My husband wants me to tattoo his daughters name on me...?

Question

O.K...So I have a daughter from a previous marriage, (my first husband passed away) and we also have a daughter together.

He also has a daughter from a previous marriage. He is getting all 3 daughters names tattooed on himself. O.K. So his daughter doesnt live with us and we see her only every other weekend, sometimes she may extend her visits up to a week. My daughter (from my first marriage) only knows my husband now as her father (she was still in the womb when her father passed ). His daughter has lived with her mother the entire time, resulting in me not really loving her as completely my own. Don't get me wrong, I love this child with all my heart. But she is not part of me. She has an other life with a mommy of her own. (How would her mother feel if I tattooed her daughters name on me) I did not ask my husband to get my daughters name on his body. (but I also see no reason why he wouldn't, as for he has raised her as his own.

I mentioned that i wanted to do MY daughters names on me, and he replied (we'll call her mindy) "You're gonna get Mindys' too right?"

I was stunned and didn't know how to respond, so I told him the truth, I don't see her as my own (I know it sounds terrible guys, but it IS how I feel) He didn't like it at all, and it led to an argument.

So, the question is.

How should I handle this situation without feelings getting hurt.

I should be able to get my daughters names on me, but don't see how that's going to be possible without hurt feelings.

Answer 1

Why do women do this?

I am sorry but I have seen so many lovely men take on other womens kids as their own and love them with all their heart - yet women have a problem doing the same with their kids.

What a lovely gesture that he is having 2 of your kids names on him - and what a horrible gesture you offer back by repelling his kid in return.

You should not have offered to have any children on your arm at all rather than embalzon the fact that you have favourites across yourself.

He wears his heart on his sleeve - yours is as cold as ice!

I have a step-mother that treats me and my children like dirt - and refuses to babysit or help me in any way - yet her kids and grandkids she expects my dad to bend over backwards for.

This is what you really feel despite your protestations for love for his child.

I can tell you now - that man will not forget this - it is a slap in his face - do not be suprised if he goes looking for someone else.

You can't help your feelings - but you could have hid them.

You know it will be hurtful for him and his child to see - you know that your kids will see it and know what it means too.

I tell you what to do - tell him the truth - tell him that your kids are his kids and his kids are - his kids!

You have seriously damaged your relationship you silly woman.

Spurn his child - spurn the man!