My little sister is pregnant?!?!?Advice for my 16 year old pregnant sister?

Question

Ok well I have 2 brothers...and 3 sisters. My 4 year old sister and my 6 year old brother who lives with my aunt,my 17 year old brother and my 16 year old sister who live with me,and my 20 year old sister who lives on her own. (I am 25 years old and I am the oldest) well anyways...my little sister who lives with me (age 16) is pregnant. I am scared for her. She is strong enough to make this through...I know she is. She hasn't told the boy yet and she says she is going to tell him tommorow but she asked me to go with her. I don't trust this boy either...which is why I need to go with her. Last night we went through how much of a mistake she made and she understands and she says she is ready to take full responsiblity for her baby no matter what. I am proud of her for that. She isn't going to get an abortion (thank goodness!) she decided that. And she is going to keep it. Just...how do I help her get through it all. I know its gonna be a long hard road,full of tears...but I just wanna know how to do this all. By the way...she can;t go to the school anymore...they won't allow her back cuz its a bad influence or whatever. Which in my opinion is stupid...but she is GOING to finish school so we are gonna home school. She is excited about that one and I am to. She has a boyfriend who is going to help her through it all,I actually trust this guy. They started going out about 3 months ago and my sis is 5 months pregnant(don't know how I missed that..ya she just told me last night...I guess she was just scared she told me she has been wearing baggy clothes to hide it and I didn't ever notice) oh and NO her boyfriend IS NOT the father...not her current boyfriend at least. Her ex is the father. I just can't believe it. Any advice will help/

Answer 1

The only advice I can give is to give her as much support as possible. There's a website called www.whattoexpect.com and they have chat boards there for each month, so she could chat with other woman who are due the same month as her. It's a great support system and answers a lot of questions. Make sure she is getting good prenatal care and is taking her prenatal vitamins daily.  

Answer 2

Hey,

I just wanted to tell you that you are doing the right thing by homeschooling your sister and taking care of her. I'd actually say that homeschooling her will be better then sending her to collage. Collage can be a rough place where you can have identity issues, and where the truth is not always found.

I'm sure she looks up to you, or someday will.

Keep your sister safe from future evil influence by keeping the ex boyfriend away from your little sister (telling him what he has done is okay though). Although remember that you can't protect her from everything, sadly we need learn from our own mistakes sometimes :(

Forgive me for looking at your other questions, from the sounds of it you have a little girl of your own, you may want to keep your sister's baby in the family, when he/she grows up I can guarantee that they will also look up to you.  Although this is for you and your sister to decide.

The future will be rough, keep hanging in there.

Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Answer 3

Get an abortion, we do not need more stupid kids in America.

If you do go through with the birth, the Ex will be charged with statutory rape, listed as a s*x offender, and made to pay child support.

A self respecting family would disown her, as the black sheep, but then again, you aren't a normal family.

It is EXTREMELY expensive to homeschool. Dropping out and getting a GED would be better, since you actually get an ACCREDITED degree. People will ask question on job application and such and see that she is not responsible.....

Answer 4

Best advice is getting early medical care asap now if she is 5 mos along! She needs to see an OB/GYN and be eating a very nutritious pregnancy diet for teenagers. No junk, nothing "diet" or artificial, no hydrogenated fats or fast food. She needs to avoid caffeine and all the no-no foods (I'll include a list). Have her read as much as possible about pregnancy, diet, labor, childcare, etc... so it's not scary.

Also - talk with doctor about avoiding c-section and episiotomy. Get the book What to Expect When You're Expecting - it's awesome and there is a website now too. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Take her to a doctor and see if everything is alright! if she is not ready for a baby give it for adoption... But telling the male could or could not be the right thing... her life could get messed up badly and then the baby wont be her only problem...so did she breakup with the ex when she was pregnant? if she did then dont tell him... god knows what he was doing during that long period of time... you never know... he could have gotten someone else pregnant too... ask your little sister whos fault it was... then if you think the time is right you should tell him

Answer 6

just be there for her, be her shoulder to cry on.. her best friend, just be there.. and GUESS WHAT..

Im almost 16 in grade 10 and HOMESCHOOLOING is SO fun!!!!

i do it because im on the road to professional soccer, so... but ummm good luck to you and her and her bf, and just do yer best to be there i guess...  

Answer 7

When I got pregnant last year at 25 I decided to have an abortion because a baby is a HUGE responsibility.  I have a job, and I am currently finishing up college, and I **still** don't feel even close to ready to having a kid.  She is 16 and needs to seriously think about this, keeping it I mean.  Most likely YOU are going to have to support her AND the baby and are you ready?  No wonder she is five months along already, she has no parental guidance.  This is sad, I hope you guys figure this out, and quick too.

Answer 8

Use condoms.

Answer 9

I am terribly sorry about your little sister.  It is great that she has you for support during this difficult time.  Imagine how hard it has been on her to hide this from you.  Your talk last night was a great start to her understanding the gravity of the situation.  Even though she is only 16, it is time that she start thinking like a responsible adult (while she is still clearly a child).  If she is ready to take responsibility for the baby, then that means always doing what is in the best interest of the child.  She needs to seriously consider a public or private adoption.  It is not in the best interest of the baby to be raised by a 16 year old child.  It is in the best interest of the baby to be raised by two adults who are in a position to financially and emotionally take care of the child.  This is something a 16 year old child cannot do.  Encourage her to be brave and stop the cycle of children having children.  30 years down the road she may look back and regret getting pregnant, but she won't regret doing what she could to make sure that her baby had the best possible upbringing.

Probably not the answer you want to read, but it probably is the answer that is best for your sister, best for her baby, and best for society as a whole.  Good luck.... no matter what...be there for her.

Answer 10

Just be there for her. She needs you. Good idea for abortion, it would be easier than her being criticized at school. I'm extremely happy that she is not getting an abortion! I hope the baby is very healthy. This may sound wierd, but I'd love to know more when the baby is born. My e-mail is [e-mail]. P.S. Im Mary.

Answer 11

Just be there for her give her advice and love that will go a long way.

Answer 12

I think that all you can do is be there for her. Just make sure she understand everything she and her body are going through and will continue to go through. Get her involved in a chat room like www.whattoexpect.com so she can talk to other people who are pregnant and cliche as this sounds, buy her what to expect when you're expecting so she knows step by step what will happen. help her make an informed decision take her to a doctor right away she missed out some important prenatal care make sure everything is okay with her and the baby. I am 20 and pregnant currently and i know that without the support of my friends and family i would'nt be doing as well as I am.