My husband went to the night club with his friends after work. is he really honest to me?

Question

He came home 1 a.m. and his shirts is smell perfume of the girls, and he can't ive me any reason why there is obvious smell on his shirt. everytime he came home from the club, he told me about a stories about the girl that work there,and where they came from, and buy drinks for them. What should i do? Do you know what his doing? do you think he is not satisfied with me? beacuse he will say, "It is just a guy thing". We have fight every time he come home from the club.It happend twice now. I am sick, can't sleep, and i don't know what to do. He said he do love me, but why he is doing this kind of thing?

Answer 1

He is doing this because he clearly doesn't have any respect for you or your marriage. Your husband should not be out in a club, without you, until 1am! You need to tell him how you feel, but it seems like he may not be ready to settle down and deal with marrid life.

Answer 2

I am a guy, from the main question, he might juss hang out or dance with other girls, which is not to bad, cut him some slack. But when you started to explain it, honestly he might be pickin up girls. Make sure your giving him good s*x and head and that your not ugly. If you are doing these things right and he still does this then you might want to start thinking about another person to be with.  He probably doen't appreciate you. Good luck, pray, ask God.

Answer 3

let him b himself  

Answer 4

and you're okay with this??

I will NEVER be with a man like this... EVER!!!

I'm sure he loves you but he doesn't respect you... he doesn't respect you enough to just have you only, he wants more and more and more... and spends his money on these types of places and women, that is a disgrace! and that is a betrayal to you... he's selfish, he wants to have his cake and eat it too, and those types of man should be the last ones that you should be with.

Answer 5

Yeah his "guy thing" is going to bars and dancing with women and maybe having s*x with them.Pop up unannounced at  the place he goes to one night.Kind of disguise yourself so you can catch him.Then let him have it with both barrels hon.

Answer 6

It's hard to answer.  you should know him well enough to answer this better then any of us.

Did his behavior change? Is he being more secretive then he used to?  Do you trust his friends?

My husband goes out with his friends once in a while, but if he was buying drinks for other women, I would not stand for that. If he goes out to a bar to hang out with his friends, it may be innocent, but if he goes out with other guys and interacts as if he was single - that's a no-no. Why are you not going with him?  How often does it happen?  do you go out with just the girls to a club? if you do, does he seem suspicious?  We judge others according to ourselves, so if he is doing something that he should not be, he would also be accusing you of it.

If you don't trust him and doubt him, perhaps you should not be together?  or perhaps you are overreacting?