My husband is thinking about having children and im not so sure if im ready?

Question

So my husband was thinking about having kids and he asked me if i was ready and i told him that i would get back to him...im not so sure if im ready but i dont want to make any mistakes so what should i do? Think about it more? What? Please help!

Much appreciated =]

Answer 1

The only mistake would be having a child before you're sure that you're ready. There is nothing, I repeat, NOTHING wrong with wanting to wait a little while. It's best to bring a child into the world when you're 100% sure that it's what you want. Good luck.

Answer 2

finally someone that  i can relate to... im going through the exact same situation... i feel bad because hes my hussband and not a boyfriend or fling... I have the most perfect husband and all he wants is a baby> im not ready... i feel bad. BUT i went on birth controll whether he liked it or not because a baby will always be more mines than his...

Answer 3

well it HAS to be YOUR choice.... tell him that plz

Answer 4

Definitely wait until the time is right for BOTH of you!  It's great that your husband is so enthusiastic about having a baby, but don't get pushed into it.

Answer 5

I certainly agree that bringing a child into the world before you are ready is not a good idea.  However, from personal experience having a child is a massive massive decision that is going to have major impacts on your life and it is something that you have never done before so it can be very daunting.  For that reason you are likely to always have apprehension and may never be able to say I am 100% ready.  My husband and I spend tens of thousands of dollars on IVF to have our son and most definitely wanted him yet when I found out I was finally pregnant I thought "Oh gosh am I really ready"  the apprehension stayed until after he was born but I think it was just mostly fear of change.  I clearly was ready but I wasn't 100% convinced of that.  Consider what it is that makes you unsure if you are ready?  That is probably where your answer is.  If your concerns about being ready relate to things which are not likely to change over the next couple of years then you may be ready. When you are ready it is the greatest thing int the world.

Answer 6

While it is good to wait until your really ready.  Best to make that decision early in life.  The older you get the harder it is to conceive.  And IVF is darn expensive.  You didn't list your age?

Answer 7

tell him u aint ready