My husbands p***s around our daughter?????

Question

ok so maybe its me but I feel very uncomfortable if my husbands p***s is around our daughter. Shes 8 and he does nothing wrong, but I feel weird if he has like boxers on or sweats and you can see the outline of it. Even dress pants you can see the buldge. I just dont want her to know anything about penises cause these kids now adays have s*x so young and I just want him to keep it away from her. Sometimes ill ask him to put a pillow over his lap if hes sitting. I dont know, am I overreacting? Do kids even care about that stuff? He gets really upset. Is it just me??

Answer 1

she is 8 she probably doesnt even notice u are overreacting however i can understand but she would not think of her father like that.

Answer 2

I know I didn't think anything about body parts until I was into my teens. o_o don't worry about it.

Answer 3

most definately over reacting, big time.

Answer 4

i think your over reacting.  and its just you your husband problery thinks you dont trust him and a kid of 8 wouldnt even notice that

Answer 5

It's in your head, eventually your hubby is going to think that you suspect him of being indecent. If your child is going to have s*x, seing her daddys p***s isn't going to be what makes her want to. The only thing that you can do is start early telling her about s*x. Make sure that she knows about it because one reason children are doing it is because they are curious. Tell her about abstinence, and about the diseases. Be brutally honest. It will be the best thing for your daughter.

Answer 6

At 8 years old, your child probably already knows what a p***s is and s*x.  

And yes, kids have s*x very young...  all the more reason to educate your child on what s*x is, and what a p***s is.  Other wise you will come to find out toooo late that someone else already told her, maybe even showed her.

Answer 7

You are obsessing. Which is the same as overreacting in my book. Concerned about your daughter seeing her dad in dress pants? Seriously? For one, your daughter already knows what a p***s is. Two, forget about it, and get some therapy if you can't.

Answer 8

I think you are overreacting.

Answer 9

I think you're overreacting. I mean, I'd be uncomfortable if he was walking around naked in front of her but making him put a pillow on his lap if he's wearing dress pants is a little crazy. I'm sure you notice that kind of stuff more than she would. I don't remember ever noticing penises at age 8 and I have 5 brothers lol.

Answer 10

its not you and it isnt good having that sexualy image near your 8 year old daughter. kids know more than they should.

Answer 11

First of all, not telling her anything remotely related to s*x will not stop her from having it. She will get the information from somewhere, and if it isn't from you, then it might not be reliable.

Next, you're definitely overreacting. It's not as if you're going to flatten your chest or carry a pillow areound wit hyou so she is not ever exposed to b*****s until she has them, are you? Well this is no different. It's not as if he's running around naked, he's covered, he just doesn't have a completely asexual form.

To be perfectly honest, this question seems a little bit ridiculous, to the point where I have to wonder if it's some kind of joke.

Answer 12

she prolly wont even notice it. i didnt notice that stuff until i was atleast 15

Answer 13

It's probably best for her to see it out in the open, regularly.  Not in a sexual way, but just in a way so she can figure out what it is, how it works, etc.  

Just wear very short shorts, etc...

Answer 14

Taking from what the others have posted here, you are going way overboard with this.

Answer 15

It depends what a family is comfortable with.  My husband is all 'gotta cover up' no matter what and I'm not embarrased around my daughter.  She is 20 months, but now I am starting to feel a little strange and try to cover up more often.  If he's ok with it and you're not, have a serious chat with him.

Answer 16

Yes you are overreacting. If anything your behavior is actually calling more attention to his p***s. Say no to strutting around the house in his boxers (especially if they gap,) but other than that let it go.

Chances are that your eight year old is not staring at Daddy's crotch to see if he has a good package.

Answer 17

Yes, your husband should be aware of his possible exposure around his child.  You are completely right in feeling that he should be wearing proper clothing around her.  Think about the fact that one of her friends could be over and if that child went home and said something to their mom and dad.  You most likely wouldn't be getting a very friendly phone call.  Or even think about the situation in reverse what if your daughter came home from a friends house and told you about their friends dad, you would be very upset, and I'm sure your husband would be as well.

