My husband wants what i just cant do! im depressed help

Question

my husband of 4 years has spent a year overceas getting a visa into my country and i couldnt stand his country thats why i couldnt be with him, anyway after many months without s*x he told me he saw a porno movie and felt guilty so isnt guna see anymore however he wants to see me in minni skirts and do different things in bed but the thing is im quite chubby and have always been. i cant wear a mini!! like they do. i feel loads of pressure to be thin but weight is hard to get rid of even though i am doing the right stuff. what do i do? i cant be s**y like them and i never cared about it untill he saw the movie now im just feeling crappy! dont say any rude remarks please. i need mature answers. and he comes back in 2 weeks

Answer 1

He's your husband he shouldnt give 2 s***s if your chubby, he knew you were chubby when he merried you and he knows ur chubby now. who cares

Answer 2

yeah don't stress about it...  think of it this way, he knows what you look like.

He would rather be in bed with you, cubbs and all.    It's better than you not doing it and him going to find someone else to be neked with isn't it?

Answer 3

trust me hun

NO ONE IN THE WORLD, looks like the girls in those pornos

those girls are all fake b***s, fake ***, oiled up and fake hair, fake EVERYTHING

if ur husband is pressuring u to look like them, then he isnt truly interested in YOU and is being a HUGE JERK

let him watch his pornos, but tell him not to expect u to look like them cuz u are how u are n thats how its gonna be

if he pushes it farther, ask him why he doesnt look like the guys in the pornos with the rock hard abs, nice *** and a 15 inch p***s??

that shud get his blood boiling :)

tell him u refuse to have s*x with him until he promises to last 4 hrs during s*x and has s*x with u in EVERY SINGLE POSITION and get the same body as the p**n star :)

Answer 4

My advice is find something that makes you feel s**y and maybe he would get more out of that than a mini anyway.....Honey you have to know that you are a beautiful and s**y and adored woman before you can show it .......You need confidence.....You need to look at yourself and say I am a beautiful woman and he loves me and I am deserving of his love.

Answer 5

you will see when he gets back he will love even more than he used to.And if he wants to see you in a mini than just where it I'm sure he'll go crazy for you I say this because my husband is always tell me that I look good in mini's and I myself think I look awful so you will see you have nothing to worry about

Answer 6

Well seeing as you two have been married for 4 years you should just sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel.If you don't feel comfortable doing something new in bed then don't do it.Same with the mini.I am quite chubby also so i know how your feeling.I had the same issues with my husband and i told him what i thought and how i felt and here we are 22yrs & 4 kids later happily married yet.Communication is very important.If he really loves you then he will love you for the person you are and not make you do anything you don't want to do.Good luck girlfriend.  

Answer 7

I know what you mean, My bf wants me to strip tease for him and I cant stand it because he knows that im currently chubbier than I used to be.

I just dont feel s**y when im squeezing into something that doesnt look good.

The key is to find something that you are comfy in, and then act so s**y in it he wont notice its not the same outfit that they are wearing.

Also - try watching the p**n with him, and look at all types, girls larger and smaller than you, men with bigger and smaller genitals than him, so you both get used to the idea that you are hot together nomatter what a pornstar looks like or does.

  

Answer 8

just talk to him about it, say that you don't feel comfortable in a mini skirt.  he married you because he loves you not because of they way you look :)

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Answer 9

Maybe it is not the "look" the minis, but the "attitude" of them. My wife sometimes wears just a tshirt, sometimes one that comes to her waist, sometimes to mid butt, sometimes to miniskirt length. I know that under that tshirt is my woman and nothing but my woman. Drives me crazy. She has very small b***s (I LOVE THEM!!!) and is very self concious about them, so doesn't like to parade around with them on display.  She is comfortable in the shirts and it has the desired effect on me. It has worked for almost 42 yrs.