My husband said that if I got pregnant and kept it, he would kill himself. What would you do?

Question

He went on a rant about how the child would love to hear that story. I laughed and said if I did not have a choice over pregnancy, I'd kill myself rather than give birth. I've heard such discussion is abusive, but I disagree, since I agreed with my husband's point of view even before I met him. What would you do if your husband said this to you?

Answer 1

Beat him to the punch.  Kill HIM now.

You can choose not to stay with someone who makes controlling, manipulative threats.  He is an attention seeker and the pill is not enough.  Insist he have a vasectomy.

Answer 2

I wouldn't do anything as it seems he likely isn't being truthful and is simply exagerating to make a point..that point being he doesn't want children.  

Answer 3

Leave him.  You don't need the drama in your life.  

Answer 4

Why do you care what anyone else thinks as long as both of you are happy? I do not think it is right that some women try to get pregnant without letting the man know (as stopping BC w/o the man's knowledge) but sometimes you get pregnant despite BC, so what do you do then?

And I would have made sure my husband and I were in agreement on such a big issue before marriage as well. At least you know what you are facing if there is ever a slip up- I hope you would choose adoption not abortion. God Bless you both.

Answer 5

first you should told him don't let the door hit him in the ***

second told him have fun, but make sure don't make a mess in the house or out in the yards either.

Answer 6

not have s*x with him.. don't want to risk it...  

Answer 7

take birth controle,  he clearly really doesnt want kids right now. so respect his decision even though he told you about it in a really harsh way, and do your best to not get prego. use condoms and take birth controle. or dont have s*x at all, thad b even better.  if he complains bout the lack of s*x tel him u dont want to see him dead so ur saving his life by not touching his d**k.

if u really want kids right now then u gotta leave him, it would be cruel to the child to bring them into the world in a situation with a father that isnt ready for them

Answer 8

You would be a horrible mother anyways!  

Answer 9

Tell him "I'll name the baby after you to keep your memory alive"

What a horse's *** he is to make such an unfeeling and unreasonable statement like that.

Answer 10

Creepy. I think he has some issues he should work on. Counseling would be a great idea. I'm guessing if he's that opposed to a baby he probably wouldn't be open-minded about counseling. You need to decide what you want, discuss it with him, and if he disagrees you need to work out a compromise or agreement. If nothing can be worked out you need to decide what the best decision for you is.

Answer 11

I would tell him not to worry, that I'd take care of it myself....the killing him part that is!

Ha Ha.  You did ask what "I would do" and I already have two kids with my husband and I'm helping to raise two more, so if he said that to me, his butt would be history.

In fact, if he ever threatened me that way, I would consider leaving him, because that's somewhat unstable in my opinion.

Answer 12

I'd find a new husband when he was gone!

Have you made a list of ways for him to take care of the job yet?  Ask him how he wants to be remembered and buried...  

Answer 13

If I read your question right, I think both of you are unstable, and for sure are not ready to be parents.  Any talk about killing ones self is unstable talk.

What would I do?  Get counseling.

I see that you have further explained yourself and your question.  But if you both are so sure of what you want and how to go about it, i.e. pills, what's the point of asking your question?

Answer 14

Thats a sick thing to say.I would leave his ***.  If you honestly don't want the child please let someone adopt it. Its not the childs fault that he/she was conceived. Also, don't trust just the pill. If you never want kids, get your tubes tied. I suggest you do that as soon as the babys born.  

Answer 15

I would think hes an idiot, end of story

you both sound like you're in need of psychotherapy, please seek some, and please dont have a kid!

Answer 16

I would get pregnant....then tell him when visitiing his tomb stone, the baby is born and IT WASN'T HIS.....  Jokes on him...

Answer 17

Bye Bye hope you have a nice life. Pack his S*** and move him out or pack yours and move on.

Answer 18

sounds to me he is insane to some degree.

I guess I would make sure I left his asss  or I"d make sure no to ever get pregnant.

Answer 19

I would tell him to get his dumb a** fixed, if he was so adamant about not having a child.

Answer 20

The baby and I will miss your dumb ***, but we'll live good due to the life insurance policy I took out on you for $1,000,000.00 If this guy is that stupid, he deserves to die and not have a family. There are 1000's of men out there who would love to have a baby and cannot due to health problems. The same go's for women who want to have a child, but are unable to. This is a very selfish act by what he's saying. If it were me, I'd hand him the rope to hang himself or a hose to run from the exhaust to the inside of the car and ask him what 's taking so long?

Answer 21

Quasi has got the right idea!

Personally, I couldn't see my life without my children. Now, if my husband had a problem with having children, then I guess I just couldn't allow him to have s*x with me then... I mean, he would have helped create this wonderful gift that he would then decide to take his life over....

Thats like cutting yourself and then wondering why you're bleeding... GEEZ...

Answer 22

well just do it and see....lol....i bet he wont....but make sure you have good insurance..

Answer 23

You two make quite a pair.  Do the world a favor, and get yourselves sterilized.  The pill isn't 100% effective, and there's no way a couple like you should be taking chances with the life of an innocent child.

Answer 24

get insurance that covers the bills when he dies. then again, it is good when people know they should not breed. open communication!

Answer 25

The point of the discussion is centered on the "me-me-me" viewpoint which is of course self-centered. It is normal for this viewpoint to express various radical expressions to regain the attention to themselves. The one thing to consider is that children do not have to be taught to selfish. So the "me-me-me's" of the world are still childish.

God created man and woman and marriage to procreate and fill the earth with His children. He knows each child before it is born and what that child's mission is to the benefit to the world. To want to murder this child is against God. You might be married, you might be fornicating but you are not thinking as adults.

Answer 26

i live in a world of madness, and i deal with insane people all to frequently.   i worked for many years as a 911 operator and while i have not heard it all, i have heard a lot.

your question reveals a deep level that seems to lack in maturity on both your part to discuss killing yourself over a pregnancy.

a pregnancy is the making of a child, and that is a gift.

if you honestly feel so strongly about this, either your husband needs to be clipped or you need to be clipped.  

you can find a gyn doc who can clip you (a DFS) for probably a lot less than the cost of pregnancy and raising a child.  i know a guy can be clipped in about 30 minutes start to finish,

i would also strongly recommend you both start counseling, as there is something deeply wrong.

Answer 27

i would think he was nuts and send him to a shrink. wtf!