My husband never initiates s*x. Any suggestions please?

Question

A long story cut short: i got married to a man i fell completely in love with after only about six months. He lived far away so i joined him there. Before we got married he was s**y and forward. About a week into the honeymoon he started to dry out, playing on his computer all the time, totally uninterested in s*x. Now-only 4 months into our marriage- he never ever initiates it (i can count the number of times we have had s*x on my two hands) and is like a grumpy teenager if i demand it. He is really hurting my feelings. I would like to say I am quite attractive and slim, a professional (although unemployed at the moment as looking for a job in his country- happens to be the USA) and he is wealthy enough not to worry about money all the time. He says things like 'i dont like it when you initiate s*x', 'you dont know what your doing', ' im so tired'. Really does anyone know what could be going on? A bit about him- he looks extremely s**y, very muscular, young and makes a good living. Should I be making an escape plan. Thanks

Answer 1

hummm. sounds g*y to me...  bring home some g*y pron...  and if he can't get enough... well..  you know what you have.

Oh, then find a BF............ like everyone else does in those situations.  

Answer 2

Try getting a job and naturally u will start to look more pretty as u will tend to doll up yourself when u r more expose to the social. Then i think he will start to notice u n he will inititate it first

Answer 3

He is either g*y or cheating.

Either way find something on the side.

My husband never wanted to have s*x so i had to get it elsewhere.

Answer 4

well, that sound like a good ideal makes escape plan.  well if he doesn't like the way you initiate s*x? then he need to get up off his duff and show you how. that is not right for him to make that kind of comment when you want to have s*x with him. but it was ok when the two of you was dating. sit down and talk to him and ask him to be up front with you about your s*x life. if it sound phony, get out Paul Simon record and play it. 50 ways to leave your lover!

sound like that he only want you for a companionship rather a wife in a marriage. i have heard how some guys/girls are like that when they're dating the girl/boy and once they're married he/she lose interesting in s*x. for me...heck no!!  if I wanted s*x while we're dating you can bet that I wanted even more since we're married!!

Answer 5

Hmmm that really doesn't sound good. If he doesn't want s*x at all then I suppose he won't notice if you NEVER offer it again right? Have you tried not even offering it and see what happens, he should get frustrated soon enough, it takes about a week for mine to really want s*x

Answer 6

Yeah, he sounds like a controlling a S S.   Sometimes, guys just have  women to have them.  It doesnt sound like he really loves you.  At first, I as going to say maybe he is insecure, or going through some sort of depression, however, you said he looks good, and you wrote that he tells you "you dont know what youre doing"   That sounds a bit like emotional abuse.   He is probably sleeping with another woman.  I cant understand how a man who is a newlywed would not want s*x everyday!  Men love it when women initiate.  Maybe he is g*y, and only married you as a cover up.  Yes dear, start looking for a way out.  This guy sounds like trouble.  He may think he has you tied around his finger because has money, but dont let the looks and wealth fool you.

Answer 7

sounds like my situation only the opposite way...and i dont' want s*x b/c i'm just not in the mood most of the time.

i don't know if it's the same w/ guys...but ya i'd feel wierd too if i asked my husband 4 s*x and he said no.

Answer 8

ASK HIM HES THE ONE U MARRIED HES THE ONE U WANT HES THE ONE WITH THE RIGHT ANSWERS AND HES THE ONE U NEED TO WORK THINGS OUT WITH AS FOR ME IF I WS DOLLED UP AS TEHY OUT IT WHEN HE CAME HOME AND I SPENT MY DAY WITH MAKING SURE ALL WAS DOME AT HOME THEN I WOULD JUST ASK HIM WHY DONT WE MAKE LOVE WHY DONT U FLIRT WITH ME WHY  ARENT U PLAYFUL U BOTH NEED TO PUT EACH OTHER BF ANY THING OR ANY BODY BUT I SURE WOULD MAKE SURE ALL WAS WELL BF HAVING A FAMILY  

Answer 9

Well, I guess if he is g*y you could find out the answer by borrowing some g*y porno tapes and then checking to see if he gets a hard on.