My husband told me I could not kiss...?

Question

Background information: We have been together for 12 years. We have 2 children. Lately, for the past 3 months he has been exhibiting a lot of signs of having an affair. For example, lying about his where abouts. dressing up more, very distant when he comes home etc. Last week, we got into a big argument. In the middle of it, he confessed to me that I wasn't a good kisser! I was really hurt and confused. He later apologized. However, this is very strange. I believe he must be comparing me to someone else. What do you think?

Answer 1

It surely means he kissed someone else.

Answer 2

I think the same thing.  Shame on him!

Answer 3

I think maybe you should confront HIM with these suspicions?

Answer 4

Doesn't it seem obvious? I mean after 12 years of marriage and only NOW he says that your not a good kisser? Hum? What is he comparing it to after twelve years dear? Good luck.

Answer 5

go for lessons and learn to kiss

Answer 6

To be quite honest, the lying and dressing up are more telling of what he might be up to than his remark about your not being a good kisser. Those sorts of things are a hint that he may be looking. As for the remark about you not being a good kisser, that sounds like he is trying to start conflict so he can use that as an excuse to do something (or reason why he already has) that he shouldn't. None are good signs. What do I think? He's planning to cheat or already has.  

Answer 7

I think hes cheating on you. Why would he all of a sudden start changing his ways of doing things, dressing different, lying to you and then has the nerve to tell you your not a good kisser?? Hes comparing you to someone else he's been kissing. 12 years is a long time to be with someone then telling you your kissing isn't good enough.. Hes showing some real positive signs of cheating... Do some investigating, check up on him, follow him to see where he goes and who hes with.. then kick her butt to the ground and kick his butt to the curb.. Good Luck

Answer 8

Tell him he's a great kisser and he can kiss your azz.  Then tell him after he's done with that he can pack up his shizza and get the h**l out.  He's cheating and gots to go!

Answer 9

Yes, I agree something is not right.  I feel for you as I have had a recent betrayal and I a still hurting.  He is defintely sending signals of an affair.  I would have him followed, or follow him, put keylogger on his computer, check cell phone calls etc... all the things on the net that give you insight on what to do to catch him and don't tell him you suspect as he will be ready to cover it up.  I am sorry this could be happening because if you love him, it is painful.  Start checking his personal things too for clues.  Good luck.

Answer 10

Yep he is cheating.

Men are all the same they dont know how to stay faithful.

Their either already cheating or looking to cheat.

You cant trust any of them.

Answer 11

hire a dective or hire cheaters.com

Answer 12

I don't know what to say except that must have made you feel so uncomfortable and embarrassed. Of COURSE you can kiss! You're his WIFE. Maybe he did kiss someone else, I don't know but NEW always is more intriguing than routine. So no matter what happened, just be s**y, confident you and step up your game. Pray for your husband and marriage and I pray you feel good about things again soon.  

Answer 13

Maybe he outside got others .

Answer 14

as hurt and angry as you may be...don't say anything to him YET. trust me on that. what you need to do is take a long time to collect evidence of his affair...even if it takes months it will be worth it. when there's enough...show it to his face...and then see what answer he gives...

he will be guilty...then kick his *** out. no second chances...this is because you will be giving him enough time to stop the affair between the time u start and end the actual 'spying'. and if he hasn't stopped by then, then you know how much respect he has for you..

Answer 15

HUGE HUGE HUGE Red Flag. He has been kissing and maybe even doing something else with someone. This is clearly a no brainer. I would try to find some evidence of the cheating if you can and document it. Something to back you up. I am sorry, but someone does not out of the blue say something like this after 12 years of marriage and also showing all the other typical signs of having an affair. Whether it is s*x, just kissing, or talking it doesn't matter.

I suggest you settle this with him now and let him know you know he is having an affair and it has got to stop or else you are leaving.

The go to marriage counseling.  

Answer 16

well u must be doing a good job if he's been there for 12years!!  

Answer 17

I think he found a better kisser. Better nip this in the bud. Find out who is unpaid w***e is and kick her @ss.

Answer 18

You can not take a single word of advice from internet idiots.

Ask a pro or a very close friend.

I love how every answer is from a man bashing L*****n, who is most likely uglier than sin and got even fatter when they thought they had a man locked down.

Takes 2 to keep a relationship going, if he/she cheats, it's also the others fault. Communication will save a whole lot of problems down the road.

BTW, to the men bashers. A study performed in 2007 showed, and proved, women cheat more than men: 40% of women vs 34% of men...Number 1 reason why women don't get caught? They are better liars

http://www.womenlifestyle.com/entry/wome...

Signed

A REAL Man

Answer 19

um he's cheating kick this lying ***** out of your ******* house and stop trying to be the victim u little ***** put yourself together for god sake u have two ******* kids

Answer 20

The pitiful thing about the wife being the last to know, is that she is usually the first to know and needs it smashed in her face to believe it. Yes, my dear, your hubby is cheating. He thinks your kissing is bad because it cannot compare to the other person he is kissing who does not have the problems of the kids, house, bills, etc. attached to the kiss. It is stickily emotional and s**y and taboo. Those signs are real and should be taken as real. You don't have to see the tree fall in the woods to know from the noise that one is down. YA KNOW. COMMON SENSE. Use it and protect yourself sexually---if you choose to deal with him still. He only apologized so that you will not go digging further and find out he has been cheating. Cheaters are stupid that way, they usually tell on themselves and then scurry to cover their tracks, as not to get you into detective mode. So, his 7 year itch took 12 years, or perhaps he had it at 7 and never got caught. Remember, Seek and Ye Shall Find. Believe it, accept it, plan what you want to do about it....stay or leave...but you do not need more proof to know. Good luck with common sense.  

Answer 21

i will admit it doesn't sound very good, but in no way does that mean he`s cheating on you. my wife of 18yrs from time to time was convinced that i was cheating on her. although i have now way of proving it i told her that i never have cheated nor have i ever wanted too.its all part of having some trust in your partner. until they give you a reason not to trust in them.this applies to both of use.

Answer 22

Something is going on.

Answer 23

Immature cheaters who do not know how to play the field should stay home in order not to aggravate their wives.

Answer 24

Your husband did kiss someone else. Men who cheat are idiots, men who live 100% for their significant other are only ones who should be called Men, the others are just confused idiots.

Answer 25

Yes I think also he is having affair. I was married for 23 years, and about 17 years into the marriage my wife at the time had told me that she no longer wanted to kiss me, because I was not a good kisser either. Then 6 years later I had found out that she has been having affair and it went all the way back to the time when she told me that she did not like the way I kissed, but she still liked the way I fu_k I guess, because that never stopped. But you see a kiss is more intimate than intercourse, it has a different feeling and different emotions than just fu_king.