My little brother is SO spoiled...what can I do about it?

Question

I have a 9 year old brother and he is so spoiled! He answers back always (I can't remember a time where he has not back-talked to us). If things don't go his way he throws a fit. He watches tv constantly and if we want to watch one or two shows he gets mad because he says he was watching (yeah, for 4 hours straight!). He yells at everyone. He calls us stupid. If I tell him he needs to learn some manners he will say "YOU go learn some manners" and then I will tell him that he is spoiled and he will say "No YOU are spoiled". If he gets into an argument with our other brother he will go run off to tattletale to our mom to say "MOM moody (our brother) said he will turn off the tv" but he won' tell my mom what he himself did to get Moody angry. Then my mom, knowing Sami is also at fault, will come and say to Moody to be nice to his brother. If Moody explains what happens and my asks my little brother if its true he will lie at first then say the truth (because Moody is calling his bluff) but he says "yeah because moody did this" or "moody did it first". Then my mom will just give my little brother his way to shut him up! I always tell her she shouldn't do that but she doesn't listen to me.

Now, no one can tell my little brother what to do. He always talks back, yells, calls us names, and is just so full of himself. I don't know what to do about it anymore. Everytime I get into an argument with him he makes me want to pull all my hair out and I just want to grab him and throw him across the room (I won't ever do it people so don't get on my case about that, I am just trying to show you how frustrated he gets us). I mean I am 17 and he is 9 and he acts like he is the boss. What can we do to get him to stop?

Answer 1

leave your brother to it it will not help him in later life and your parents will blame themselfs as long as your alright thats fine, you should not be worrying about him as your in the zone now, your being happy is the only thing that matters, xxxx

dont argue with him, some1 will put him back on his **** so just worry about your schooling, work hard at what you do, xxxx

Answer 2

IGNORE HIM !!!!!...for really there is nothing you can do....only your mom

can / could fix this matter, but obviously it is way too late to try getting any discipline into him...since he is 9yrs old.....I say stay away from him as much as you can ...and ignore him!!..that is what I would do !!

Answer 3

Spoiled brothers can be quite an adventure and not a good one. I have one myself. actually i have 2, they are twins. it is not fun. and why in the world would your darling mother always believe your spoiled brother over moody. that is just crazy. you should secretly video tape your spoiled bro getting mad at moody then show your mom. then maybe she will believe you. about the t.v situation you should take away the remote. you need to punish him sometimes when he does something bad, just take away the remote for the t.v or have him sit in a chair doing nothing for a few minutes. If all else fails try to get on nanny 911 and that should definitely help. Good Luck deary.

P.S. I have not noticed that there eyes get bright at nine in the afternoon. i'm always to busy noticing that there eyes are the size of the moon. I'll look out for that next time!

Answer 4

i asked a question just like this. i got the absolute best answer. it is a good plan and it is simple. my parents are the same way to my little bro. basically to sum up the answer, set some time aside when your bro is sleeping or not at home. then what you do is tell them about it. tell them your problems and that you don't like the way they are treating you. Now, my suggestions are: if you want him to stop, i know that this sounds really bad but maybe a little ignorance won't hurt. just ignore him when he says he was watching what ever. maybe even a little black male wouldn't hurt him. give him a taste of his own medicine once in a while. show him what it feels like. do anything that he likes to and don't let him do it.  

Answer 5

you are absolutely right.  Your parents have created this situation by giving in to him rather than telling him "no".  He knows he can throw a fit and mom or dad will let him have his way.

there is nothing that you can do to correct him because not only do you have no authority that he will listen to but the people (your parents) who are supposed to have authority over him, don't.

All you can do is leave the room and refuse to deal with your little brother.  

Your next step is for you and ALL of your siblings to call a family meeting with your parents and complain about how they let your little brother get away with things and how he makes your lives miserable because he has no self control and no one is making him behave.  Have specific and numerous examples of his bad behavior and how it causes problems for you and how it makes you not want to be around your brother and how it causes you to lose respect for your parents because they give in to him and will not teach him self control.  ALL of you need to do this together and present a united front to your parents.  They are less likely to dismiss you if you are organized and united when you talk with them about this.

Good Luck.