My husband quit his job...again?

Question

About three weeks ago my husband and I got into an argument. The next day, he went to work and got into a heated debate with him boss. Needless to say, he quit his job and went to visit his parents down South. He eventually came back home, but no job to go to. He is presently looking for a job, but as you know….we is in a recession and the job market is tight. Now, I understand that we all get heated and make dumb mistakes…but I don’t know if I am being too supportive. We have been together for eight years (married four) and have a house and a three year old. This is his second time since we had this house that he quit his job. I use to have a 700 credit score, I am too embarrassed to say what it is now. We fell soo behind on bills...we were still playing catch up until he quit again. Mind you, these are good jobs for his security field. I personally make okay money, but definitely not enough to support three people.

Answer 1

Soo.. are you just complaining or do you have a question. People are going through rougher times.. Let it go and be thankful for what you have.

Answer 2

Wow I feel bad for you. Your husband sounds immature and hot tempered. I am married also no kids. I would not support his ***, unless he lost his job by no fault of his own. You never quit any job unless you have another job already . He is a little selfish. He is the main provider of the home and I don't know anyone who can just up and quit their job causing a mental and financial strain on the marriage.

Quiting a job should be decided and agreed by you both. Yes better or worse but that type of behavior could cause you to become homeless.

I feel your husband is immature he should have been home trying to fix the damage instead of running to his parents. You know what I would do, I would pay whatever bills I could, the most important mortgage,car etc. Disconnect unimportant luxuries cable, extra cell phones, manicures etc. If you can try to save as much money as possible. As far as your husband is concerned he would be experiencing my wrath of anger. God bless take care.

Answer 3

depends on your husband qualification your husband will get better job then what he left , you should have some patience, and supportive until he gets the another job

if the employer have one company then the employee have 100 company to work, so dont worry

god bless you

Answer 4

Try marriage counseling. Maybe anger management for him.

Answer 5

we is in a recession? LOL

ams we be'd to angree to be da massa am be to him howse?

well, ma nizzle, be shizzle.

Answer 6

Tonya W. girl friend, it's like this he either helps keep the bills paid and food on the table and a roof over all of your heads or else i'd let his butt get to stepping. As long as you continue to feel oh so sorry for him and enable him through out these on - off work periods when he feels like working. He's going to keep thinking that your fine with him doing that kind of foolish stuff. I know times are indeed hard for everyone, but walking away from any job paying 7.00 or 70,000.00 not a smart thing to do.  My husband did the same thing, mind you not even a year after we got married. Argued and cursed his boss out then he walked off the job. So I worked a full time job where i had to do all this heavy lifting, bending and climing and so on, all of which my doctors no longer wanted me doing. I had to change career's from Nursing to retail sales. Nursing I was on my feet 8 to 16 hour shifts 5 to 6 days sometimes 7 days a week. Two kids, both pre teens, in sports, and I was a full time online student. Cooked, cleaned and did laundry, grocery shopping and ran to pay all the bills in person. I made a decision to approach my husband with how I felt and the strain he was very much aware I and I alone carried without his sincere concern.

I explained in detail each and every bill, I flat out let him know there was no money to waste period and he could either step up to the plat or turn around and keep running from his responsibilities. He vowed to get back on track and work to do this together as we had been doing for a while, but i didn't see the effort at all, strain and stress only enhanced and i couldn't take it anymore. We loss the house to forclosure, but here at the last minute he complains that I didn't allow him to make decisions or be in control, he was going to do this or that. It's too late for that now. We seperated and have been now for 6 months. Now for the past two and a half I have seen the most effort in him then i've even seen. He's doing what it takes to prove to himself anfd our family that he can hold down a job and continue to apply for better paying jobs that will help us to live better. I had to let go of my retail job as well for mediacal reasons requiring surgery. I receive disability benefits only and I have been looking for so kind of work that won't cause further problems with my back and legs. It's hard out here and he needs to shake off the ego pride and get with the program in order to help you provide for you child. He can't take the easy way out by walking away from what ever job he's able to get, keep it as long as he can.

Answer 7

i'm sorry but it sounds like your husband is a little immature. he knows d**n well that he has a wife and a kid and a house to support and he up and decided to quit his job?! what an ***!

Answer 8

get a credit counselor and have marriage counseling tell him to straighten up act up and you mean now because you are one step away from losing everything and you need him there emotionally and financially

Answer 9

Sounds like he needs to get his **** together and face responsibilty.  We all go through times at the work place as I'm sure you know of not wanting to go, getting pissed of, or just plain getting sick of it...but when you have responsibilites you cant make rash dicisions like that without having a back up plan.

I would tell him what I just said "there is no perfect job".  He needs to find one or your out.  You should have a backup plan, if he gives up as easy as you say, he could give up on you. You know him better than all of us on YA so you need to decide for yourself.  Bottom line...he knows what is right and he knows what he needs to do especially is he has a familt to support.  Dont ignore it.

Answer 10

That was pretty stupid of him.  I was driving 130 miles per day to stay in my industry.  I got laid off along with everyone else.  To QUIT at this time is almost arrogant.  There is way too much competition out there right now.  It kind of sounds like he gets comfortable.  You're not really hurting but you were almost caught up so there's no immediate pressure to survive.  Basically he needs to $hit or get off the pot.  Tell him you don't want to be in limbo & it causes too much stress.  He can't impact everyone just because he's pissed for a day or hates his job.  Most of us DO hate our jobs.