My husband threatened to....?

Question

last night he told me that if i did not stop being a b**ch he would "do something horrible to me and get away with it"....I know you are going to say I should leave, but he really is under a lot of stress from his job. I really don't think he is capable of doing anything like that...i hope. Any suggestions???

Answer 1

You're still there?  Get a divorce attorney now and leave.  

Answer 2

There are a couple of things you can do , Stay and be miserable or leave and be in peace. But if you decide to stay then you will have to except him yelling and threaten you with every inch of your life and have to walk on egg shells. I myself wouldn't chose to live like that but that is what you chose and that is that. There isn't any excuse for threats and bad behaviour and there won't be any changes until he knows he needs to change. Good Luck and take a hard look at your husband and his behaviour.

Answer 3

He sounds like a wife beater and abuser. Other than that he is a nice guy !  That's what they said about Charles Manson, Richard Ramirez and Jeffrey Dahmer, so keep lying to yourself and one day you might just be a crime statistic.

Answer 4

if he said the words he could be capable of the actions.

Answer 5

"The Thought is Parent to the Deed".

If he's saying it, you'd better believe he's thinking it, and if he's thinking it, its just one argument away from someone being hurt, and guess who I think that would be?

If he's got an anger problem, don't "allow" him to take it out on you. Don't make excuses for him - that only gives him permission to do it again. Tell him he gets help for it now or you are out of here. Set your boundaries and make sure that they aren't crossed, and threatening you is one that shouldn't be crossed.  

Answer 6

you never know what people are capable of doing if they are that stressed.you need to tell him if it's not you he's angry with,he needs to talk to you.tell him you want to help him not hurt him.if he still treats you the same,stay somewhere else for a while and see if he cools down and misses you.it's not usually just one thing stressing someone out when they take it out on a spouse.goo luck..........

Answer 7

have u considered to stop yelling at him? there re medicines for that. go to doctor, tell u re abnormal, they will prescribe u tranquilizers

Answer 8

Verbalizing a threat that serious is a huge red flag; many women say the exact same thing you are; "I really don't think he is capable of doing anything like that." s***w his stress at his job, ALL of us have stress with our jobs but very few of us go around threatening our spouses.

You add "I hope." What you need to do now is, move out for a while and see what happens It is not worth your life to hang around and find out first hand whether or not he is capable of hurting you or worse.

Answer 9

I'm sure he did dear

Answer 10

I suggest you stop being a b**ch. (lol)

Go for a drive to the beach for the weekend or camping out. You can sign him up for a gym to work out or start going jogging with him. Take him to a comedy club or make an appointment for sessions with a therapist. Hope one of these ideas work out.  Good luck.

Answer 11

Well missy just stop being a b word and you wont have anything to worry about!

Maybe he just needs a hug!

OR OR OR

My 13 year old says maybe hes the b word! ever think about that?

Answer 12

Is Heather serious?  Did you never shout at your parents that you wished they were dead?  Do you never say "Oh I could just kill you!"  when you're exasperated with someone.

Still, your husband has no right to say such dreadful things to you.

It was a nasty, hurtful-and worrying- thing to say.  Wait til he is calm and relaxed and say to him,

"Sometimes when you are angry you say things that make me uncomfortable.  Could you explain to me what you meant when you said..."

Answer 13

If I were you I would be very carful because a lot of cops feel they are above the law and can get away with breaking it. I would invest in a micro recorder and start documenting some of this for a rainy day.  

Answer 14

if you know he is stressed already, whay are you adding to it?  cut the fella some slack.  

Answer 15

Sure, stick around.  And make sure whoever is in charge of ordering your tombstone will make sure it says "I am dead, but my husband was under a lot of stress from his job."

Wake up and smell the coffee.

Answer 16

believe him, do something about it or go coffin shopping

Answer 17

Leave. No man that loves you would say something like that. Stress or not.