My husben has a 11 year old?

Question

My husben has a 11 year old boy. He has not seen him 5 years. He has given up on going to court. he pays is child support on time. what should he do

Answer 1

According to the law if a father is paying maintenence he is entitled to see his child. This is unless there is underlying issues and the mother has a court order preventing him from contact or a good reason why he cant. You will need to get a lawyer to take the case on your behalf.

Answer 2

Your husband must pay the child support. His son requires food, clothing, and shelter regardless of the circumstances. However, I'm not sure that I would give up on court. That is his son, too, and unless his ex can prove that he's an abuser, he shouldn't be prevented from seeing him. Until then, all you can do is make sure the information is available to his son about where he can find his father. Maybe some day his son will seek him out.

Answer 3

Continue paying child support.  If he wants to see the child then he should go to court.  If he doesn't want to go to court then HE is chosing not to see the child.  Child support is NOT payment for visitation.  The child is entitled to be financially supported by both parents.  If the child is living with his mother then she is providing her half of the support, so it is up to your husband to provide HIS half.  If he doesn't and the mother pursues it his wages will be garnished, any tax refunds he is awarded will be garnished, he could lose his driver's license and eventually go to jail.

Answer 4

If HE has chosen to stay out of the childs life for 5 years then he should continue to do so. This situation depends on many factors but one thing for sure, if your husband isn't going to be committed to this child and available 24/7 then he shouldn't bother becoming a part of his life now!

Answer 5

a little more information please....................

Answer 6

well. my ex husband hasnt seen our 9 year old daughter in over 5 years.  he doesnt need to do anything as far as  im concerned we do  fine without him and she now has a REAL dad that she can look up to and know what a man is supposed to be.

maybe your husband should do the same.   after 5 years  its a little late to disrupt a childs life. and there  is VERY little legit reasoning behind why you wouldnt see your child for that long.

Answer 7

Your husband must go to family court who will see that your husband gets reasonable access to his son .(assuming there is no legal  reason he should be denied access.Custody and visitation must be petioned for it is not automatically give.i would recommend he ask for visitation to be introduced slowly since his son and he are virtual strangers. It will give them both time to feel comfortable with each other.Take care.

Answer 8

Given up going to court for what?  To stop paying support?  To get visitation or custody?  What should he do about what?  He should provide for his son.  Why hasn't he seen him in five years?  I couldn't imagine not seeing my children for month let alone five years.

Answer 9

Try to see his son!

Answer 10

He needs to put forth the effort to be a good father maybe get off his butt and see his son would help.

Answer 11

see his child more

Answer 12

talk to the mother?

Answer 13

I am sure that your husband has good reason for not seeing his son. Sometimes the other parent uses the child as a pawn and puts them in the "line of fire" between disputes which is not healthy to the child. Sometimes if gaining custody is not an option then sacrificing his right to see his child is what's best for the child. Many people will disagree but you don't know until you've been through it. He should (and is required to) pay child support unless he signs over his rights to the child. I completely understand what it is like to go through the whole court c**p and mediation and all of that other stuff.

Answer 14

speak to the kids mother and say he wants to be a part of his life.  continue going to court to get visitation rights.  if he is paying the child support on time and really wants to see him, the court may allow it.

if your husband isn't going to stick with seeing him more often maybe he shouldn't even bother contacting the kid.  why hurt the kid even more by dissing him twice.

Answer 15

We need more info.

Do you and your husband want to maintain relationship with the boy or not?  Given up on going to court - why? - to get custody or to stop paying child support.

We need TONS more information and a DIRECT question of what you are needing from us, please.

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