My husbands brother and his girlfriend have been evicted, they want to come here again.....?

Question

Which was a DISASTER the first time. The brother doesn't like me much, I don't like him much and he thinks he gets to threaten my kids with spankings even though he KNOWS we do not spank or threaten our kids with violence to make them behave. He has been in my face numerous times telling me what a bi*** I am, telling me to f*** off, called me a hippy n****r b**** (made no sense to me) among other things.

If he asks to come here my husband WILL NOT say no. He can't say no to his brother and his family ties with him will just not let him say no. Is there anything I can do short of packing up the kids and leaving until they are gone?

Answer 1

If your husband has that little respect for you and allows his brother to treat you that way, then I would personally leave.

Answer 2

You have to be firm with your husband and insist that his brother and his foul mouth not be allowed to stay in your home.  It is a terrible example for your children and they should be a priority.

Answer 3

if he gets in your face then tell him to get the **** out!!!!!!its your house and you don't need to put up with it.

Answer 4

If this was me (and they'd had better thank the good lord it isn't lol) I'd raise all kinds of h**l.  They would NOT be allowed in MY house.  He, first of all, can not tell you how to raise your kids.  That's his first mistake.  Second mistake, he should not be disrespecting you in your house.  Husband should not even be considering them staying again.  You are his wife. That is ya'll's house.  Nobody, not even his momma, should not be disrespecting his queen.  And if he isn't going to put his foot down, give him the ultimatum.  Either I find a place to stay with our kids until they leave or you can say no.  Your choice.

Answer 5

make your husband decide.....pack up your stuff and leave with your children, you shouldnt have to live in that type of enviroment especially when it is your own home.

Answer 6

Tell your husband it's you or him, worst case secenario.

Explain all this to your husband and tell him you will not put up with it at all. Tell him one wrong word and he (or you) is out of there.

Good luck. I wouldn;t do it again, "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me". You are setting yourself up for a disaster if he comes back.

Answer 7

Stand your ground. This is not your problem..you have children to worry about. They do need this kind of problem in their lives.  Just tell your husband that you already once went along with it and it was awful. I'd say pack up and leave if until they leave. It only seems likethe right thing to do. Your husbands first priority should be making sure you are taken care of along with your Children.

Sorry you are going through this.

Answer 8

I feel for you. My husband and I were in the same situation with his brother and girlfriend. They were both on drugs and were supposed to be completely clean and going to an outpatient rehab. They were supposed to be drug tested 3 times per week. I did not want them there. We have 4 kids and I didn't want them around my kids. But I wanted to help, thinking they were being honest. They were playing us. They were smoking in the room we let them stay in when I told them that was absolutely not going to happen. The room had a door to outside. All they had to do was go outside. They lied about everything. First of all, they weren't even showing up for their outpatient class. Second of all, I found a piece of paper from the school with their counselor/instructor's name and number so I called. I told him everything. How I thought they were lying and still using drugs, and how I thought they were not even going to class. I told him that I didn't really even want them around my kids. He said they do not drug test there and that he couldn't really tell me anything because it was confidential. But he did tell me to go with my instincts. They were out of our house! They just wanted a free place to live and free meals. I was so upset. You can't help people like that. All they want to do is use people. If your brother-in-law is treating you and the kids like that, your husband is wrong to ever consider letting them in the house. I would put my foot down and say definitely NO! If it came to leaving, I guess you will see who he is committed to, you and the kids or his brother who is a jerk! His brother needs to find someone else to live with. Maybe a buddy of his who has no children that they could split the rent with. Why did he get evicted anyways? I feel for you. That is a hard situation, but your husband is the man and he needs to just tell his brother, "I'm sorry, but last time it just didn't work out. I don't like the way you treat my wife or my kids. You will have to find somewhere else to stay". That is my opinion. I hope everything works out for you and your family.

~Almost everyone is saying pack up and leave if he let's them stay. I would stand my ground and tell all of them that they are not running you and your kids out of your house. They are ABSOLUTELY NOT going to move in. This is your home. Why are they evicted? My guess is that they are drug addicts or booze it up and don't worry about paying their bills or rent just partying and you are supposed to suffer because they choose to mooch off of you? That is BULL! Why would your husband even consider allowing this to happen? I know I sound like a *itch, but I have been through this and know how horrible it is to live with people like this.

Stand your ground sweetie. Tell them NO!

Answer 9

If he says anything to you like that again, just say "Don't forget whos house you are in, if your going to speak to me like that then get out!"  And tell your husband if he speaks to you like that then you are kicking them out, and your husband should understand and should actually be the one saying it.

Answer 10

It sounds to me like your husband needs to realize that this is hurting yours and his relationship. He shouldn't stand for his wife to be called certain things. First off if this is going to happen (like i think it is going to) then YOU need to set some ground rules. tell them that this is YOUR house and they need to do what you ask. threating your children is BS and if it happens again then THEY can pack up THEIR things and get out.  good luck!

Answer 11

See if his family will help out and get a place of there own

Not a nice place