Answer 18

I'm sorry but you're bordering on mentally unstable, here.

I have never heard of such a thing from a mother and wife. I can't even imagine how bland the s*x must be. You're acting like a mega prude.

cover up when he's wearing pants? That's a mental problem.

Answer 19

YOUR OVERREACTING s**+*T WHY DONT YOU JUST HAVE HIM CUT IT OFF HE CANT HELP IF IF HE HAS A p***s THAT IS WHAT HE WAS BORN WITH WHY SHOULD HE HAVE TO HIDE IT JUST TO MAKE YOU HAPPY IF YOU WHERE MY WIFE I WOULD PACK MY SH*T AND MOVE OUT HEY YOU KNOW WHAT CUT OFF YOUR b***s TOO SHE MIGHT FIND THEM SEXUAL TOO ITS NOT LIKE HE WALKS AROUND WITH THIS p***s HANGING OUT FOR HER TO SEE

Answer 20

YOU are such a B. if I was your husband I would slap you with a chevy tailgate.

Answer 21

I notice the same thing about my husband. It's just THERE. The way I see it, if you're not thinking about/looking for it, you probably won't notice it.  Kids are oblivious to that kind of thing. She'll be okay.

Answer 22

You are over reacting. She's 8. I seriously doubt she is running around looking at her daddy's manhood. Relax!

Answer 23

Ask him to forgo the boxers, but the rest is just fine.  You are being over sensitive on a subject and doesn't need to be addressed.

Answer 24

Of course you are overreacting. Education is the best preventative. If you make it a big deal then it will be a big deal, if she understands what it is and you don't make it seem like it's a big issue then it likely won't be.

Answer 25

Call the cops right away and tell them that you found your daughter around your husband's p***s!!!!

Answer 26

well he has every right to get upset. yes you are overreacting!

You're asking him to pretty much get rid of a body part!

You're teaching your daughter that a p***s is a dirty thing.

Better teach her the difference between men and women and that s*x is a special thing and not for young kids but please respect your husband! Is she allowed near your v****a then? A v****a is as much related to s*x as a p***s is!

Answer 27

It is better that she is told about the p***s for you then from some idiot at school.  Ask me and I shall tell you.  My son who we thought we could protect from all the s*x and what not.  Well I got pregnant with is sister when he was 7 and we told him our story about how love sometimes creates babies.  Well his "friends" at school thought he should know the truth and told him all about s*x and all the details.  Needless to say I was mortified when he came home and told me all about s*x.  So it is better to talk about it while she is young then have her friends tell her all the wrong stuff.

Now for your worry.  If your husband isn't doing anything wrong then why does it bother you?  I do believe that you are over reacting.  Do I run around in my underware around my son...no not really but I don't feel comfortable in my underware period.  My husband runs around in his underware and what not around our daughter and he and I are okay with it.  If it truly upsets you talk to your husband and tell him how you feel.  I'm sure that he will understand and change.  But then again he may just realize that she is too old to see daddy in his underware and stop on his own.  But if the buldge is there when he is wearing comfortable clothes and it still bugs you then maybe you are just over reacting.

Answer 28

I think you are overreacting. He has a p***s and that is a fact. Do you hide your b***s? Do you walk around with a pillow  over them?

Answer 29

You cant be serious!!! You cant really be that naive!!!! You cant really be that stupid!!!!

Answer 30

i think youre over-reacting. you would rather her learn about it from her parents than kids at school. at least you can tell her whats really appropriate and whats not, kids will tell her all kinds of bs. as long as hes not just walkin around with it hanging out, i dont think its a big deal.. but then again its your husband and your daughter, so ultimately, its your decision

Answer 31

Thats ridiculous.

Now you're just ASKING her to get pregnant young.

Curiosity, dear.

You know why a lot of young people are having s*x these days?  Prude parents who make nudity such a NO NO.

And plus, covering a "bulge"??  Would you put a pillow over your b***s if you had a boy?  same concept.