My husband says "I'm too tired for s*x". We see each other on the weekends and he never wants it. What do I d?

Question

I'm so tired of this, it's not like I'm ugly or fat, I go to the gym everyday just to look good for him, but I don't know what his problem is. Please help me find some way to help him and me out and some way to say "here eat this it's good for you libido".

Answer 1

I hear ya, sounds like he might be related to my boyfriend.

Answer 2

He's cheating on you, most definitely.

Men are only tired of s*x if their wives are ugly, or fat or actually both.

but if you look fine, and he still don't want to get down with you, then he's cheating.

If he had a problem like ED, he would have told you about it.  

Answer 3

Have s*x in the morning after a full night of sleep.

Answer 4

You don't say how old you are.  Does he have a job that makes him tired?  I think the best time to try to get him "going" is in the morning just before he wakes up from a good rest.  Some guys like to be aroused as they are waking up.  

Answer 5

Hmmm. he's not getting it somewhere else is he?  Sorry, hate to say that, but in my world, that's the first think I would think.

If not, is he taking any prescribed medications.  Some, for instance, Xanax, can take away from one's s*x drive.

Is he active like you, ie working out, etc.   Maybe he think he looks, or performs bad, so he would rather not, than face the disappointment.

Do you all need to spice things up?   Too much of the same ole routine?

I'd talk to him about that, as his partner, and try to find out what's got him in this funk.

Answer 6

Since no one else has suggested this, is he taking anti-depressants, per chance? They can decrease libido.

Answer 7

I am tired and here is a hint of my time single dad:  6am wake up.  get kids ready for school, out the door by 7am.  to work by 730am, get off work at 5pm, home by 6pm, make dinner, help kids with homework, go to a meeting, home by 9pm, read with my kids until 10pm, spend 1 hour for myself, in bed by 11pm.  I am exhausted and go to sleep.  I do this 5 days a week.  By Saturday, I am ready to sleep in.  

Even being this tired, If I had a hot little someone in my life I would try to have s*x every day, but that is just me, and everybody is different.

Answer 8

I hate to say this, but have you considered if he is cheating on you. if someone is getting it somewhere else they often turn down their wife/husband. Another factor, is you need to talk to him as to why he doesn't want to.  

Answer 9

Maybe he's feeling self-conscious (did you insult his manhood or something?) or maybe he is gettign it somewhere else... but if he were getting it somewhere else I'd doubt he'd make it this obvious by refusing s*x with you altogether.

Answer 10

could be his GF is tiring him out..  also, if he just did with his GF, he may feel funny doing it again the same day with you.  

Answer 11

hmm...the only thing you really can do is talk to him about the way you feel

Answer 12

O M G I cant belive all these men are too tired or dont want s*x . Does he work long hours ? How old is he ?

All i can say is force him to do it . lol

Answer 13

kay, how old is he?  is he a little out of shape himself?  Maybe a little less confident of his ability than he used to be?

If he is taking vitamins, add some extra Vit E...there are also herbs that will drive up his desire as well.  Talk to someone with some expertise in that field

Answer 14

No healthy young man is habitually too tired for s*x. There is something else going on. Either he is unhappy in the marriage or something is bothering him and he isn't telling you (or the worst, there may be another woman).  Find the reason sooner rather than later.  If you let this fester you could lose your marriage.  s*x is an essential ingredient for a healthy marriage.

Answer 15

My wife says the same thing to me and I feel the same way you do eventhough I'm very fit, look good and all that. So I'm interested also to see if there is something that can be eaten to help her libido.

Answer 16

Men are NEVER to tired for s*x.

He is definitely cheating on you.