My husband masturbates?

Question

I am working full time and he is unemployed.I don't know what he do all day but I ask him daily that did he m********e and he says yes. He masturbates daily. Not on the weekend because I am at home. We used to have s*x 5 times a week now it is once a week or every other week. He just sits at home plays video game or masturbates. In the beginning he was addicted to p**n but now he say he don't watch it and I trust him. He broke my promise on watching p**n a lot of times he doesn't watch it now. He has no interest in s*x. he rejected me a lot of times in pleasing. But whenever he asks to please me I please him. Even when I was sick or dead tired from work or in the middle of night. He told me I am every guys dream. I love having s*x with him. I am up for s*x all the time but now a days I feel so distant from him. I feel I am nothing. He masturbates daily. He never comes even when we have s*x(if I get lucky). I have to do with my hands in order for him to ejacu----- . We have been married for over a year. I still have guys at my work who hit on me all the time. But I love my husband a lot. He was my first s*x partner. I wasn't. Sometimes he tells me about his sexual experiences and relationship which hurts me. Please tell me what to do. I tried everything. I have s*x games and everything but my s*x life is going down. I also have needs why don't he understand that. I gives him b---j whenevr he wants but he rejects me when I want him to please. Please tell me what to do

Answer 1

Hey baby it is time for a pi if you know what I mean or you can hide an camera inside of the house and keep tabs on him.

Answer 2

SweetS, you have bigger problems than him masturbating. You do EVERYTHING for him and get nothing in return. Unless he has a physical reason for not working I can't imagine any guy with a shred of pride letting a woman support him 100%. As someone said, you have a big kid on your hands who is never going to grow up on his own. Maybe if you can get him off his game playing butt and get a job he might show you a little more respect but don't count on it. I know you love him but sometimes love is not enough.

It's time for you to sit down and think about what you want in your life.

Answer 3

are u sure he dont have a friends with benefits relationship with someone! Usually guys need s*x at least 3 times per day! If they dont need it that often either they have a medical problem or they are cheating!

Answer 4

he might be masturbating but its not with his hand if you say you guys did it five times a week and know its down to one he's cheating but don't look if you are not ready for the true answer you might find something you dont want to know. how old are you guys

Answer 5

To start with, why doesn't he work? Is he disabled, was he fired? Is he even looking for new work. I think a lot of your problems stem from him not working. When a person sits at home all day, even a lazy person, they feel a certain amount of guilt for not helping to support their household. This can lead to some serious depression, which can lead to lack of interest in s*x. Feelings of inadequacy can make him want to be pleasured by you but afraid to even attempt to please you. He may not even realize this is going on or the extent that it has gotten to. He may also be afraid to admit to it if you bring it up. The best advice I can give is try to be proactive and help him search for work. Also counseling for both of you seperatly and as a couple. You each need the ability to talk to someone outside of your daily lives on your own and also the ability to learn to communicate effectivly. Both of you may have things to say that could be easily taken wrong by the other person and a counselor can be the middle ground, the support. Counseling will only work however, if you both commit to it and keep going, give it at least four to six weeks. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 6

Sounds like he needs a job..not with his hand... he needs to help support the household..and if show more interest into p**n...he needs to find a new place to stay.. next time either say its with me  or else

Answer 7

Masturbating is the least of your problems: this guy is a bum, dump him. (lots of guys m********e and still hold a job and please their gf/wives!)

Answer 8

All men m********e!!!  I wouldn't worry so much about that....as much as worrying about why he doesn't have a J O B!!!  Good Lord!

Answer 9

You need 2 become his mistress. Yes, you are his wife, but men likes adventures. Do things that a mistress would do and don't be ashamed. Remember he is your husband and you should never be ashamed in trying to please him in any kind of way. And it is okay if he m*********s. We all do. As long as he's faithful to you, you shouldn't worry about that. Now, the next time he reject you, turn the table and you m********e in front of him, see what happens next, and make sure while you doing your thing infront of him that you invite him to join in. Best of luck.  

Answer 10

Kick his *** sweets  most husbands r in the other boat where they want it but there wives dont. (this is the boat i'm on) i can tell u one thing it is harder when he is ur first maybe u were not meant 2 b  but it is hard 2 let ur first love go it really is, if u have a talk with him and he blows u off maybe it is time 2 move on, it takes 2 in a marriage and if he's not willin 2 work with u, well as hard as it may be u may need 2 move on. i wish u all the best

Answer 11

WOW you adopted a really big kid , get rid of him . not your responsibility to take care of him your nothing but a roof and an income.  

Answer 12

Why doesn't he have a job? He's using you.

Answer 13

I don't know this for sure, but I think my husband does also.  He used to look at internet p**n a lot, but has sworn he hasn't.  HOWEVER, we have not had s*x in almost a year.  We'll fool around maybe once or twice a month, but no intercourse.  He's just not interested I guess, but seeing as he's a guy, I am not stupid, I realize he must be doing something.  He has to take viagra to have s*x and all the pills are accounted for so I know he's not cheating, but HELLO I have needs also.

I don't really have an answer to your question, but wanted you to know that someone out there is going through a similar situation.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

Answer 14

its normal

Answer 15

the hand doesn't ***** and complain! maybe u need to get yourself one of those big black vibrator u never know u might like it better  

Answer 16

nina is right.

He's not attracted to you. You've got to find lots of ways to feel attractive, look attractive, be attractive. They all have to be innocent in appearance though. You can't force him to love you, but you can use little tricks. Then, there's the jealousy card. Use it.

You've got to make him chase you again. make him see only you. But, NEVER let him know what you're doing.

Answer 17

uhmm maybe you should get sometime off work and stay at home with him, and do things to get him atracted to you

Answer 18

Yes I feel he's using you. Ask him to get a job first.. That will solve many problems for you.... About the s*x part... try and talk to him and tell him your point of you... Also, you're his wife and tell huim bringing up his sexual past is not right because it offends you. Tell him to give you due respect. Try and smile while things are tough.

Answer 19

You're being used, you are his meal ticket in life. He's a lazy bum that doesn't even take care of you sexually. See how fast you can dump him. there are many men that would love to have someone like you in their lives. Kick him out!

Answer 20

Sounds like he has way too much time on his hands. If you want him to be a man in the bedroom, then he has to first be a man outside of the bedroom.

Tell him to get off his lazy a$$ and get a job.

Don't you see something seriously wrong in this so called marriage of yours??? You do every thing for him and he does NOTHING! Have some pride in yourself and stop being such a weak and easily manipulated woman. You deserve so much better then the pile of c**p you are settling for.

I normal man doesn't make a career out of playing video games and with himself.

You need to dump this loser and get yourself a real man.

Answer 21

Well he is sick, and you are sick for putting up with him.  Get rid of him and find a real man.  he sounds totally immature and unable to ever grow up to be a man, if he can't keep it out of his hand..... gross.  Just think about the people that shake his hand during the day, they should be warned, hang a sign around his neck, he is a sick puppy.