My husband looks at naked females and I am pregnant how can I get him to stop.?

Question

I am 35 weeks pregnant and my husband and I don't have s*x anymore because of doctors orders. Well this was going on in the past, where I would catch him looking at p**n. I told him how much this bother me, but yet he kept doing it. Then he just stop looking at p**n because I kept bugging him about it and started looking at naked females, since I have gotten bigger. He does not know that I know he has been looking at the naked girls. Because he told me that if I don't stop spying on him, he is going to leave me. It hurts alot, because I know that I am not that attractive with a big belly. But he was doing this before I got big to. Does this mean that he does not find me attractive? I don't know. I need help!

Answer 1

Lots of men like p**n!  Its just that simple.  It has NOTHING to do with what their wives look like.  h**l I like p**n and I have a man.  Did I mention that he and I look at p**n together and separately.  For us its no big deal.  

MESSAGE to all the p**n hating wives/gitlfriends:  If your man likes p**n there is NOTHING you can do to stop it.  He will do so secrectly if necessary but he will do it and you need to all be very careful about threats because its futile.  I am not a p**n promoter but I just think you should have bigger issues to concern yourself about like uh...is he actualy having s*x with someone else NOT what he is watching.  Choose your battles wisely my sistas.

Answer 2

this selfish b*****d can still play with you, such a loser, the doctor said no s*x, that means no intercourse, but, there are still other things you CAN do...  this is a poor excuse of a man...  he should be giving you massages, using his hands if you get my drift, lol!  and touching you in ways that would drive you crazy =)  and make you feel loved, not ignoring you...

such a bad father and husband...  I'd demand he stop the p**n permanently, if he does not, it's divorce, p**n does not mix with wife/family/kids...

that's the truth...  he is to treat you as the most beautiful woman and only woman in the world, not as a pregnant woman who looks "big"...

such a loser...

If I had a husband like this, I'd rather he went out and laid these women and let me be free and divorce me than to sit there knowing he wants to bang these women in real life, if he could...

you can't have a connection with a man if he has a wandering eye...

=(

if your husband really cared about you and that baby, he's stop...that's that...

Answer 3

This sort of thing used to bother me before I got married, but I decided to try it with my husband and I actually ended up liking it. When I was pregnant with each of our 3 kids we looked at it quite a bit and the s*x was great! I say just try it out-it'd be better than him going elsewhere hun.

Answer 4

I have two kids of my own and don't worry you will be back to normal and feeling better before you know it! I know how I felt when I was that size. Totally miserable and couldn't stand being pregnant another minute! You should be grateful that he is looking at images of girls rather than going out and cheating on you. I know this doesn't sound very helpful right now as I am sure your emotional state tells you otherwise, but hang in there. You will be feeling better before you know it!

Answer 5

are you trying to take the 'man' out of your man? leave it be

Answer 6

He married you and he's having a kid with you- he must be attracted to you so you dont need to worry about that.

When people are pregnant, yeah they dont look their best but it doesnt stop your husband loving you does it? So just remember- he loves you and is attracted to you.

With the issue of looking at p**n, he's only a man right.. he has needs you just gotta realise that! And once this kid comes along then you'l be the happiest girl in the world and everything will be fine again. Until then stop worrying and take some of the stress off of yourself.

Oh and when the baby comes, have a word with him about the p**n if you still want to, with a baby comes a real connection between 2 people- you'l soon understand what i mean.

Answer 7

Oh jesus....I look at naked females too. They're much nicer to eyeball than pictures of kittens with bows around their necks for starters.

Besides...would you rather have him looking at little colored pixels of light on a computer screen or go out, get a motel room and look at a naked woman there?

Answer 8

why don't you like p**n.  He probably does it so he can get off.  I dont think it has anything to do with you.

Answer 9

Just because he looks at p**n, does not mean he does not find you attractive.  Geez... it's JUST p**n, and in spite of the fact that you don't want it to exist, it's out there.  The more you make a big deal of it, the more he will lie to you about watching it.  You're pushing off your own insecurities about your body onto him and it's not really fair to him, is it?  

Let him look at his p**n and realize that it's about him and not you.  I don't blame him for wanting to leave if you don't leave him any privacy.  He's probably walking on eggshells as it is and afraid of what you'll blow up about and try to control next.  Stop treating him like a naughty teenaged boy, and let him be a man in his own house.

Answer 10

It is better you stop spying on him, have some intimate relationship with him. If your doctor has stopped you from traditional s*x, you can enjoy  other way of doing s*x, such as oral s*x, by cunnilingus & fellatio.Certainly he will enjoy it & he would not visit the p**n pics anymore.  

Answer 11

I don't understand.

I think this is something where there needs to be compromise from the both of you.

I don't think there is anything wrong with looking at pornography. It's adult entertainers, doing what they are doing for the pay.

He is never going to have contact with these individuals, nor leave you for the women. It is called 'Adult Entertainment' for a reason.

Especially if you two are unable to have intercourse at this time. Do you think it is realistic to tell a man he cannot m********e for months, because the physician said you cannot have s*x.

Why not let him look at some dirty pictures of women enhanced by plastic surgeons, faking orgasms. As a woman you should take a look at them and realize it's all unreal, maybe you would feel better with it.

I also went ahead and made some dirt movies for my husband. I have taped me satisfying myself, and have allowed him to video us engaging in s*x. I found that the videos on the computer almost stopped completely. He now used his 'porno time' to watch our home made videos.

I used to be an adult entertainer, I used to make pornography. I worked out of the San Fernando Valley in California. I worked in the industry for two years. It was simply a job. I worked only for the income, and so did the men. I assure you I never once thought about the men who would acquire my DVD's and get off to them at late hours of the night. It was simply a job.

Good Luck.

PS. You are pregnant, you are more beautiful then any of the women in those movies/pictures.

Answer 12

some guys just like to look at naked girls, some girls like to look at naked girls.  i know it would most likely bother me if my hubby did and i wasnt able to have s*x or was pregnant.  you should talk to him and tell him how you are feeling about being attractive etc.  he should stop if it hurts you even if he likes doing or cant understand why.  because it bothers you is enough,  

Answer 13

what's the big deal?  i know when you're pregnant you can be sensitive and stuff, but you said he'd been doing this before.  why does this bother you so much?  it's not that he finds the women better looking than you, or that she can do something better than you - guys know they'll never get one of them.  it's YOU he's with...

Answer 14

men are visual voyeurs. They are always going to look.  It doesn't mean that he doesn't find you attractive.  They just think about s*x more than we do.   My husband looks at p**n and it doesn't bother me at all. We still have a great s*x life. I would be more concerned if he wanted to look at p**n all the time rather than make love to me.  

Answer 15

LOL I like it that he told you to stop spying on him.  That is too funny "Leave me alone so I can do stuff you don't want me to".  

Men are idiots.

Answer 16

What is the different between p**n and naked females?

I am sooooo sick of these questions about p**n!!!