My man wants to work extra hours, am i being selfish?

Question

my man wants to work extra hours and that means we wont spend as enough time as we used to, this is because we are trying to make extra income for ourselves, i however feel not so good about it even though i would support him all the way, by the time he gets home i'll be sleeping cos i'll be from work aswell. I dont wanna appear to be clingy on him at the same time, how do i handle this and how do i communicate how i feel about it to him without be selfish myself?

Answer 1

It sounds like all he is doing is trying his best to earn extra cash to make things in that department better for you both, i do understand what you are saying, as you want to spend as much time together, but if you want a better life without having to scrimp to get by on, then  you have to be more prepared to make an effort to understand that he is doing this so you can afford nicer things and get some money behind you both so you can do just that.

Answer 2

you say your trying to make extra income for yourselves

did you expect him to do that without working more?

although i understand how you feel, thats natural, i cant help but think he is doing more than a lot of guys would and thats not fair

you have to prioritize whta more important for you right now, money? or time with hubby? i know what i would want but if you are not managing you have no option but to make concessions right now

could you get a job perhaps? even if you have children there are things you can do, childmind,  dog walk, ironing etc, perhaps that would ease the way and take some of the burden from his shoulders a bit and give you time together

Answer 3

Is our economy it's a good idea to get as much work time as you can and save money. Just try to think of it as a temporary thing and it is for the greater good. You can make time to be with him sometime or take a day off to be with him. I know it will be hard but you have to think of it long term. You have the rest of you lives together. Give him all the support he needs as he is doing a lot in this relationship as well. Tell him how you feel and make time to be with each other. Set a day or time for each other and stick to it.  

Answer 4

My partner and I have just made the some life changing decision. It's hard, up to a week ago I worked days and he works night due to better pay we would only see each other for 1-2 hrs a day during the week and maybe 5-9hrs over the weekend. Start with making one night over the weekend that's's yours dinner/movies or even a night at home on the sofa. It's important that you and him make time for each other and your Friends. If you try and making him spend all his spare time with you then there will be problems.Be honest about how you feel but also let him know that you know what his giving up to make a better life for you both. Good Luck