My husband looks up women in our area on Myspace?

Question

calls and talks to them on the phone and then goes and meets them sometimes (claiming no s*x) I confronted him about it asked him for a divorce; which he didn't want to do. To come back at me he says that since I didn't tell him I spent 3,000 dollars on my credit card that it is the same thing. They are both trust issues and that we should just start over. I know this is not the same but I was wondering if there were any other crazy people like my husband in the world who think this could possibly be the same thing.

Answer 1

I strongly supect that he has and is cheating on you and trying to equate spending money with being unfaithful.  

Answer 2

Give me a break! It's cheating, no it's not the same! That is NOT a trust issue, he's actually giving you a reason not to trust him. What a creep!

Answer 3

cheating and spending money is not the same thing he is just trying to make you feel guilty for his cheating  tell him to blame himself

Answer 4

No those are two completely separate issues, and not even comparable ones in my opinion. He is just throwing something you did, at you, to take the heat off of his cheating.

Please don't believe that he is not having s*x with these hookups. Take it from one who has been there, if it walks like a duck and looks like a duck- it is probably a duck. He is cheating.

Answer 5

he is about two steps away from cheating....  beware,,, this is not the same as over spending!!!

Answer 6

He'll keep cheating so you keep googling!  

Answer 7

sounds like to me he is trying to get even with u for spending 3,000 but the thing is that is not the same thing as cheating is! Just get rid of him. He wants s*x i guess but what he is doing is wrong and u should just pursue the divorce!

Answer 8

I don't understand how your husband can equate calling up women and meeting them to you spending money on a credit card.  Dump him because he's an idiot.

Answer 9

spending habits can not be compared to infidelity. he is taking you for a ride.

how dumb are you. he doesn't have to have intercourse to cheat. You realize his dating is cheating too right? he is GOING ON DATES with other women! What part of that compares to you spend $3000?

did you vow to not spend money when you got married? i think not, but he did vow to be faithful to you: HE ISNT

so decide if you want this sniveling jerk or someone who won't justify his infidelity.... or better yet BE faithful to you.

Answer 10

Tell your husband that talking to woman that are strangers is not the same thing as spend money on your credit card. Tell him also that you cant do t*t for tat. your not going to get anywhere that way you will just go back and forth. Also He may not be having s*x with them but he is up to something i dont understand why he would meet them for what reason.. Also most of the woman on myspace are up to no good.

Good luck.

Answer 11

It's not the same thing. If you spend $3,000 on your credit card and you have a job to pay it, so what. You are not going out and meeting men. He needs to move out.

Answer 12

No, it's not the same thing.  He's just using the credit card excuse to justify his actions.

Answer 13

He must be a "smooth" talker...Congratulations on not letting him convince you it's the same thing. He's a cheater, plain and simple, and wants to avoid divorce.

Answer 14

you need to leave him and move on with your life. you only get one shot at life so leave him and do what you want. spending money and cheating are NOT the same things.