My husbands 17 year old adopted daughter wears low cutt blouses and she looks S****y. He doesn't care.

Question

He won't have a talk with her about dressing appropriatly. While it's great to be proud of your body she goes over board they let her have a belly button ring at age 13 is that insane? It's embarrasing to go out with her. He seems to like to run around town with Ms. Hooters is this wrong? I think he looks like a perv No I'm not jelouse I just don't think he should alow her to walk around town looking like a working girl it's quite sad.

Answer 1

I sympathize with you. My neighbor admits that he loves to see his daughters dress provocatively. Although it may seem perverse, but many females like for all types of men to look at the shape of their b*****s and buttocks. Unfortunately, many females of this generation lean more towards revealing a lot more of themselves than in previous generations. In fact, if you look at the way prostitutes dress when they're working the streets, it's very similar to many of the outfits that females are wearing everywhere. Morally speaking, I truly commend you for caring enough to seek advice. I agree with you, it is unnecessary and embarassing for these beautiful girls to degrade themselves in such a manner. I see it as a provoking mechanism that directs many men toward child pornography and eventually rape. It's no wonder why s*x offenders are dominating this generation. Undoubtedly, if you feel any slight possibility that your husband would eventually consent to being seen with a morally-dressed presentable young lady, instead of Ms. Hooters, you should continue any effort to show him how beautiful his daughter can be without the S****y look. Please don't give up, they need your strength and wisdom.

Answer 2

If you are going somewhere together as a family then tell her nicely to wear something that does not bare the mid rift or cleavage.  Let her choose her own clothes within those guidelines when you are out together.  Let your hubby know that his daughter could try and show you some respect when you are around by agreeing with this minor adjustment.  Have a hanerchief, silk scarf or pashmina around for those lunches or dinners together.

Answer 3

i feel for ya. i see this all the time at my sons school. i think where are the parents and why do they let there kids go out in public like that! no way in heck would i put up with that. i am old school , if i were you i would not go out in public with her, if she lives with you , you have a right to set the rules,  

Answer 4

She's 17, almost a legal adult, and I doubt she'll take much heed to anything he says.  If he doesn't have a problem with it and she isn't getting in trouble at school or work for her attire, then nothing needs to be said.

Answer 5

I don't have a picture to go on here, so I don't know if you're overeacting about the low-cut blouses.  Having a belly button ring at 13 is really not that big of a deal these days.  You say that he looks like a perv walking around with her--are they inappropriately touchy-feely or anything like that or is it just how she dresses?  If it is just her manner of dress, it is probably obvious to the people around him that he is her daddy and not her sugar daddy.  My suggestion is: to you--take a look at how other 17-year olds are dressing.  Is hers grossly more provocative or about the same?  To him--take a look at how other people, especially men are reacting to her.  If he notices jaws dropping as she jiggles by or men drooling as they stare at her cleavage, maybe he will change his thinking.  If he seems to be paying more attention to her than to you, there are problems beyond what I think that the yahoo answers community can help with and maybe some family counseling is in order.  If he scoffs at the idea or says that you are the one with the problem, not him, remind him that a family unit is only as strong as each of its members.  One of the best gifts that we can give to our children is to model a healthy, loving marriage.

Answer 6

well my dad is a colonel in the army and has his phd and my mom is a medical doctor and they let me get my belly button pierced when i was 14[im 19 now and took it out when i was 16 because my now husband, then boyfriend accidently ripped it out while we were wresting...ouch!]. its not that big of a deal. as far as low cut shirts, she is 17, its how 17 year olds are. dont worry, she will be fine =]

Answer 7

What the h**l is this ???

This is a question or u r sharing ur experience with us

what the f**k is this ???

First u should learn the proper way of asking the question

make the question clear first then i will answer it

otherwise what i have came to know after reading ur story or u can say problem "u should go and talk to ur hubby and her adopted dauter together and try to make them feel what exactly u r feeling"

Hoping this will help u

Answer 8

Look a suitable groom for her to teach .

Answer 9

He prob. isn't a pervert,he's just proud of his daughter,but in the wrong way.You don't just show off your child's beauty,you show off their intelligence too.Seems like he is setting her up for a life where she depends solely on her looks.Your right that is sad.  

Answer 10

teens especially young ones sometimes like to wear things just to shock you. and sometimes they are just trying to be like everyone else and look at the clothes they offer for teens in stores. But most of all, please, I wish you would refer to her as his daughter and not adopted daughter unless its something concerning adoption. She would feel so much more welcome in your family. Adoption makes her his full and legal daughter. Saying she was an adopted daughter in this situation has nothing to do with the situation.

Answer 11

Leave her alone its not your life !!!and you have to remeber shes not your daghter and has no mom or dad so stop b***h

Answer 12

Perhaps you’re feeling a little left out in the family equation, though you’re supposedly ‘mom’. She 17, your husband’s daughter (even if she’s adopted) and as there doesn’t seem to be room for you in the bonding, it’s hard for you to butt in.

Besides, she’s almost an adult, so it’s unlikely that any traditional parent-child transactions are going to work at this late stage. You might put aside your obvious disapproval of her appearance and fashion sense. Relate in a more adult-to-adult way, so she too understands that it’s possible for you two to interact as individual, mature women, if not mother and daughter.