My little 10 year old boy is starting to grow "nubbies". Should we get him a bra? (This is a serious question)

Question

Hello,

My husband and I (yes, we are a g*y couple, and we don't see anything wrong with it) have a 10-year old adopted son (we adopted him a little over 5 years now) and he is kind of chubby and has started to grow what looks like "nubbies".

It may be hard for some of you to understand, but we don't want the other kids at his private school to make fun of him, so we were thinking of taking him to Victoria's Secret (or some other store) to get him a bra. Would this be a good idea? I would really appreciate your input. Thanks!

P.S. This is a serious question. Please, no silly answers.

Answer 1

Does he want a bra? I would think a ten year old boy would be teased more for his nice clevage then being over weight.

It is only right if it is something he is interested in. Otherwise it could be more damaging to his self esteam especily at such a young age.

Perhaps there are better ways to handle the situation...

Answer 2

definitely focus more on his diet and activity level than trying to camouflage nipple pokes (which are normal for his age and development) with feminine apparel that will only make him a social target.

kudos to you and your husband but even in canada, kids of g*y couples are still  targetted enough by morons.  don't give bullies even more ammunition.

Answer 3

well get him to loose a little weight before it gets worse. not all boys get b***s. just some. its how he carries his weight. DO NOT put a bra on that boy!!!! You will mess him up something fierce. AND why did you find it necessary to add that your g*y. I'm g*y and I don't put that in all my post. no one cares now a days. anyway so no don't do that to a poor child.

Answer 4

no, you should not get him a bra.

very very bad idea for parents to do.

just let him be, he'll grow out of them.

Answer 5

What about a tight undershirt. You should excersize with him. Arm excersises help alot with the peck muscles.

Sry bout my spelling :)

Answer 6

Please don't make him wear a bra - there's no comparison of the ribbing he would endure simply by being a little chubby vs. being caught wearing a bra.

Here's an article on gynecomastia - http://www.qurl.com/fl6k7

It will probably go away on it's own, unless he doesn't lose weight.

Help him lose weight, and buy loose shirts in the meantime.

Answer 7

No you shouldn't if anyone finds out that would be SO embarrassing. I'm 13 and a girl- i know. that's great to adopt an orphan i mean. good luck with the kid and hopefully you wont embarrass him.

And if you do chose to get him a bra- try for strapless.

Answer 8

WTF... Don't you think he'd get made fun of for wearing a bra?? Bra lines are pretty obvious. That's all he needs are other boys running up and snapping his bra. How about, taking him to a nutrionist and keeping him active?

Answer 9

Do not get him a bra....kids are mean....unfortunately, he will probably already get teased for having 2dads.  Try to get him to exercise more, eat less junk, watch less TV and get more sleep!

Answer 10

maybe i mean i have a 10 yr old brother and he has kinda man boobies and i wanted him to wear a sports bra but my mom said no:(

ohh and if anyone makes fun of you two being g*y then there just PATHETIC^_^

Answer 11

Rather than get something to try to mask the issue--find ways to teach him more self confidence.  The bra can be confusing to your child and you may be unintentionally teaching your child to be ashamed of his body and how it is growing.  It is normal for him to go through these physical changes.  Teasing is apart of his growth--how you encourage him to endure it, and preserver with confidence through it will help him now and in the future as a man. Rather than telling him to "hide".  As a g*y couple you understand the pressures and ugly looks from society---teach your child pride and to have self love regardless of how adults or kids view him.  Good luck!

Answer 12

There are always heavy children everywhere you go. I think that a bra would get him picked on even more. How about wearing a tighter wifebeater type of undershirt  underneath his normal shirts. I think that might help out your son and prevent embarrassment once he goes to school.

Answer 13

I think it is a bad idea.

isn't having 2 dads humiliate him already? (no offense)

You don't want the other kids running behind him snapping his bra  ?

Kids are vicious these days and i know from personal experiences.

Just leave your son alone.

put him on a diet.

less junk food, less tv and computer, get him to play outside, and get enough sleep.

sleep is good for your health.

Answer 14

If this is a serious question then you do not deserve to be parents. Try getting him more exercise and a healthier diet so he loses the b***s

Answer 15

okay ,I'm not here to judge you.......I think its great that u are so concerned over this matter but ...he will go into his body..To answer your question  I have 2 boys a few years older then yours...do not  buy him a bra...he'll be picked on more then ever...just let him grow into his body

Answer 16

No.

Bad idea.

Horrible idea. I think kids at his school would notice that all of a sudden his 'nubbies' get hoisted up and together.

Just let them be.

Edit: this is a complete different story then your other question, "I met a real hot chick at Chuckie Cheese"?

You say you're 17 in that one. Make up your mind.

Frig dont make us waste our time answering your stupid questions.

Answer 17

I smell a troll I went through your questions seems as if you are not g*y and that you like women. Stupid troll go get a life.

Answer 18

Unfortunately, if people found out that he is wearing a bra, it would just cause even more unjust teasing from his schoolmates than that you were trying to prevent.  

Kids can be very cruel indeed.

Answer 19

What! Get him a bra? Are you really serious?

The kids at school would really play him up if you did!

He is a boy!

He is probable overweight, get him to eat healthier and do more exercise!

Answer 20

do not get him a bra, come on read up on what boys go through when the grow up, some grow "nubbies" as you say, then they go away when they get a little older.

Answer 21

i tottaly agree with shot4 or something like that. The bra would make it WAY more obvious... and the whole doctor diet thing great idea =]

Answer 22

No, don't do that to your son please. that will just embarrass him even more. If he is comfortable in his own body then just leave him be. If you are worried about his weight that much then cook healthy meals and make healthy snacks for him. Encourage him to play a sport for some physical activity. I'm sure if you do just that then he will slim down a bit without feeling embarrassed or self conscious.

Answer 23

Yes, by all means.  You should take him tonight.  They will measure your boy's moobs to make sure they have the proper fit.  I would recommend the Bio Fit line as they are very comfortable yet will offer the support your boy needs.  Good luck!

Answer 24

Uh no.   It wouldn't.  Get him an undershirt.   A BOY'S undershirt.  Hayne's sells them by the the pack.

Answer 25

No i wouldn't get him a bra. It is good that you care about him possibly getting picked on but kids can be very mean to anybody. I would just have him wear darker colors and layer his clothes. Good luck

Answer 26

Have him do some sports or a slight diet (or both) but don't buy your son a bra. A bra would only make everything worse if anyone would notice, and it will make your son feel weird even if noone notices

Answer 27

um i'm pretty sure the kids at school would make more fun of him for wearing a bra than for having "nubbies". seriously, don't do it...

Answer 28

frankly, i don't have a problem with g*y couples. what i do have a problem with is you ask such an obviously stupid question and want no silly answers. this really is a joke, isn't it?

Answer 29

Please do not buy him a bra. An undershirt would be best if your afraid the nipples are showing under his shirt. The undershirt and his normal shirt should hide any evidence. Maybe cut back on sugar and fats.

Answer 30

As the mother of a "chubby" 9-year old, I can tell you that wearing a bra would certainly embarass my son more than his "nubbies".  If you are very concerned about it, I would suggest you start him on a weight training program to strengthen and firm his body.

Answer 31

in case you havent noticed, a bra just makes things...more noticeable, leave your boy alone he will catch far less flack for having boobies then he will by wearing a bra  sheesh.