My husband says I look more attractive when I really look like sh*t?

Question

He likes me better with no makeup, greasy hair, and glasses??!! Isn't that weird. I look horrible! He doesn't compliment me when I look nice!

Answer 1

He should compliment you either way because he's your husband but truthfully, a lot of men are this way. Many men feel that a woman is much more beautiful underneath it all, underneath all of the makeup, jewelry, etc. Other men are completely fixated on the way celebrities look and expect their women to be flawless. Appreciate that your man loves you for who you are and see's beauty in you even when you are, in your opinion, at your worst.

Answer 2

i dunno, but maybe itd be better to find somewhere closer to your age cos like itd be weird to go out with someone the same age as his daughter....

Answer 3

strange I thought mine was the only one. I thought it was a ploy to get me to look like c**p outside so no guys would find me attractive.  

Answer 4

most guys dont like women with a lot of make up they all like the natural look. he likes how you are without doing anything!

Answer 5

All you women are screwy like that. My girlfriend says the same s**t. She tells me "how can you think I look good?!". My response is always, "I know, what was I thinking loving you for who you are, d**n me!".

Answer 6

It is weird.  I have dated men like this.  Some men just like the "all natural" look on a woman.  They don't like it when our makeup rubs off on their clothes.  They don't want their woman looking attractive to other men or looking like a hooker.

You could try wearing really light makeup.  Maybe just some foundation and pressed powder to even your complexion and some mascara to bring out your eyes.  This way, you would feel a little more normal, but still look natural to him.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Could be he likes you better when you look like c**p because he feels insecure when you're looking good.

Answer 8

So, you are complaining that your husband prefers the real you rather than the painted up, slicked up fake you?  

Answer 9

I didn't really think it was weird until you said that he doesn't compliment you when you look nice. A lot of men prefer the natural look. But he should think that you look beautiful when you're dressed down, AS WELL as dressed up.

You should talk to him about it if it bothers you.

:)

Answer 10

Women are always too hard on themselves, and often too hung up on looks. If he says he likes you better without makeup, believe him! He doesn't compliment you when you're all "dolled up" because he doesn't like it! You should appreciate the fact that he likes you just the way you are! Try compromising a little, maybe you can both be happy with your looks.  

Answer 11

my gf is really hot when she dresses up,but there is something about her with messy hair,no makeup,and one of my shirts on that is irresistable

Answer 12

What he's saying is he likes you for whatever you look like make-up for not. It's a compliment trust me!

Answer 13

I think my girl is beautiful all the time.  I tell her that in the morning when her hair is a mess and we wake up.  She has no make up on too.  She says"whatever".  But I really do.

I think your husband just really loves you and sees the beauty behind your beauty.  It's not weird.  He loves the real you.

EDIT:Just checking my responses and giving thumbs up/down.  But considering this and rethinking....I think when my girl dolls up I feel I don't want to smudge her, even though she looks great.  However, when she is all natural she is mine and all mine and I love her so much that I see her so deeply beautiful.  When I put cologne on before I go to work she will say something like "why do you want to smell nice to other people but not me?".  So I really don't do that unless we are going out together to a function or something.  I love my girl to look great and I especially expect it if we are going to a company party and the boss will be around, yet, What is the other shoe for you.  What if your husband shaves up nice, smells good and gets his hair all perfect.  Then he puts on his Sunday best.....does he look better than when you see him on a late morning on a day when you both have your day off?  What do you think of him?  Is it "weird" that you think less of him when he has messy hair?  I think that is awful of you to put your husband on the downside just because he doesn't cosmetic himself.  I feel bad for your husband when he has bedhead and you don't see him as attractive, as much as when he is dressed to the nines.  I think when you get older you'll begin to understand what real love is all about.  Ponder my response.

Answer 14

Some men are into that. Don't get me wrong I love it when my lady dresses up for me and puts on makeup, but... then theres nothing hotter then a woman just back from the gym. That sweat glistening all over her body., her hair all messed up with no make up. Its the best. I think it has something to do with our baser sexual instincts from our nomadic days as a species. Whatever it is. Alot of men are secretly attracted to it.

Also maybe he doesnt compliment you when your all dolled up because no words need to said, you look great. When your all ragged up hes probably also trying to give you a pick-me-up. Depends on the circumstances, could be you had a horrible day and lost your make up from crying, etc.

Answer 15

Just because you feel that you have to wear tons of make up doesn't mean we like it. Yes, it can make you look better, but really, most women look better without, most of the time. Sadly women are just to self-conscious due to all the loreal ads and such to realize this.

Answer 16

That's because what we women don't realise is that men are attracted to the natural us. That is, the woman under the layers of makeup and grooming. After all, make up is essentially a fake face, so of course your husband prefers you without it. Also, they like it because it shows confidence, and it shows that you trust them enough to be 'real' around them.

Answer 17

It is possible that you are one of those few girls who look good without makeup and he does like the more natural look.  

OR....he could be worried about losing you to some other guy if you look too hot.

Answer 18

He probably tells you this so that you will not get all dressed up when going places so that other guys wont look at you.

Answer 19

It's very common for us guys to like girls looking just natural, amazing why girls find it hard to believe but we really do. Enjoy the fact that your guy appreciates you, some guys are assh0les you will treat you badly.

Answer 20

some men just prefer natural, and he might just like the smell of your hair and not shampoo, and maybe he sees you as a naughty librarian or something when you are wearing glasses, my husband is the same way

Answer 21

Ok, coming from a guy, I'm not sure what you're complaining about.  What's wrong with getting compliments?

Think about this too, when you dress up and try to look nice (like a lot of other people said, maybe he likes your natural look), but it's like you're fishing for a compliment, probably don't need to do that with him.  He's already impressed.

When you're not dressed up, maybe he's just reassuring you.

Answer 22

I tell my wife the same.. I am not a fan of make up and fixing up... she does look hot when she does, but i prefer the natural look.. there is a natural beauty when ya'll don't have your mask on.. you can be you true self..  

Answer 23

maybe he likes it when you look more natural.

my boyfriend loves it when i just have sweats on and i pull my hair back when it's wet.  i don't know why either but whatever!

Answer 24

He's insecure.  He wants to keep you looking homely because he's afraid some other man might notice you.

Answer 25

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Answer 26

He sounds sweet, not weird at all!  Mine doesnt like the way i look ever, LOL, when i look like c**p or get all pretty, i dont get compliments!

Answer 27

mine always likes my hair in the morning, he calls it the "just got outta bed look".  you know, just as we feel insulted when we think we're all done up nice and get no response, we should be equally flattered when we think we look our worst and they think we look good.  

Answer 28

You know I bet if he didn't like you with no makeup greasy hair and glasses you would probably complain about that, I think you should take it as a compliment and get over it.

Answer 29

most men appreciate what a woman looks like with out all the c**p.  seriously how many of us has woken up late and didn't have time to wash our hair and that's when you get the most compliments.  maybe he doesn't like all the c**p on your face, maybe you were too much makeup...

Answer 30

from a male's pov, that's how he met you. that's what made him attracted to you. putting on makeup only makes you look like a different person.

Answer 31

he likes you naturally. I just wouldnt go with the greasy hair cause that isn't "clean" lol but no makeup and glasses on is fine. Lucky you!