My husband is upsetting my friends by saying women shouldn't vote and I don't know what to do?

Question

I had some ladies over for lunch today and at the table my husband was telling me how women's suffrage messed up the country and then later they told me they didn't like him at all and they didn't want to come over if he was around and I don't know what to do now b/c I really enjoy being with my friends. What should I do??

Answer 1

Tell him to quit acting like a little beotch.

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Answer 2

Tell him you and your friends didn't appreciate the comments made. Your husband has no right to say that. He's not a woman, so he wouldn't know what it's like to not be able to vote or work or anything like that!!!! Definitely tell him before he might say something that will cause a big fight!!

Answer 3

If you still love him, then make him understand that that's just plain ignorance.  Do some research online and prove that ment s***w up just as much (if not more XP).  And if he doesn't care, just make sure next time you go over to your friend's house instead.  -_-  That's just the way some people are.  *sigh*

Answer 4

The first question you should ask yourself is why did you marry a man that has no respect for women? if he really feels that way about women you have a more serious problem on your hands than your friends not liking him. second of all you are a woman (and so is his mother) which means he doesn't respect you and/or your opinions, views and existence. if those ladies want to be in your company they will invite you to their homes are you all can find somewhere else to spend time together. we all need friends but family comes first. good luck in your decision.

Answer 5

tell ur husband to get over himself, and not feel so insecure that women are in more power than men are now...he shouldnt be so afraid. He needs to grow up!

Answer 6

Tell your hubby to keep his 1950s mentality behind closed doors.

Answer 7

Why did you marry this guy? He sounds like a disrespectful jerk. If your going to stay with him your just going to have to plan time to be with your freinds without your husband around. You probably wont want to talk about him to them either, which sucks, but they didnt choose to marry a guy who is acting like a thick skulled red neck loser so why should they have to deal with his idiotic life and remarks.

Answer 8

Although I don't agree with your husband's views, your friends sound silly and hypersensitive. If I was invited to a buddy's home and his wife or g/f bashed the male gender, I would not refuse to go there again. Sounds like they need to get a thicker skin and stop taking his comments so personally. It's only one man's opinion.

Answer 9

What ? Hey whats wrong with him speaking his mind in his home ? The thing is he is correct in his statement woman drove the paycheck down because manufactures only get half the performance out of woman not all but most and are forced to hire woman not by choice so to make up for the difference wages have to go down that,s no secret . Not very good friends if they cant come to see you because your husband doesn,t agree with them . Looks as though he did you a favor

Answer 10

well, honestly I couldn't be with anybody that ignorant..but that isn't my place to judge. He is responsible for his own views , as are you. The ladies need to respect that he's your husband. You need to not make yourself accountable for his opinions (no matter how f'd up they are...sorry). And just separate the two. It's more fun to have girl time without the men around anyway.

I assume that you are okay with his views...but if you aren't , I'd also add to be your own person and don't get yourself into an oppressive relationship (or stay in one rather).

Answer 11

your husband is a fool; im sorry you got tricked into spending the rest of your life with him. Tell him how prejudice he is being and that he cant be such a bigot aroung you nor your friends.

Answer 12

You need to meet your friends somewhere else and admit to them at all times that you agree he is a jerk...only one that you happen to love and you love him unconditionally. That does not mean you agree with him on this matter. YOU WILL HAVE TO SPEND TIME AWAY FROM HOME AND you can tell your hubby why in advance that he has made your home too uncomfortable for you to have friends over. Per-chance that was his intentions to begin with? Think about that.

Answer 13

       the thing comes down to what do you think! - not your friends god know - they come go -  it comes down too it on that cold night when you think it may well be your last on this earth - which ones will be there by your side  - but as far as your friends not wanting to be around your husband probably a good idea hookup out side the house and just have fun --men have a way of growing up in time....  good luck...         miktill

Answer 14

Go over to their houses. Some people are real pigs when it comes to some issues. If this bothers your friends, respect that and hang out with your friends with your friends rather then with your husband.

If he has a problem with that, just tell him that when he joins the 20th century, you'll be open to discussion about it.

Answer 15

Sounds like he's the only one of you two with any sense. Dump your gossiping bitty-body friends. He's right, they shouldn't vote, or drive either, give him my thumbs up there, sweety.

Answer 16

What about YOUR feelings of women's suffrege? Did you let them be known or did you just sit there and let him rant? Be a woman in the year of 2008 and let your feelings be known to your husband.

About your friends, if you agree with him then give your stance on it to them and if they don't want to hang out with you either anymore they weren't really your friends, but if you don't agree with him stand up to him.

Answer 17

He sounds like an arrogant fool.

