My husband wants to m********e to p**n and I want s*x?

Question

he has stood there for 2 to 3 hours and masturbated to p**n while im laying in the bed watching and he will say why dont you do the same and he feels uncomfortable. I tell him i want him and not my hand. I feel so out of place. I am a very sexual person and I can understand masturbating it is a very natural thing. But for hours and its not even like im in the room. His main focus is the p**n. I got mad the other nite and said some things because i felt really left out and he got mad and said I was sick and called me stupid. That I have a problem with him playing with himself. I dont know what to do. Im afraid that if this keeps up Im going to end up looking for someone else to satisfy me. And I really dont want this. Please somebody tell me something

Answer 1

sounds as though he might be bored with you, try to spice things up

Answer 2

I'm speaking from a woman's point of view & one who also loves intimacy in every aspect.

First and foremost, you are correct it's natural for a man or a woman to m********e and it can occur before intercourse or after intercourse. Intimacy consists of a variety of things or usual activities, especially when one has been married for a long period of time. It requires more interaction with one another to keep the fire lit so that one does not grow bored with their partner.

I see it this way... if your husband enjoys self masturbation why not join in with him because it's evident this is something that turns him on. Why give the pleasure to another TV/video chick when he'll be turned on just as much while watching you? We women tend to believe that there are things that are out of our element or character & that if we indulge just a little it'll degrade us.  Honestly, I see that as a problem... we ask why our men/husband does the things they do (i.e. cheat, watch p**n on TV or the web or even call the s*x line for phone s*x with an unidentified party). But what we fail to realize is we as women/wives have gotten so comfortable with our relationship that we don't need to do the things we used to do before marriage... and this is where majority of the women/wives fall short.  You are WRONG!!! You have to learn to maintain your man/husband's interest when it comes to the great love of s*x. And this will involve trying new things and venturing outside of your normal activities... ROUTINE is BORING.

My belief is what you won't do another woman will do (and this applies to the men as well).  Ladies every man wants a woman in the street & a freak in the bed, therefore, you have to learn to be his s**t, bit**, who**, and his wife all in one.

They key is knowing & learning your man's cycle... you have to know when he wants Victoria (the wife) and  Michelle, Kimberly, Angela, Anna, etc ( the many freaks on any given day).  And it doesn't stop here because you can't give him s*x in the same positions or places all the time because the idea is to keep him on his toes & guessing what's next. Role playing & dressing yourself helps to keep the flair growing in the relationship/marriage... find out or try blind folds, handcuffs, paddles, etc with one of the freaks of the week you'll pretend to be.

And when you are his wife the excitement doesn't stop there... change your look up sometime as well and how you get dress or undress in front of him. Strip tease him a little, walk around in s**y lingerie, etc.  It's not hard to please a man if you know what you're doing, the secret is to eliminate the shy girl inside of you and learn to dominate him.  

Cheating isn't the answer, how this turns out depends on on you.

I promise by adding some spice into the relationship/marriage your man is guaranteed to leave the p**n alone.  I can go on and on, but I think you’ve got the picture… Good Luck!

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with masturbation, it's natural. But your guy has a fixation on it and sounds quite the voyeur. He is the one with the problem.  

Answer 4

there's not much you can do...

your husband seems to be addicted to p**n...

try getting him some help...

also you should tell him to give you what you need, and stop watching so much p**n or you will find someone who can fulfill your needs...

Answer 5

he has a problem. If he isn't regularly having a sexual relationship with you yet he continues to take care of himself then he is selfish. You will only end up resenting him. You didn't get married to have him take care of himself he could do that while he was single. I would divorce him in a heartbeat. He is the one who is sick & stupid not you. Forget looking for someone else while staying with him, just dump him & find someone who doesn't want to play alone.

Answer 6

Crank your ipod on some really hard rock,

and just start running.

vodka, chocolate, running, and hard rock, and then more vodka..but not at the same time OK?

Answer 7

send him to his room and call me. i'll help you...... always a pleasure to help a woman in sexual need ....

Answer 8

first of all you need to figure out why he is doing this. why is he picking p**n over a woman, because a woman can give more pleausre.after you have figured that out, have a real heart to heart conversation with him. when you have completely identified the problem. act on it. try to make yourself a little bit different then you were before. if you have gained weight, try to lose it. if you dont dress nice and have stopped taking care of yourself, start doing that. go to the beauty parlor and get your hair done. go to victoria secret and get things that spice up a perosns s*x life. men are visual creatures, so you have to be visually creative, and that depends on you. cheating is NEVER the answer.

good luck

Answer 9

you're husband is not alone with this kind of thing,

i thing but when my wife is not around.

you should look at your self may be you not taking care beauty,

be seductive always by wearing seductive underwear and perfumes

if not ok just do the same and he feel arouse and like to have s*x with you just keep going and ignore him