My husbands fantasy....is this normal?

Question

Most men have fantasies about their wife with another women or being with their women in a certain place or position. Well my husbands fantasy is watching me have s*x with another man. Is this weird? Should I be worried? Also....should I make his fantasy come true or would that just cause problems?

Answer 1

I think it is sick. That is called swinging and all that happens is that it strains a marriage or a relationship. No real man would just love to see his wife s***w another guy. I sure wouldn't because I just don't believe in that.

Answer 2

It's kinda strange, but hey, you get to have some variety in your s*x life...just make sure the guy is hot.  If it works out...you can do it again any time you like with whomever you like.  You're in a good spot, enjoy !

Answer 3

that is the most perverted thing I have ever heard!!! Dont make it come true that is disgusting!!! WTH!!!

Answer 4

It's a very common fantasy...which fits into the "voyeur" catagory.  Nothing to worry about with the fantasy, but to act out on it could cause huge problems.  You both have to completely trust the other partner and agree that this is just for the s*x....no emotional ties whatsoever.  You two would have to set ground rules such as only seeing the man once, both make the decision on who he is and both of you have the power to veto a perspective man.  The major issue however will be the trust, and whether either of you will feel a breakdown of your intimacy level once the "deed" is done.  There are thousands of people that practice this in their marriage, along with swingers and a lot of them can pull it off successfully.....however, statistics show it also splits up an equal number of relationships.  I'd do some research if I were you (google) and recommend that both you and your husband think long and hard before doing this.....plenty of brutally honest conversations as well.  Much luck :)

Answer 5

It's not exactly an unusual fantasy, but it is a very bad idea.

If you need to spice things up, maybe it would be better to try one of your fantasies.

Then again, sometimes fantasy should remain fantasy.

Answer 6

Wow? That's The last thing i would want to see my girlfriend doing!

Answer 7

i think its normal however i don't think you should actually do it. I think it would be a strain on your relationship but I don't know you or your husband so I wouldn't honestly know

Answer 8

It's called Swinging. Or sometimes an Open Relationship.

Answer 9

Your husband is a sicko.

He has NO respect for you and your marriage if he wants to do this.

Answer 10

sure its normal its just like watching live p**n

Answer 11

Yes, it's not as rare as you might think. My man wanted this too. It is one thing to fantasize about it, another to do it. I would NEVER do it, because it will breed a lot of jealousy and if the other man is skilled, it might even end the marriage. Is it worth it? Keep in mind that even though it is HIS fantasy, it is in, most states, grounds for divorce (infidelity).

My suggestion to you is to "tell" him during a passionate moment what it might feel like, (describing in explicit detail) to have another man be with you. Go into detail about what the other is "doing", how it feels, how you feel, and that might help him get this idea out of his system. This way, you won't be cheating and better yet, catching any STD's from another person.

If your hubby can't get over the idea, tell him why you don't want to do this. If he loves you and respects you, he will understand and hopefully keep it under wraps. If all else fails, you might go to a couples-type club and let him watch other men have other women and see if this does it for him. Lastly, try videotaping your lovemaking session. That way, he can "see" what he might be missing during s*x.

Answer 12

it is abnormal but there are many men who have had that fantasy before. Do NOT do it. Not all fantasies should be followed. That would ruin your marriage not to mention leave you open to getting an STD!

Answer 13

Yea, a lot of guys have fantasies like that. Don't worry about it. If you both are up for it, have at it.

Answer 14

I'm not sure that this is normal. You were right, most men fantasize about women on women. My opinion is that this could potentially be very harmful to your relationship. What if you do what is being asked of you? Once its done, you cant take it back or make it go away like it didn't happen. Imagine all the things your husband does with you...then think about you doing those things with another man while your husband watches.

Have you all discussed what he's going to be doing while this other man is getting you? Have you thought about the fact that men are very visual and once that picture is painted in his mind of this other man getting you, it probably wont go away? Ever thought about the fact that if you do this, he might not be able to handle it and it would mean the end of your marriage?

Think about it! Its really a decision that only you can make. Hope it works out the way you want it to.