My husband just moved out today, not sure how to feel about it?

Question

Is this a normal reaction even though I still love him? Is it possible that I really don't love him as much as I think I do? He did play a lot of mind and controlling games with me.

Answer 1

What is your heart & head telling you? Go out tonite & celebrate then,see what they are telling you tomorrow.

Answer 2

It probably hasn't sunk in yet. There is no way that you're supposed to feel. Everyone deals with this sort of thing differently. I know in my case, I felt a tremendous sense of relief. Take your time.

Answer 3

at first u may feel relieved, but give it some time u will begin to miss him eventually.it is normal when things have not gone well to at first be void of any feelings.

Answer 4

You can love someone and still know what's good for you.  Maybe you just know that this is the best thing for you right now and it's no worries.  Feeling otherwise is h**l, trust me.  So just thank The Lord that you don't feel anyway.  

When my husband moved out because of his cheating and verbal abuse, I coudn't sleep for months because I just couldn't believe all the things I've been through with him.  I was in so much pain.

Be glad that you feel no way.

I hope he becomes a better person and the two of you can come together again.  After all, there is one marriage until one of you dies.  

Answer 5

you are probably thinking that it's a better thing to do, and are upset because he did love him and he was a part of your life. everything happens for a reason and just have faith that there are better things out there for you

Answer 6

Sometimes distance and time will give you a clearer perspective.  You may find that you realize you have been unhappy for some time.  Odds are, he will learn a thing or two as time passes as well.

If you have ALREADY realized some things you did not like about him..odds are..you will see some more in days to come.  Especially if you find someone who treats you human. :)  good luck.

Answer 7

Your reaction is normal. You'll question every detail if you let your mind obsess. Distract yourself with something else.

Answer 8

maybe your just tired of dealing with him and relieved to know you wont have to anymore!

Answer 9

give it time, it will pass. you'll feel better after a while. you don't need a controlling, mind game playing freak in your life. feel relieved!

Answer 10

Sounds like he manipulated you into thinking you needed him so badly.

However, it was probably the other way around.

When you split up from a spouse or long term lover, it's normal to be nostalgic about it.

And you'll go through your periods thinking whether or not to try to work it out again.

Give yourself at least 6 months without him.

Then see how you feel about the relationship, about him, and about yourself.

You'll probably find that you're a lot stronger than what he, or you for that matter, ever gave yourself credit for.