My husband wants to adopt my 3 year old son.?

Question

I contacted my sons bio father (as the attorney suggested) and he said that he would agree if that meant that he no longer had to pay child support. Well a few months later he changed his mind and decided that he would contest it. My son has been around my husband since he was 1 and does NOT know his bio father.

Does anyone know about equitable adoptions and if they are recognized in Maryland?

One attorney said that if the father contest my husband will not be able to adopt my son.

PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer 1

He will not be able to adopt until the father relinquishes his parental rights. If he hasn't been paying child support, go after him for back child support and he will consider giving in even more. If you can prove that he is an awful father, you may be able to get his rights taken away.

Answer 2

No matter what the biological father has a right to see his son.  Instead of having this legal battle that your son will resent you for later in life.  Try talking to the father and come up with a compromise.

Answer 3

The only way to adopt a child is to have the biological parents sign off all rights to the child.  If one contests the adoption and will not sign off rights, there is nothing that you can do short of getting them charged and found guilty of being an unfit parent and having their rights taken from them.  

As for not knowing his bio father, that is something that could be used for a case of abandonment, IF his father does not pay support in on a regular basis.

You'll have to think about why he might be contesting....could he WANT to be in the child's life?  Or is it just to cause problems with you and your husband (I.E. jealousy)  

At any rate, if your hubby is all he knows as Daddy, and calls him that, that is all that matters.

Anyone can be a father.  It takes someone special to be a Daddy!

Answer 4

Listen all you have 2 do is go 2 court with the real bio-father and let the Judge know that the bio-father just decided 2 step n2 the childs life and that he hasn't been around until you got married. He has no right 2 try and destroy your marriage this way. Seek some real legal advice and good luck....you deserve 2 keep your child in a happy home with you...."GOD BLESS!

Answer 5

It is most likely that if the biological father contests the adoption, then your husband will not be able to adopt your son.  If the biological father's rights are terminated (usually only happens in abuse cases), then your husband would be free to adopt.  Good luck.

Answer 6

If this is only about the boys last name then why don't you just have it legally changed. Also, even if bio-dad contests the step -parent adoption, a judge can decide to go ahead with it. ( That is the case on Oregon anyway). Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Im sorry I cant be much help on this topic cause I dont know anything about adoption laws.But my guess is that if your ex fights it your new husband will not be able to adopt your son.I wish I could give you a better answer,I do however wish you the best.

Answer 8

whats in a name? your son knows who's there for him, to tuck him in at night, chase away the bad dreams, kiss the boo boos, hug him when he wants it or needs it, whats in a name? That child knows that there is someone there for him

NO MATTER WHAT! Adoption is a piece of paper that says you  are now free to love this child , support this child and be there for this child  for the rest of your life . Well aren't you doing that anyway? Let it go! the child knows. God Bless you both, and good luck