My little girl hates nursery! please help me

Question

my little girl is 3 and she hates going to nursery, every time i drop her off she crys and crys and wont let go of me! when she is there she wont eat her food or have a nap, im really worried. does anyone know how to solve this?.

thanx x

Answer 1

sometimes it just takes them a while to settle in esp if theyve never never been away from you much before

i always let my 2 take somthing in that they like to play with so they can "show it off" to the nursery staff my daughter took a doll and the staff used to ask if dolly wanted to play eat etc then eventually she settled in i took my son once a week from his 2nd birthday so it settled him in easier and he knows the children who will be starting the school nursery in september so im hoping he will be ok

hope this help

Amy  

Answer 2

I am a Nursery Nurse and i see lots of children who are upset and dont like leaving their parents.  I would advide you to get a story book about going to school and read it as a bedtime story. Talk about things that she can do at school and reassure her that u will b back to pick her up from school. Ask her 2 make you a picture at Nursery.  

Or make a picture or some cakes at home with her for her to take into Nursery.

Wen you take her 2 Nursery make sure you say goodbye 2 her and dont hang around if she is upset as it will make her worse. Most of my children settle within 10 mins or so after the parents have left. Although this can go on with some children for a good few weeks.

To make your mind at ease you can ring the Nursery and ask how she is during the day.

Answer 3

Maybe you need to stay with her for a while as she settles in.  What I mean is - take a few morning's off work...then when you take her to the nursery, stay around for about an hour or so, and then when you think she is settling because you are there, quietly slip out.

Keep doing this for a few mornings, but stay there less time each morning.  It may help!

Answer 4

Maybe this sounds weird, but when my son did that the teacher was being mean to him at daycare. He finally got old enough to say Ms Miller is mean and it started making sense to me. Ask your baby questions. Ask the staff too! She doesn't eat or nap there? Be careful!

Answer 5

how often does she go? of its only once a week, she may not be used to it.

how long has she been going? sometimes kids take a few weeks to settle

if she has been there a while, it might be worth finding a different nursery

ask her why she does not want to go, when she is calm, at home. see if there is a reason.

beware of specific questions as kids will say yes to anything!

Answer 6

She does this because she may feel like you two are one... she cant be without you and you cant be without her.. she will get use to it after a while... when you get home talk to her about her day and act like everything she has done is so AWESOME... it will make her excited to go back the next day. good luck  

Answer 7

If she is 3 then she should be able to tell you if something is going on. Does she just have a hard time being away from you or does she say (not in the morning when you are dropping her off) that she hates it, or that she doesn't like the teachers or kids? Can you ask her if something happened that makes her not want to go anymore? I would definitely look into it. I had a friend who just thad a weird feeling about her child's daycare, so she pulled her out. Shortly after, she got a call that the center was being investigated for abuse.

Answer 8

This can be really hard for parents, but nursery staff see it all the time. You need to decide if you really want her to attend or not. I have seen lots of parents who get their children to nursery, and then as soon as the child gets upset, the parents take them home again. The child soon learns that by crying they will be able to go home and have time with mummy or daddy. You need to be as positive as you can be about nursery and be firm and consistent. Stay with your child for a little while (although sometimes this can just make things more difficult), and always say goodbye. Tell your daughter you promise to be back soon, and then go. You can wait somewhere she can’t see you if the nursery allows (which they should!) and you should soon see her calm down. Sometimes it helps to leave something behind, like an umbrella or a scarf so your child knows you will be back for it.  I would recommend parents to come back early, and stay until the end of the session. This gets the child into the daily routine, but you will usually see them happy. Be prepared for your daughter to start crying the minute she sees you.

At out nursery, we promise parents that we will call them back if we cannot settle a child. Usually we do not have too.

Answer 9

Super Nanny?

Spend time with her at the nursery before you leave

Send her there with a friend or young relative

Offer her sweets if shes good aha.