as expensive as putting on the wedding.  I suggest you bring a nice card with maybe a little cash in it, and that he also give the bride a little cash if they have the dance where people pay the bride or groom to dance with them.  That way, it will look like you've covered all the bases!

Answer 15

dude...$200 is too much for a bridal shower gift...shower gifts dont need to be that expensive...but I think perhaps check wtih the other groomsmen..if they are giving wedding gifts, he should too.

Answer 16

by strict etiquette, you should bring a gift. it doesn't have to be fancy. I was in a wedding this past year and let me tell you, it wasn't cheap! so I totally feel your pain! but, try to fill out some of the cheaper things on their registry. you can't be criticized if you do.

Answer 17

You don't have to give a gift, Just give them a nice card congratulating them, cards are super special. I got married last year and didn't expect a gift from any of my brides maids or men it was nice that they were able to be in my wedding.

Answer 18

I wouldn't, but if you are feeling guilty about not bringing something, You could always get a gift card to the movies or something like that, that's not too costly....Good luck!

Answer 19

Just buy something cheap enough. It's the gesture that counts.

Answer 20

you know i was wondering this same question the other day

Answer 21

You usually have to present a gift, even though you have spent outrageous amounts of money!

Answer 22

Yes, you give gifts at both.

Answer 23

i think it would be polite, something small, and not too expensive.  Like maybe a 50 dallar gift card, or even just a nice card, im sure they'd appreciate it

Answer 24

wow...200 at the bridal shower is a lot.....but yes, you should get another gift, just folo the registry (if they have one) and get something cheap.

Answer 25

usually you do.

whether you spend money on a gift, or put cash in a card, you usually do give them a wedding gift.  

Answer 26

it would be nice but its your choice if you dont want to thats okay.

from someone who cares

Answer 27

Technically you give a small gift at the Bridal Shower and a larger gift at the wedding. Often the Bridal Shower is supposed to be outfits for the bride to wear at night, or cooking items.

Maybe get something small, or even get flowers of a gift basket sent to there honeymoon sweet.