My husband treid to kill himself and my inlaws want to blame it on me?

Question

is that fair? I didnt even know he was in the hospital.

They said I drove him to it. How could I when I work 40 or more hours a week?

Answer 1

no its not fair.

if they make you go to court.

just have faith you didnt.

and when he gets better if he blame it on you then he is not much of a husband

Answer 2

I killed myself over a woman once. She's still driving my car.

Answer 3

Some people never do get the picture - when someone tries to kill themselves, it is because they cannot handle life and its realities. THEY make the choice, THEY decide to do it, and therefore it is ALL on THEM.

Anyone can sit down and come up with a million "reasons" or "causes" that could AFFECT someones decision, but in NO WAY it is YOURS or anyone elses FAULT that anyone tried to take the chicken sh** way out of their problems.

I suggest you DO NOT LISTEN to their c**p, and DO NOT LET them affect you.  Obviously they are not the brightest people on Earth, so consider the source.  Dumb people say dumb things.  

Answer 4

well they say that 80% of male suicides are cause of a woman but if hes a fool to try it so be it..as long as you dont give him the gun its not your fault..p*ssy is powerful on a mans brain

Answer 5

This is more interesting then a game of cludeo...

Answer 6

some parents always blame the spouse, rather than placing the blame where it belongs.sounds as if u really need to get out of this relationship fast.u aren't responsible for this, his problems are within not from the outside.

Answer 7

This is all your husband...he makes his own decisions . Your in laws are just playing the blame game.... You are not responsible for your husbands choices

Answer 8

wow not my problem sorry!

Answer 9

Well I have to say that if my wife put half naked pics of herself in her underwear in her 360 profile, that would make me a little crazy too.   Not that i would try to kill myself, but who knows what else you did, woman!

Answer 10

Maybe you need to cut back on the hours you work in a week and spent time with your hubby.

Answer 11

people in pain often want to blame others, for there problems. I think they do it to ease the pain of there own guilt. You need to be there for your hubby,and exept the family. dont take it to heart examine your own life and motives and dont worry about what others think.the bible says GOD IS JOY AND PEACE you need to find yourself in christ.

Answer 12

That is ridiculous!

But, I think every family blames it on the spouse.

My family always blames my fiancee and I think his would do the same if they knew any thing that goes on with us.

I think you need to tell him that you would like him to be able to come to you when you guys have a problem, and maybe if he tells you in a non aggressive way - Then maybe you could listen without feeling like its directed to you.

The reason they blame you must be because he has talked to someone in your family about an issue you have both had.  

Answer 13

get a lawyer

Answer 14

Maybe they think it because you might not be home with him because you work to much and he just wants to be around you. I think you shoudl try talkign to them about why they think that.

Answer 15

that family has some problems, divorce him, move out, and marry a normal man

Answer 16

You can't "drive" someone to killing themselves. People who try to commit suicide have deep-seated emotional problems already. Ignore the in-laws, and if they get really nasty and in-your-face, tell them that it would make most sense to look for the roots of such significant emotional malfunctions in the person's upbringing.

Answer 17

Well since you didnt give much info, it looks like you're getting simple answers.

First of all, you must be separated?  Because how would you NOT know if your husband went to the hospital?

Secondly, your in-laws are just worried about their son.  They probably asked him why he did this, and he said he's having problems w/ you, so of course they're trying to protect their son.

How does working full time have anything to do w/ this?

*shrugs*  You're not responsible for his behavior.  However, maybe he's desperate to get you to show you care about him?  (Your question sounds pretty callous and uncaring...)

Answer 18

Your in-laws are stupid.  

Answer 19

wow..

i would say divorce..

and i think you shouldnt ask this on Yahoo answers..

talk to YOUR family about it..  

Answer 20

dont listen to them

Answer 21

well. if you work so often. and he doesn't get to see you that often. maybe you could of spent more time with him. noticed changes, and tried to cheer him up. But I cant take sides either way. you should supply more detail. But it is no ones right to blame anybody else for an attempted suicide. other than the attemptee himself. You have a right to be ngery at them. But when something bad happens it is human nature to point fingers at anyone, even if they are unrelated, to the actual incident.

Answer 22

Why what did HE say? Do you abuse him or drive him nuts? How could they ever think such a thing? You are leaving way too much out.

Answer 23

Talk with them. Then, support your husband and help him through a tough time.  

Answer 24

ummmmmmmmm thats kinda disturbing. if u need proof ask the people u work with to defend u.