My husband keeps having dreams...?

Question

My husband continues to ask me whats wrong, or is there anything on my mind. There is nothing on my mind other than feeling exhausted because we have 3 month old, and I have to do everything around the house it seems like. That and my s*x drive is no where near where it was before having a kid. But he says he keeps having these dreams that he walks in on me with someone else, and then I leave with that person. What is this suppose to mean? I have never cheated on anybody, nor would I even think about. How am I supposed to respond to this?

Answer 1

he is paranoid because of reduced s*x.. your attention is towards kid.. becomes a major change.. he is going to have to realize that you have a new responsibility.. his attention takes the back burner..

Answer 2

Jesus, did you marry a paranoid one!

Tell him that if he keeps asking you these questions and puts stock in his dreams then you'll accomadate him by making his dreams come true.

Man....leave her alone...she's dealing with a kid for Chrissakes.

Answer 3

That you are still exhausted from working with the house and baby is what is bothering you and you need to let him know that. It is natural to not be in the groove after having a baby. You have alot of new things that take up a large portion of you life.

His dream is just that, A DREAM> He needs to get over it, you didn't do anything. Maybe he should spend more time with you and make you feel special, you could use that after becoming a mom.

Answer 4

It sounds like he's insecure right now about your relationship. I also have a baby (4 months) and though you don't feel the s*x drive right away- I recommend making a point of it to have s*x at least 3 times a week. This will keep you guys close and will help him feel desired. The more you have s*x the more you'll want it. Just assure him that you love him and spark the passion up again.  Good luck!

Answer 5

Maybe HE is feeling guilty about something...

Anyhow, you're not responsible for his dreams so don't fret about it.

Answer 6

Its hard to maintain a healthy marriage when you have a newborn.  Your husband's dreams are probably indicative that he is feeling a little neglected.  He still needs attention too and that is not something to get upset with him about.  You need to get the baby out of your room (if he is sleeping there) so you can give your husband some attention.  I would also recommend getting a babysitter for at least a lunch date with your hubby.  Your baby will be okay for an hour or two.  I have 3 boys myself and the youngest is only 6 months old so I definitely know where you are coming from.  Your s*x drive will return eventually, and it will return quicker if you exercise it.  The most important thing I could tell you is not to hold this against your husband. He doesn't really suspect you of cheating he is just wanting more of you - and that's a good thing.  Give him some TLC and you will be amazed at the difference.  

Answer 7

Well there are alot of ways to handle this. Number one.. if your s*x drive isnt the same.. maybe consider getting your mother.. or a sibling to watch the baby for a night while you and your husbnd take a night to yourself. Its very important not to let the baby stand in between you and your husband connecting. Maybe the date night would be just what your husband needed to reassure him all you want is him (:

good luck (:

Answer 8

dreams have to be decoded. when you have a dream of you spouse cheating it means that they would never cheat on you. i know this bc i looked it up after having the same dream over and over of my husband cheating .your brain dose crazy things when you sleep  

Answer 9

I think that y'all need some time to y'all self. Just tell him that u would never think of cheating on him, and that he is the only one for u.

Answer 10

it's just that your husband is as worried as you are exhausted

Answer 11

Marriage right after having a child is rough.  Sleepless nights, changing priorities, less time for each other all can wear on a relationship.  Talk to him a reassure him that it is the loss of sleep and the overwelming responsibilities that are leaving you less receptive.  I have 4 kids.  For about the first 6 months with each of them my wife and I had a rough patch.  Things will get better.  Hang in there, once the baby starts sleeping through the night and you too have a little more time together he will feel less insecure.

Good Luck and congrats on your baby!

Answer 12

ok i tell ya..MEN..they're just insecure..i know what you're going through..with kids sexx is the last thing in your mind espcially with household work and having an 8 hr job, when we get home all we want to do is get the evening stuff done and get to bed...but all they want is "it" cause they're not the ones working 24/7 to keep with with daily life and takin care of a baby...but him having dreams like that are his own insecurities..probably thinks if you ain't giving it to him then you're giving it to someone else..

of course them and thier little minds...no worries tell him if he helped more and took a load off you then maybe just maybe you'll have some time to think about "it"

Answer 13

He may be feeling insecure because you are too tired to have s*x and he is taking it personally. You need to try and explain to him that you are tired and not feeling like you use to. Maybe get a sitter and spend some quality time together.

Answer 14

Tell him to trust you or get out.

Answer 15

A 3 month old eats, poops, and sleeps! How can you be exhausted?  

What you are going through with your husband is not exhaustion by the baby yet a feeling of being overwhelmed by the responsibility of a newborn. Both of you are now in a brand new world that is foreign to you. The feelings you have will subside, and hopefully his will subside as well.

The bonding you developed with the baby while in utero as well as the closeness you share now has left your husband feeling vulnerable because he does not receive 100% of your attention now. You have to feed the baby, change diapers, and make sure the baby is on a schedule.  I am sure your husband is not used to not having you pay so much attention to someone else.

You both need to get some books about pregnancy and babay rearing that can have you both feeling a bit more secure with each other as well as with the baby.

Answer 16

He's just not getting enough nookie

You respond with a hand job or oral if you are to tired for intercourse

1 other thing don't want to put doubt in your mind about your husband

but is there a chance he could be cheating

Sometimes the guilty are  first to point the finger