My live in boyfriend of two years never invites me to his activities with his children. How do I handle it?

Question

We also live together and they stay everyother weekend.

Answer 1

Why would he do that?  Have you talked to him about how you feel?  If not you really should.  I am living with my boyfriend and we do everythingg together with his kids, that is the way it should be.  

Answer 2

Sounds like he still have feelings for his ex and he doesn't want to put you in her face or maybe she asked him out of respect not to.

Answer 3

Talk to your boyfriend about it in a positive, constructive way about this. If you are upset about, cool down and don't throw blames, just tell him nicely that you would really like to spend time with him and his children. A lot of the time, guys just assume things and he definately isn't trying to hurt your feelings by doing this.

He might think either you don't want to because being with his children is his obligation and not yours. But tell him you don't see it as an obligation, you see it as a family activity and as living together for 2 years, he has become your family, legally or not, you love him and his kids mean a lot to you.

I would stay with my dad every weekend and I spent more time with my stepmom than I did him! We didn't get along at first, but after some time we are very very close even after she and my dad split, I hang out with her all the time.

Answer 4

why , he has the best of all worlds

house keeper, cook cleaner  and s*x partner

Answer 5

I would try to form a relationship with the children and then ask if you can tag along. ps if you know the answers to any of my questions plz answer my thxx

Answer 6

I've been in your shoes. There is a great possibility that he isn't bringing you out with his children because the ex has an issue with it. However, you have to realize that he is a LIVE IN boyfriend, meaning you all have taken a step into something serious. He trusts you enough to have his children over to BOTH of you guy's place, he should RESPECT you enough to be proud to be out in public with you. I mean, after all, you could be a step mother figure who acts like she hates her man's children, he should look on the bright side and appreciate your being comfortable with them being in your house. As for his ex, ( if she is an issue) you should be upfront and ask him if she reflects his decision for not bringing you along. If she happens to be the reason, explain to him that you understand how they could be concerned about what that makes her look like (take his side), but you are his woman, and if she is history, you should be treated as though you're the future...possibly the future woman in his children's lives. Good Luck