My mom's boyfriend left us. Just like I thought. But now my mom will have5 kids to raise by herself!!?

Question

My mom had this boyfriend for only 4 months and is now 3 1/2 months pregnant with twins! She has me (14), my brother (9), and my little sister (5) and is now pregnant with twins! My siblings and I all have different dads and now the twins have a different dad too. Why does my mom keep doing this. She'll go out and party and hook up with who ever she wants. I'm scared for my siblings and my future. Please help.

Answer 1

I'm sorry that your mom is so irresponsible.  It's not your fault and it's not your job to bring up your younger sibling - you should still be being a child.  However this is the situation you are in and you have to do your best.  Take care of your younger siblings as they look up to you as the oldest and rely on you.  You will learn so much from it and will have a wonderful relationship with them that will last into adulthood.  You will always be there for them and as they grow they will be there for you.  Work hard in school so that you can get good grades and try to get a scholarship for college.  When you are a little older get a part-time job to save some money for yourself (and help you mom a little if you feel she is responsible enough not to waste your money).  Try to make a little time for yourself.  When your mom is looking after the kids take that opportunity and go out with your friends.  Tell a teacher or somebody in your extended family about what you have to do for your family - maybe they can help or talk to your mom for you to make her understand.  Keep the pressure on your mom - explain to her calmly and fairly that you love your siblings and will take care of them but it is affecting your life and she shouldn't be getting pregnany if she can't care for the babies herself.

Answer 2

well, your mom will be able to get child support if she dont already for you 2 and she will be able to get double from thst other guy, unless she dont know who the baby daddy is

Answer 3

ur mom is a s**t bucket and she can get child support or sumthing

Answer 4

ur mom is a s**t, im dead serious...

she should put u guys in child support of something

even the babies wen there born

good luck!! :)

Answer 5

maybe what u can do is look for places that will let u all be adopted together so that u got somebody who will care for u all instead of u having to do it

Answer 6

wow that is tough

there is a certain group of women that do not know how to live without a man unfortunately

i am sorry

true though

talk to a friends mom or a trusted teacher

ask your mom to get help

call either of your grammas to ask for help

call your dad if you can

you and all of your siblings need help

Answer 7

I'm sorry, but your mother is a s**t, pure and simple.  It's going to be tough for you and your siblings, for sure, because twins are a hellacious lot of work.  Try not to get sucked into to being their "other" mom.  Work REALLY, REALLY hard in school, and see if you can get a scholarship to college -- you're going to need it if you are going to get out from under your mom's bad decisions, and be able to help your siblings.