My husband wants another baby in a couple of years? *Read Details*?

Question

He has a 15 y/o daughter (my step-daughter) and she is 21 weeks pregnant. We have a 3 y/o daughter, a 23 month old son, a 6 month old son, and I am pregnant again. *complete surprise* He told me last night that he always wanted 6 kids. He never told me that ever before last night. I mean he told me that he wanted a big family but never an actual number until last night. He says once our 15 y/o and her daughter are well off he would like one more. (Like in 5 years)

What do you think?, Do you have a big family?

Answer 1

I think wow you have your hands full!

It seems your husband has plenty of enough children to love & a future grand child. You are the one carrying these children, just tell him that you do not want anymore. Express to him how you feel.

Who knows maybe in 5 years he might not want anymore.

It's funny my older sister got pregnant at 15(had a girl) and my mom got pregnant(had a girl) same year, and now her niece is older than her. It was always kinda weird.

Answer 2

I do have a big family{ if you call 6 kids big}. But i also have a lot of relatives. My great grandma on my mom's side had 9 children, my grandma had 6 my mom had 4. My grandma on my dads side had 10 children my dad had 6.

If you don't want anymore more kids i think you should tell him it would be the best thing to do.

Answer 3

If you don't want more than tell him that and stand your ground. It's you who will be carrying that child and giving birth to him/her and if you don't want them then you have the final say. I don't have a VERY big family but I am expecting #3.

Answer 4

Then tell him and stand your ground. With all those kids in the house, you'll have your hands full enough, make sure he does his fair share of work, and he might change his mind soon enough. Good luck!

Answer 5

If you don't want anymore, I think it's time to sit him down and have an honest discussion with him.

You already have about a million kids and there's nothing wrong with that, but if you don't want anymore, you shouldn't feel obligated to have anymore just for his happiness.

Five kids is still a lot of kids and honestly, the teenaged daughter is going to be depending upon you a lot for care for her impending child.

Just make him understand that while you do care about his happiness and you respect that he wants 6 kids, he already has 5 wonderful children and that's all you can manage at the moment.

Answer 6

I have 4 kids with my ex fiance, my daughters are 6 & 5 and my sons are 4 & 3..  My current boyfriend does not have any kids but if things workout and we get married we would like to try for at least one maybe two. That would be in a couple of years. I'm 24 now... So yes, I have a big fam. and possibly even bigger in a couple of years.  

Answer 7

he may well of changed his mind by then it going to be a lot of work with kids ye will have already. if your doing most of the rareing then it defiently up to you and make it clear if you dont want any more but its a long way off maybe youll fell differently in the future so tell him you wont rule it out but also tell it may not happen at all. theres nothing wrong with having a big family so long as you can cope emotionally and money wise.

Answer 8

I would crawl in a corner and cry!

I am an only child, as is my husband, as will be our 5 year old daughter.  It's a family tradition.  But, to each their own.

If YOU however don't want anymore, you are not obligated to give him more kids.  If it was so important to him, he should have discussed this a long time ago.