My husband makes me feel bad, what should I do?

Question

We own a mechanic's garage. He has me answer the phones while he does all the work. Regularly, I explain to customers what their options are for repairs, and do the price searching and parts locating for my husband 'Devon'. Anyway, lately I find myself in situations that I don't enjoy. He'll have talked with a customer and let them know of only one option because he doesn't want to do the others, which is fine, that's his perogative, but then he'll have me do some parts locating and call the customer. I'll give the customer the options, and the customer will be like, "Devon said I only had this option?" Naturally, this puts me in a bad situation, and I have to scramble to try and fix it. Then, Devon will get pissed off that I gave the customer the options. He didn't tell me not to! He didn't tell me that this customer was different than the last one. He didn't tell me anything! I only did what I've always done, and what he's actually BRAGGED about me doing. I get angry and upset, and then we fight. In the end, I feel horrible about myself and my entire existance here. What do I do? He's hurtful and mean when he's mad, and acts like because I'm upset, that -I- don't care about our relationship. I shut down, and have gone so far as to plug my ears with toilet paper so that I don't have to hear his remarks. He brings me to tears every time. What do I do? talking to him doesn't work because all he does is make it out like I'm looking for any excuse to be mad at him. I don't understand how him doing something wrong and getting mad at me suddenly can be turned around and into something completely unrelated.

Answer 1

I would leave him he rips people off

Answer 2

Sounds like he needs anger management classes. If I were you I would tell him I was leaving him unless he goes or finds a way to get his hurtful mouth under control.

Answer 3

Your husband makes you feel bad , because you allow him to...you need to get another job and let him deal with the customers...it would appear he is somewhat childish. You will continue to feel this way as long as you remain working together.

Answer 4

Tell the customers that's why you work there cause Devon doesn't know half the **** that he needs to know.  

Answer 5

It sounds to me like you need to get another job. Let him handle his the way he wants to, and you work for someone else. They will be much more appreciative.

Answer 6

Stop working with him. Tell him to find someone else to answer the phones and deal with this because it isn't something you need to deal with. He has NO right to get upset with you when you are trying to help out his customers and get him business for the business. If he doesn't communicate with you enough about the business than that is HIS fault not yours and he should never make it out to be your fault. He is in the wrong, set him straight, he needs to have the foot down on it right away! Take care!

Answer 7

Get a job on your own that will make you feel good about yourself.  Maybe he will also end up appreciating you more when you are not around.  Get some distance between the two of you.

Answer 8

The same thing you would do in a normal work relationship. Communicate that he needs to be clear about jobs that he doesn't want another option presented on. You're not a mind reader and he shouldn't expect you to be one. If he starts being verbally abusive, get in your car and leave until you can both cool off. Working together can be fun, sounds like he needs to work on his communication skills. Stand your ground and if the name calling continues, start looking for another job. I promise you, one week without you and he'll be begging to have you back! Good luck :)

Answer 9

Tell him next time "I Quit".  Then leave.  

If he doesn't communicate with you about certain customers, there is no way in the world you could know any different.  And, he wouldn't get very far treating an employee the way he treats you.

So, next time, quit.  Your skills will be very much appreciated somewhere else.  Sounds like you are very good at your job.

Believe me, after a few days on his own, he will REALLY appreciate you.

Answer 10

definitely get another job.  for some couples, working together at the same place is just too hard on the marriage.