Not just because of what he said, but most people would be socially intelligent enough to realize that it is rude to express your opinions on people you when you know it will offend them.

You should tell him that he needs to be more socially aware.

Answer 18

Has he always had these views?? I would then lock him up and gag him when my friends came over. Just kidding. Well you need to either chat to him and ask him to stop this behavior in front of your friends or meet in a coffee shop or at someone else's house.  

Answer 19

Laugh and tell them he's the poster child for women's tolerance.

Tell them to get a sense of humor...or a sense of gratitude that they aren't married to him

Have the lunch over at one of their houses. And don't invite your husband.

Answer 20

Get a new husband! As a woman I wouldn't put up with being married to a man who has such a low opinion of women.

I would tell your husband what your friends said and that you are embarrassed and ashamed of the way he treated your guest. Since he doesn't know how to treat women with respect, then the next time your friends come over, you want him to leave the room or the house. I still think it would be easier to get a new husband.

Then I would remind your husband that all the presidents that have been running this country have been men. If this country is so messed up then don't blame the women.

Answer 21

It sounds like you need to discuss this with your husband.  Was your husband kidding just to get a rise out of the girls on the "girls day".  If he's like mine that's what he was doing.  I hope he didn't mean it because it shows not only a lack of respect for women but most importantly you his WIFE.  I think an apology is in order and if they are really your friends they will forgive your husband because they love you and your friendship.  It sounds like we have the same type of husband so if you need to talk email me and we will share our embarrassing husband stories.  Stay strong, and god bless!

Answer 22

what year is he living in, for I have worked for a female that was about 2 years younger than I am, and she ran the company well, for I guess he think that woman has no place in the workforce, anyway doesn't he know that female are in public office, and records show that not only do the men get hit with more scandals but they do a good job while in office

Answer 23

maybe talk to im not to act like an idiot?

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Answer 24

Bamma say buy husband golf clubs. Bamma say why man want to hang around your friends. Bamma say he probably eyeballing things. Bamma say he no serious. Bamma say this his way of talking to strange ladies. Bamma say bet you had great s*x that night. Bamma say husband need to mow lawn. Bamma say mind own business. Bamma say hand him the remote. Bamma say you never see him again. Bamma hope he help you. Bamma say so.

Answer 25

You are the one that opted to marry the chauvinist swine so you should be the one, to house break him , tell him that it is your house and your friends and he should treat them with respect if for no other reason than for your sake, However I don't think anything a woman says to that will will soak in . You may have to convince him that it is not good for him to have s*x with such a lower form of life, perhaps he will upgrade you and women in general to something worthy of reproduction .  Good Luck

Answer 26

It depends if he is serious or not. I say stuff like that sometimes, because I like ruffling some feathers! If he is joking tell your friends to lighten up or hangout with them elsewhere. If he is serious, tell him to keep his personal opinions to himself, since not everyone agrees. Rule of thumb is not to talk politics when guests are over.

Haha! Exactly my point, look at everyone getting all worked up about it! Maybe he just likes getting a rise outta folks.

Answer 27

Challenge him in front of your friends to describe the ways in which it has messed up the country and ask for evidence.  He won't have any.  But just to rub it in anticipate what he might say, research it and throw the actual answer back in his face.  If he doesn't want to be called out, he'll stick his neck back in.

Answer 28

Did any of you have the courage to speak up to your husband at the moment he chose to display his extreme ignorance and sexism?  He was trying to exert his male dominance over all of you and it sounds like he succeeded.  They waited until he was gone and then secretly told you how unhappy they are with his attitude.  And you are wondering what to do.  Tell your husband that he behaved like a jack*** and he owes an apology to you and your friends.  

If you stay silent and side with your husband, you will be showing him that you agree with his opinion that women are not independent human beings but exist only as possessions of their husbands.  

Answer 29

Get rid of the jerk.  This is 2008, not 1908 and I believe that women have proved over and over again that we are just as capable, if not more so, of voting than men are.  What makes him think that men are so competent to vote or to run for office than women are?  Consider Bill Clinton's actions while in the White House.  Look at Gary Hart.  Or any other men who abuse their power and take advantage of women.  Women may also take advantage of men, but it's not nearly as common.  Name me one who has been accused and/or convicted of doing so.  So tell your he-man to crawl back into his cave and keep his opinions to himself.

Answer 30

Does he actually believe this, or was he just winding them up for fun? It seems a very strange opinion to hold, and not supported by the facts. is he not very intelligent, or maybe not well educated? I am a history teacher with three degrees including an MA from Oxford, and I can tell you, he's wrong.  

Answer 31

Your husband sounds like an immature jackass.

Tell him to get his act together and stop showing disrespect to you and your guests or he's going to leave next.