My man anyways tells me im not the same girl he met what do i do?

Question

when we first got together more than a year ago EVERYTHING felt so perfect, i was happy to met someone that wanted everything i did!!! so at the beggining all we did was hold hands, be with eachother 24/7, kiss, hug, talk about just anything, make love and all that good stuff!!! than we kind of got into some trouble together so when we got out of jail we decided to move to a different state so we can get away from all the drama and live a happy life! well everything is still going good, no major problems...but i recently went to go visit my parents in virginia, were my ex lives and the whole time i was there all he did was accuse me of seeing him, talkin to him or whatever!!! but i made sure to always answer his call or call him and do whatever i had to do to make sure he had no excuse to blame me for anything but he still did!!! so when i came back from virginia, we still did our usual thing but just sometimes its really hot and he wants to be all over me..and wants me to hold his hand every second, or if he ask for a kiss sometimes i just dont feel like giving him... i mean i still love him so much and none of feelings have changed, im not lying to him about anything! i just feel like i need room to breathe sometimes and i try explaining it to him but he just says im a different person and i dont love him and starts crying, every single night! what should i do?

Answer 1

He needs to just stop, i mean it's nice that he loves you like that but you guys do need space, its not healthy to be up on each other all the time like that, just tell him again, and let him know that the love haven't changed, but if he doesn't give you the space that you need it will change, b/c u will get bored and, and u will feel smothered and the spark will go out in the relationship, and trust me if that happens he won't be happy with that, so he needs to take a chill pill, ,and relax!

Answer 2

What your feeling is quite normal. Your just not complete yet. Your desires are not fullfilled.

You can sense this and now your reaching out to him and explaining this, but he is not ready to accept it. He must confide in himself and find a path to seek that will lighten up his thoughts.

What he should do is accept your desire and be friends and give you that space.

He will learn that he jumped on a plane that was a PSA Charter Flight instead of boarding the 747 Panam Jumbo Jet flying overseas.

He boarded the Titanic and it sank.

He boarded the Hindenburg and it burned up.

Get my drift????

Answer 3

HE SOUND LIKE HE LOVES YOU VERY MUCH AND MADE YOU HIS WIFE AND YOUR NAME ON HIS ARM AND ALL HE THINKS ABOUT IS YOU AND YOU FORGOT TO PUT THE PART YOU WHERE GONE FOR A MONTH AND THAT NOW DAYS EVER SINCE YOU BEEN BACK U WONT HOLD HIM AT NIGHT LIKE U USE TO AND YOU CHANGED IN ONE MONTH NOT A YEAR AND THIS GUY SOUND LIKE HE IS CONFUSED I MEAN ONE MONTH  AND NOW YOUR ACTING LIKE IS OK NOT TO EXPECT WAT WAS SO  NORMAL BEFORE MAYBE INSTEAD OF FIGHTING YOU SHOULD SIT DOWN AND TALK A PERSON WILL GO CRAZY NOT KNOWING WATS GOING ON IN YOUR WIFES HEAD WHEN SHE ATERRES BLANKLY INTO THE CEELING INSTEAD OF  JUST BEING HONEST WITH ME !!!!!!!!!!143  

Answer 4

well i certainly hope you're not the same person you were a year ago!  i would tell him that!  geesh - are you now not supposed to grow?  um...it sounds like he isn't the same as he was a year ago either.  maybe he could benefit from some counseling.  

Answer 5

Welcome to marriage life...We all encounter these stuff, it' seems like your husband is a bit insecure and need some reassurance all the time, just make an effort, it's hard to explain..but I can understand how you need some space when your husband is quite clingy. but, if you really love him, just work it out..and be patient..he'll soon get bored with this sweet gestures...

Answer 6

tell him he is not the same guy , explain over time people do change in a relationship/ hopefully to a much deeper level of understanding