My husband works out of town and is only home on the weekends. ?

Question

This past weekend, while unpacking his bag to wash clothes, I found 3 hypodermic needles... 2 unopened, and one used. He is NOT diabetic, and has a history of prescription drug abuse, but I was shocked to find these and still am unsure what to do. When I asked him about it, he just nonchalantly said they were from a long time ago (before we were even married) and he said he had used them to inject himself with Nubain while he was trying to get off prescription drugs. I just left it alone to avoid an arguement, but now that he is gone, I don't know what to do! This is my 3rd marriage, and I have 2 kids from my 1st marriage. I do love him, but I have seen this pattern over & over with him, and now the needles have scared me! He also left town for work without leaving us any money for groceries or bills, which he usually does. My kids start school this week, and need school supplies and everything, but now I'm more concerned about whether or not we should get the heck out of here! But, I have little money and no place to go! Somebody please help! Thank you.

Answer 1

I don't buy the needle story sorry.Can you call him about the school money?he doesn't even leave you a credit card for emergencies? My marriage has always been OUR money not either one of us giving to the other. I know now days not all marriages are equal but this seems really odd. Kids are very hardy and no one should stay in a relationship of mistrust or bad influences and arguments there are womens shelters out there and there are many single Mom's and drugs always come before anyone else. sorry! is it worth working on?? if not get out fast! There is assistance and programs to help you along every step of the way. Good Luck  

Answer 2

Sounds like a tough situation, Nicole.  This may be a bit beyond my realm of expertise, however... it sounds to me like he's using.  Is it common for people to inject themselves with something while trying to detox from something else?  I don't think it's common for people to inject themselves with anything.  If he was concerned about it he would have gotten rid of them.  He knows you do his laundry.  Can you speak with him and tell him you need money for bills and school supplies?  It's possible that he fears you're onto him.  That could be the reason why he's deviating from his routine and neglecting your financial needs.  He may feel as if somethings "going down" and you would consider leaving him for his behavior.  Don't put your kids through anything you don't need to.  If you must leave, give yourself some time and build the resources you need to in order to feel comfortable.  If he's being a jerk he will end up hurting you along with himself.  Trust your intuition.  Women have that gift.

Answer 3

Always make enough money so you dont have to rely on a drug addict to support your children. Dont believe his BS. Like you said, you've seen this pattern before. Get out, even if you have to go to a shelter at first.

Answer 4

I hope by now that you are smart enough to know he is doing drugs. There has to be someone out there to help you.

Answer 5

You have to find somewhere to go!!  You can not expose your children to that!!!  Where is there Dad?  Maybe he can take the kids for a while

Answer 6

start doing the guy next door he's banging other chicks

Answer 7

you sure know how to pick em if i was you i would get an aids test firstly then call your parents and go and stay with them a while untill you get through to him he cant have needles around the house incase the kids get hold of them

Answer 8

3 marriages and all are losers?

Why do you pick this guys?

I think you are better off alone to give yourself peace of mind.

Answer 9

Number one DONT listen the first answer you got from the idot who told you he was doing other chicks.  I hate people who have NO compassion and just want to put their lousy 2 cents worth.  Sorry I am almost as bad by going on about that.  I have only suggestions.  Do you and your husband have good communications usually??  If so try talking to him some more about this.  Have you noticed strange behavior??  Like not calling when he should, not being happy when hes home,  is he evasive??  I know more questions than answers.  But try to think rationaly and think back to the last month, has his attitude been different?  Have you been with him before or after his drug abuse?  If you need to leave there are shelters but I know thats very hard to go from a home to that.  From experience it isnt always worth the stay.  See if you can get some professional advice.  There are free services out there.  Its just alot of leg work sometimes.  Best of luck to you.  I hope its what he said it was.

Answer 10

You know, you do not have to make any decision right now about your marriage.  What you do need to think about is taking yourself and your children to a safe haven.  Where or whomever that may be.  Because you do not want to have CPS ("Child Protectective Services") at your door with the police to place your children in foster care because there home and parents where deemed unfit.  Unfit because one is an addict and the other knows the use is going on.  You will never forgive yourself.  Right now he is to worried about how he will obtain what he wants, and it's not you because he didn't even leave his children food.  Let go for now and go to a place where nice people can help you and your children.  Everything else can be replaced - but not your children.

Answer 11

you do know how to pick them i would say you have a addiction too,  the wrong men.

Answer 12

Dear friend .

If in your heart you feel he is using again and for him to leave you and the kids with no money well that just is wrong ,If I felt strongly that he is using get your baby's out of there .I have a husband that was hooked on cocaine along time it just about killed me I was tired of all his drama and helping him when  he would over use so I gave him a firm choice drugs or us my kids had seen to much ,And he is clean as can be now .So girl friend you don't need this in your life they promise and promise and until they are ready heck with us .Please go  stay with a family member or better than that send him a not to not bother coming back home to you.We are always the ones that has to move out  and I refused to .I wish you all the luck ever and I hope you do what is best for you and most important the kids .Best wishes  

Answer 13

it could be steroid to keep him powerful and happy.....

check his arms while he sleep.If you see any mark then heroin ,....

Answer 14

Scary.  3rd marriage?  No offense, but it sounds like you need to take a deep look at the guys you choose.  

Left you without money for food?  Get out of there.  Call social services and see if you can get some support.  Get on-line and search for church groups etc. for help.

I'm so sorry for you and especially the kids.

Answer 15

I think you better find another place to live with those kids...

  he sounds like a drug addict who took the family money to buy more drugs.

Answer 16

obviously he is on drugs again. you can try to work it out and seek help for him but please think of the kids first and what is best for them.