My husband wants second child after 13 yrs of marriage. we hav 11 yr old son ,i hav tried to convince him but

Question

he is firm about it, i am 37 & he is 41, i am very confused now what to do ,i dont want to start all over again .bt he says u will thank me after

some yrs,i am now tired of this issue pls help me urgently it will be a big help... thanks

Answer 1

Get a copper T inserted and take your doctor into confidence, i guess in India we have some injections as well, to be takes ever 3 months to avoid pregnancy. If you dont want another issue just dont go for it.

Answer 2

Dear friend,

Don't make clashes over this issue. Well, if he wants it, ok it, Wait for another two years.No sooner the second issue comes, get yourself operated (Tubectomy Operation). So, the matter will be over once for ever. OR you can get a loop fixed inside (Don't ever inform your husband) he will take it in a way, that even after attempting a lot he is not getting it. Apparantly, you should not object to his any proposal in this regard. So, the matter will be automatically sorted out

Answer 3

Age is not the matter but you both agree on this issue or act and one thing that you are able to give all comfort to your child.

Answer 4

Age is a BIG issue for me when it comes to having children. By the time this unconcieved child is 10, your husbans will be 51. How is a 51 yr old going to be able to run around and play with the child and look after him/her at that age. Also, you will be feeling the strain of having a child much more at your age. Im not saying your old or anything, but for having another child, i think that time has past. It also sounds like you know all this and you dont want another child. Its your body and its your choice if you want a child or not. If your husband cant understand this then he obviuosly isnt thinking about your feelings in this issue. Try talkin to him again but if he doesnt underatand, you must tell him straight that you are not having another child and this decision is final.

Answer 5

If you don't want one, then don't have one. Tell him that you are sorry, but you will not give him another child. I'm sorry but this issue will probably lead to divorce

Answer 6

better do it for your husband and his feelings..

don't think about others and just give him what he wants

Answer 7

Whats wrong in having another baby  it might be little late but not that

much late if u have no physical problem and financially u guys r ok

go for it.

Answer 8

If u really don't want one, then DON'T have one!U would love the child, but it wouldn't be the same!! After some years,the child could probably even feel that u didn't really want him/her. My daughter is 37 & her & her husband just had a baby boy after 15 years!!They & their daughter (15) are so very very happy it's unreal!! Each person is different & feels differently about things, so go with your gut feeling!! Don't have a child! miss_myke38

Answer 9

If you don't one, then don't do it! Psh. "You'll thank me after some years." What is that supposed to mean?! You have a right in voicing your opinion and your body.

Good luck. God bless.

Answer 10

Go to a gynaecologist with him. Most doctors advise against having kids in late 30s & after. I guess that should sort out this issue. You can keep your regular doc informed about the issue & tell the doc what should he/she tell your hubby.  

Answer 11

It sounds unusual.

People will make fun of u.

Moreover u r growing old and its hard to bring up a small child for many years, atleast for 20 years.

On 25 he will feel shame during his marriage of having a mother of around 65.

Answer 12

let him crib.  u have got one thats all.  tell him on his face n in case if he doesnt understand ths take pills after u guys do it.  n still if he insists u show him up with a baseball bat on hi d*** n ask him if he is still interested.  Indian men r too much