My life is a complete mess. Help me please!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My life is a complete mess. M, my little girl passed away on Wednesday and all I want to do is die too. My way of dealing with it is in a bottle of vodka and it really works but my husband isn't speaking to me now. I can't cope anymore. What can I do?

Answer 1

First of all I am so sorry about your lost, I am not surprise you are a mess. Talk to your doctor as you are probably depressed (to say the least) Vodka isn't really the answer to the problem. If you want to talk send me an IM I am around all the time. Hugs to you.  

Answer 2

ur self distructing urself, lay off the vodka, it aint helping.

Answer 3

i'm so sorry for your loss.how to cope with some thing as tragic as this - at first you can't, but think of your beloved daughter. how would she feel if she could see you like this? perhaps you and your husband could compile a collage of photos for the precious times you had together as a sort of rememberance. try not to shut out your husband as his heart will be broken  too. i know that you probably can't find the words just now to try to explain your feelings but i hope that you will find the strength to get through this x*x

ps you probably dream about her every night - take comfort in your dreams

Answer 4

My heart goes out to you.  Your husband dosn't think that the best way to deal with it is the bottle.  He wants to deal with his grief in another way.  You should both sit down and talk it over.  You are both hurting and you could be helping each other through this awful time.

Answer 5

lay off the vodka first. you need to grieve, drowning yourself wont work.  

Answer 6

drinking dose not solve the problem .you should take care of your husband .and occupy your self with Charity works and try to find doctor or some body to help you to quit drinking .

Answer 7

I know you have a lot to deal with right now but honestly, a bottle of vodka is NOT going to help you in the long run. Your baby girl would not want to see her mother ending up an alcoholic. I;m sure your husband is feeling the pain too, make sure you don't end up pushing him away through drinking.

Answer 8

stop drinking first and speak to a profesional doctor

Answer 9

oh no how bloody awful for you i can quite understand how you are feeling,sorry that your husband is no help but he is obviously grieveing too.please dont take your life get in touch with a support group.in time you will cope a bit better,please chuck the vodka in the bin its only masking the problems.i wish you happiness and contentment in the years to come.god bless you both you have my utmost sympathy.

Answer 10

you need to realise that whilst Vodka will numb the pain for a short while, it  wont bring her back... your husband needs you now as well you know - together you've suffered a terrible tragedy and need to support each other .... by drinking, you're alienating your husband.... I know it wont be easy, but you have to mourn your daughter together as a couple.

Im very sorry for your loss

xx

Answer 11

I'm so sorry you lost your daughter ... but yes, vodka is not the longterm answer. Stop taking it as soon as you can. Preferably right now :-)

I think your husband is quite possibly grieving also, and finds it too hard to talk about now.

You can only take this one day at a time. Try to do something to avoid drinking today. Clean out a cupboard, for example. Or wash your kitchen floor. Take on a small job that you can do, aim to finish it, and then decide if you feel like doing another small job. Just something to occupy you for a while, keep your mind off the booze, and tire you out a bit so that you can sleep - sleep is good to help with many things, including grief.  

Answer 12

I'm in no position to give advice to you after something so horrendous, but why don't you see a counsellor/psychologist? They may be able to help you.

I'm so sorry for your loss.