My husband left , is it over?

Question

last night we had argued because he ca,e home drunk and drove like that and he well knowing i dont like that. him drinking overboard really angers me. i guess its cause it like he morphes into someone else.

he left and is staying with his parents hes been gone a day and a half.

before he left he threw his wedding ring off and said hes not happy with me anymore. because we fiight and i because i dont trust him...

i dont with alcohol. its as if his other woman is alcohol. he dosent drink everyday. but since he met these 2 guys at school he has been pushing fights to make it an excuse...

so he said all that we havent talked. and its really hard. and i feel lost.

we have been together 8 yrs and 3 married. we are young.. im 23 and he will be 26 soon...

i know he loves me. i really do.. but im also doubting it. why?

now that he has sober up will he think of what he did?

he is stubborn though. is it really over? advice plz

Answer 1

Sounds like you have not been served with divorce papers yet. So I believe the end of marriage is not quite over yet. However, you need to prepare yourself just in case.  Make sure you have sufficient funds to pay the bills. I doubt his parents are going to approve of his behavior any more then you do. Even a first time DWI charge will cost him over $1,200 in most states, as long as he was not involved in an accident.

Many employers will terminate a employee that gets a DWI.

Sounds like he may be an alcoholic. If is an alcoholic consider getting a divorce and moving on.  Things are not going to get any better if he is an alcoholic. He will in time get violent and have employment and legal problems.

Just because you love someone, does not mean you can live with them.

I wish you the best.  

Answer 2

im afraid it is lol hes probably screwin his secretary right now hittin it up from the back something decent but dont worry if u look good ill help u out  lol

Answer 3

That is where history come in,

Try to remember your past with him.

Give him some chance and have proper face to face talk about what you like and dun like about him and so the other party about you.

p.s.

Simple couple fight, a small talk shall be able to solve it.

Try to understand each other! dun be selfish.

(1 fight = divorce? what a lame excuse for new partner)

Answer 4

I think you just really need to talk to him and ask what it is that he wants from you. I would try to get him help for alcohol, but if he's stubborn like you say it may be hard. But dont give up. Once you start talking things over and repairing them little by little everything should fall back into place...hopefully.

I wish you the best!! Good Luck!! :)

Answer 5

I feel your pain my partner and i have the same arguments when he goes out at for drinks because he thinks coming home at 6am is acceptable and to me its not...

I guess untill you talk to him when hes sober of course you cant move on... did you have problems before he was introduced to the other people?  Maybe its just their influence over him?

I dont think its over but i do think you both need a little together time!

Good luck with everything and stay strong and hold on to what you believe in...

Answer 6

It's hard to say if it's really over. It's up to him and only him. Personally, I wouldn't want an alcoholic showing my child the example of how a mature father should be. Do you want your son to emulate his drinking and driving behavior? If it doesn't bother you, you might want to consider what your life will be like when your son starts drinking and driving.

If he realizes his mistakes, he may be back. On the other hand, you both married very young and he may regret leaving his childhood to start a family. Consider the impact his actions are having on your child. That's the most important thing.

Answer 7

its only over if u want it to be.  personally, in my opinion, i think divorce sounds like the smart thing to do.  if he wont give up drinking for u so he will treat you better, then he doesnt deserve u.  he needs to join AA and u both need to go to marital counseling, if ur gonna stay together.  otherwise, start seeing a lawyer about getting a divorce.  u dont want these problems hun, trust me, they will only get worse with time, and u need to get out NOW before he gets u knocked up someday, cuz u definitly dont want to bring a kid into this situation.  hes 26, he should know better than to drink and drive.  he wont be happy when he gets pulled over and they arrest him and give him a DUI.  idk where u live, but here in cali, its a no tolerance state.  DUI can cost up to $20,000 out here.  do u guys have that kind of money to spare?  if not, he better wise up before he gets arrested and someone ends up hurt or killed.