My husband said I'm overreacting IS THIS TRUE?

Question

So im married for 5 months now i have a 4 year old from a previous relationship. we just finished the court thing where we have joint custody i have physical he gets her every other weekend and he has to pay child support.. well this past weekend was his weekend and his parents came from arizona i dropped her off on saturday around 9 am byt 2 pm he was calling me asking me if his mom can take my daughter for a week for vacation.. i right away refused because first of all the way his family is i dont like they drink do drugs and they physically abuse each other well anyway so my husband said just to let her go... so i did ... now my ex has to pay child support every 1st and 15th that started this 1st of august now he is saying that he is going to wait until the 14th to finish filing what he needs to file i said this was a court order by the judge the dates you have to pay then he said well im still waiting for the paternity test im like " what" so now that you have to pay money she is in question that she is you daughter? i got angry i called my mother that also thank god lives in arizona and had her go pick up my daughter from his parents house since he is in question that it is his daughter... did i overreact?

Answer 1

Now you have something to remind him of everytime he wants his family to have her  . Next time you can say no ,not until I know she is your's . That'll put a little kink in his sail .

Answer 2

all women over-react.

Answer 3

No you are not overreacting.  If he is now questioning that she is even his child & does not want to pay, then take her out of the equation.  If he wants to see his daughter he will follow the judgement put forward.

Answer 4

just a little but your her mother you have every right to.

Answer 5

I don't know why you let people who drink do drugs and  physically abuse each other take your 4 year old  child to another state.

It's funny how you only "reacted" when money was involved, rather than her safety. Who let's their child go with people who drink do drugs and  physically abuse each???

Answer 6

No

Answer 7

A breathless, fast and furious description with almost no capitalization and punctuation...  yup, I'd say you're prone to overreacting.

And keep this in mind - your daughter is the one who suffers from these shenanigans.  So, escalating the upset only makes things worse. Get your resentment under control so she's not getting stuck in the middle between you and her father.

Answer 8

No you didn't overreact. If he doesn't want to pay child support him and his family should have no visitation rights. If he doesn't want to pay because he doesn't think the child is his then he should have no reason to want to visit.

Tell him he can see his child when he decides to pay child support. And then he'll have to pay all the child support he missed anyway.

Answer 9

not overreacting; you are responsible for the child's safety and well being.

Answer 10

I think you reacted with just concern.  He might have been plotting to keep the kid in Arizona and you would never have seen her again unless you went through a court battle.  If the child support does not start arriving on time and for the correct amount, you need to contact your state's attorney general office to have them force his payment.  The money is for the child's needs (clothes, food, etc.) and has been ruled to be paid by a judge.  The only legal way to have it changed by either of you is another ruling by a judge.  His trying to change due dates, etc. sounds like he is just trying to get out of it.

Answer 11

No I dont think you overreacted.You only want the best for your daughter. Why is you ex questioning paternity after four years? Its terrible