My kids run wild (3-5-10)....how do I gain control over them??

Question

Recently separated and they are used to being with both of us. Now it's only me and they run wild, I ususally fall asleep around 11 and wake up at 3 and THEY ARE STILL GOING. They whine constantly, they fight each other, and don't listen to a word I say....How can I get control of them and make them be little quiet angels.

Answer 1

quiet little angels is hard at first...haha..but i would start with your 10 year old. work with him/her first because the younger one are most probably looking up to him/her and following what he/she does ya know...also, it may be hard to fuss them and tell them no, but at night try turning out the lights and jsut leave a lamp on. also if they arent already, then try to establish seperate sleeping areas and also seperate sleeping times. say you have supper ready at 6-7. then get the 10 yr. old to have his/her bath done before supper and the others after (tend to be more messy). then later that night put them off to bed seperately (seperate rooms...even if you have to move them back once they are sleeping) your 3 yr. old first say about 9 oclock, then your 5 yr. old at about 9:45, and then your 10 yr. old about 20 min. before you go to sleep. keep trying this till they get the hang of it.

Answer 2

I agree with JaySss about hitting,but not too hard.aso take away things such as playstation/ other games consoles/chocolate for a few days until they learn

star charts that equal a reward when they get 20 or whatever are also good. Everytime they do something good they get a star sticker on their chart. everytime they do something bad then cross one out. The 20 dont have to be in a row.

Answer 3

The only way to gain control over them is not the easiest.. its getting them on a set schedule for their day.  It is also with follow through when you threaten to punish  them.  They will not listen to yelling if that is all they are going to get. ANd they will not stop doing things, if they do not know why they should not do things. Be specific, give them clear reasons, and a punishment for when they do specific things.  Children do not respond to yelling and freaking out because it shows that the parent is out of control and not respectable. (its sorta like the way the dog whisperer works with animals) you need calm and assertive energy.

I reccomend having a nice family meeting over some ice cream and discuss the new ways and new rules. Let them have a say in things too. People support that which they help to create.

Good luck

Answer 4

a plate of bacon. if that doesn't work.... rope

Answer 5

hit em. seriously. not like abuse. but when i was a kid my mom put me in check and i never gave her problems. only the 10 and maybe 5. 3 jut separate him from the others.  

Answer 6

Hey girl, once again-Im in the same boat-two boys (7 & 2). With me I just sit with my 7 yr old and let him know-when I say something you do it. You cannot go around acting like you have no sense. If I take away or even threaten to take away his things that he really likes. EX. skateboard, Xbox he will starighten up for a bit. But its pretty much just constant reminding and taking away privledges. They just get so hyper when they are together-apart they are great. Its a VERY hard thing to raise young kids alone. Just follow through with punishments so that they know when they act a certain way there are consequences. GIve them a set bes time the same every night and they will get ued to it after awhile and it will give you time to yourself also. Mine go to bed at about 8:30 now that school is starting. Good luck......

Answer 7

call super nanny

they are gooooood

well i think the best thing to do is show discipline...like cause and effect

you need show you are the mother and they are the children...kids will be kids and they will fight and whine all day if thats what they want to do

try taking them out, setting rules, start giving them chores, let them help you around the house have one on one time with each of them...the 3 year old may not understand all this now but if she sees this happening she will mimic whats going on...so if someone sees good good will happen

you may think tricking them into something is right but its not, children are not stupid..it works at a certain age but not 5 and 10

Answer 8

sometime u have to be mean but a way is to take away something they care about that will get it through there head when u say something that is law